15. Marriage
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4027No grade recorded
«أَرَادَ عُثْمَانُ بْنُ مَظْعُونٍ أَنْ يَتَبَتَّلَ فَنَهَاهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْهُ» قَالَ سَعْدٌ «فَلَوْ أَجَازَ لَهُ ذَلِكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لَاخْتَصَيْنَا»
✧ Uthman b. Maz'un wanted to practice celibacy, and the Messenger of God ﷺ forbade him from that. Sa'd said: "Had the Messenger of God ﷺ permitted him that, we would have castrated ourselves."
«كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يَأْمُر بِالباءَةِ وَيَنْهَى عَنِ التَّبَتُّلِ نَهْياً شَدِيداً وَيَقُولُ «تَزَوَّجُوا الوَدُودَ الوَلُودَ فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ الأنبِياءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ»
✧ The Messenger of God ﷺ used to enjoin marriage and strictly forbid celibacy, saying: "Marry the affectionate and prolific, for I will outnumber the prophets on the Day of Resurrection."
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فِي قَوْلِهِ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَنْ لَا تَعُولُوا قَالَ «أَنْ لَا تَجُورُوا»
✧ From the Prophet ﷺ regarding His saying: "That is more likely to prevent you from doing injustice" (Quran 4:3), he said: "That you do not transgress."
«ثَلَاثَةٌ حَقٌّ عَلَى اللَّهِ أَنْ يُعِينَهُمُ الْمُجَاهِدُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَالنَّاكِحُ يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَسْتَعِفَّ وَالْمُكَاتَبُ يُرِيدُ الْأَدَاءَ»
✧ Three have a right upon God to help them: the one striving in the path of God, the one marrying seeking chastity, and the slave in a contract of emancipation who intends to pay.
«إِنَّ الدُّنْيَا كُلَّهَا مَتَاعٌ وَخَيْرُ مَتَاعِ الدُّنْيَا الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ»
✧ All the world is a provision, and the best provision of the world is a righteous wife.
«أَرْبَعٌ مِنَ السَّعَادَةِ الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ وَالْمَسْكَنُ الْوَاسِعُ وَالْجَارُ الصَّالِحُ وَالْمَرْكَبُ الْهَنِيءُ وَأَرْبَعٌ مِنَ الشَّقَاوَةِ الْجَارُ السُّوءُ وَالْمَرْأَةُ السُّوءُ وَالْمَسْكَنُ الضِّيقُ وَالْمَرْكَبُ السُّوءُ»
✧ Four are from happiness: a righteous wife, a spacious dwelling, a good neighbor, and a comfortable mount. Four are from misery: a bad neighbor, a bad wife, a cramped dwelling, and a bad mount.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4033No grade recorded
«إِنْ كَانَ فِي شَيْءٍ فَفِي الرَّبْعِ وَالْفَرَسِ وَالْمَرْأَةِ»
✧ If there is ill omen in anything, it is in the house, the horse, and the woman.
«خَيْرُهُنَّ أَيْسَرُهُنَّ صَدَاقًا»
✧ The best of them is the one with the least dowry.
أَنَّ جُلَيْبِيبًا كَانَ امْرَأً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ وَكَانَ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَيَتَحَدَّثُ إِلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَبُو بَرْزَةَ فَقُلْتُ لِامْرَأَتِي لَا يَدْخُلَنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ جُلَيْبِيبٌ قَالَ فَكَانَ أَصْحَابُ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ لِأَحَدِهِمْ أَيِّمٌ لَمْ يُزَوِّجْهَا حَتَّى يَعْلَمَ أَلِرَسُولِ ﷺ فِيهَا حَاجَةٌ أَمْ لَا؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ لِرَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ «يَا فُلَانُ زَوِّجْنِي ابْنَتَكَ» قَالَ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ «إِنِّي لَسْتُ لِنَفْسِي أُرِيدُهَا» قَالَ فَلِمَنْ؟ قَالَ «لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ» قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حَتَّى أَسْتَأْمِرَ أُمَّهَا فَأَتَاهَا فَقَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكِ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَتْ لِنَفْسِهِ يُرِيدُهَا قَالَتْ فَلِمَنْ يُرِيدُهَا؟ قَالَ لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ قَالَتْ حَلْقَى أَلِجُلَيْبِيبٍ؟ قَالَتْ لَا لَعَمْرُ اللَّهِ لَا أُزَوِّجُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَلَمَّا قَامَ أَبُوهَا لَيَأْتِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَتِ الْفَتَاةُ مِنْ خِدْرِهَا لِأُمِّهَا مَنْ خَطَبَنِي إِلَيْكُمَا قَالَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَتْ أَتَرُدُّونَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمْرَهُ ادْفَعُونِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَإِنَّهُ لَنْ يُضَيِّعَنِي فَذَهَبَ أَبُوهَا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ شَأْنُكَ بِهَا فَزَوَّجَهَا جُلَيْبِيبًا قَالَ حَمَّادٌ قَالَ إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ هَلْ تَدْرِي مَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ قَالَ وَمَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ؟ قَالَ «اللَّهُمَّ صُبَّ الْخَيْرَ عَلَيْهِمَا صَبًّا وَلَا تَجْعَلْ عَيْشَهُمَا كَدًّا» قَالَ ثَابِتٌ فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ فَبَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي غَزَاةٍ قَالَ «تَفْقِدُونَ مِنْ أَحَدٍ؟ » قَالُوا لَا قَالَ «لَكِنِّي أَفْقِدُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَاطْلُبُوهُ فِي الْقَتْلَى» فَوَجَدُوهُ إِلَى جَنْبِ سَبْعَةٍ قَدْ قَتَلَهُمْ ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَقَتَلَ سَبْعَةً ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ ? هَذَا مِنِّي وَأَنَا مِنْهُ» يَقُولُهَا سَبْعًا فَوَضَعَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى سَاعِدَيْهِ مَا لَهُ سَرِيرٌ إِلَّا سَاعِدَيْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَتَّى وَضَعَهُ فِي قَبْرِهِ
✧ Julaybib was a man from the Ansar who used to enter upon women and converse with them. Abu Barzah said: I said to my wife, "Julaybib must never enter upon you." When one of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ had an unmarried woman, he would not marry her off until he knew whether the Messenger of God ﷺ wanted her or not. One day the Messenger of God ﷺ said to a man from the Ansar, "O so-and-so, marry your daughter to me." He said, "Yes, with pleasure and delight." He said, "I do not want her for myself." He said, "For whom then?" He said, "For Julaybib." He said, "O Messenger of God, let me consult her mother." He went to her and said, "The Messenger of God ﷺ is proposing to your daughter." She said, "Yes, with pleasure and delight." He said, "He does not want her for himself." She said, "For whom does he want her?" He said, "For Julaybib." She said, "May she be shaven! For Julaybib? No, by the life of God, I will not marry Julaybib." When her father got up to go to the Prophet ﷺ, the girl said from behind her curtain to her mother, "Who proposed to me?" They said, "The Messenger of God ﷺ." She said, "Will you reject the command of the Messenger of God ﷺ? Give me to the Messenger of God ﷺ, for he will not waste me." Her father went to the Prophet ﷺ and said, "She is yours to decide." So he married her to Julaybib. Hammad said: Ishaq b. 'Abd Allah b. Abi Talhah said, "Do you know what he supplicated for her?" He said, "What did he supplicate for her?" He said, "O God, pour good upon them abundantly and do not make their livelihood difficult." Thabit said: So he married her to him. While the Messenger of God ﷺ was on a campaign, he said, "Do you miss anyone?" They said, "No." He said, "But I miss Julaybib. Look for him among the slain." They found him beside seven whom he had killed, and then they killed him. The Messenger of God ﷺ said, "He killed seven and then they killed him? This man is from me and I am from him," saying it seven times. The Messenger of God ﷺ placed him on his forearms, for he had no bier except the forearms of the Messenger of God ﷺ, until he placed him in his grave.
«تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ لِجَمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ»
✧ A woman is married for four things: her beauty, her lineage, her wealth, and her religion. Choose the one with religion, may your hands be dusty.
«تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى مَالِهَا وَتُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى جَمَالِهَا وَتُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى دِينِهَا خُذْ ذَاتَ الدِّينِ وَالْخُلُقِ تَرِبَتْ يَمِينُكَ»
✧ A woman is married for her wealth, a woman is married for her beauty, and a woman is married for her religion. Take the one with religion and character, may your right hand be dusty.
قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَا تَتَزَوَّجُ فِي الْأَنْصَارِ قَالَ «إِنَّ فِي أَعْيُنِهِمْ شَيْئًا»
✧ It was said, "O Messenger of God, will you not marry among the Ansar?" He said, "There is something in their eyes."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4039No grade recorded
تَأَيَّمَتْ حَفْصَةُ بِنْتُ عُمَرَ مِنْ خُنَيْسِ بْنِ حُذَافَةَ السَّهْمِيِّ رَجُلٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ مِمَّنْ شَهِدَ بَدْرًا وَتُوُفِّيَ بِالْمَدِينَةِ قَالَ عُمَرُ فَلَقِيتُ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ عَفَّانَ فَعَرَضْتُ عَلَيْهِ حَفْصَةَ فَقُلْتُ إِنْ شِئْتَ أَنْكَحْتُكَ حَفْصَةَ بِنْتَ عُمَرَ فَقَالَ سَأَنْظُرُ فِي ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَلَبِثْتُ لَيَالِيَ فَلَقِيَنِي فَقَالَ مَا أُرِيدُ النِّكَاحَ يَوْمِي هَذَا قَالَ عُمَرُ فَلَقِيتُ أَبَا بَكْرٍ فَقُلْتُ إِنْ شِئْتَ أَنْكَحْتُكَ حَفْصَةَ بِنْتَ عُمَرَ قَالَ فَلَمْ يَرْجِعْ إِلَيَّ شَيْئًا فَكُنْتُ أَوْجَدَ عَلَيْهِ مِنِّي عَلَى عُثْمَانَ فَلَبِثْتُ لَيَالِيَ فَخَطَبَهَا إِلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَنْكَحْتُهَا إِيَّاهُ فَلَقِيَنِي أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَقَالَ لَعَلَّكَ وَجَدْتَ فِي نَفْسِكَ حِينَ عَرَضْتَ عَلَيَّ حَفْصَةَ فَلَمْ أَرْجِعْ إِلَيْكَ شَيْئًا قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَإِنَّهُ «لَمْ يَمْنَعْنِي أَنْ أَرْجِعَ إِلَيْكَ شَيْئًا لَمَّا عَرَضْتَ عَلَيَّ إِلَّا أَنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَذْكُرُهَا وَلَمْ أَكُنْ أُفْشِي سِرَّ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَلَوْ تَرَكَهَا لَنَكَحْتُهَا»
✧ Hafsa bt. Umar was widowed from Khunays b. Hudhafa al-Sahmi, a man among the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ who had witnessed Badr and died in Madinah. Umar said: I met Uthman b. Affan and offered Hafsa to him, saying, "If you wish, I will marry you to Hafsa bt. Umar." He said, "I will consider that." He said: I waited some nights, and he met me and said, "I do not want to marry this day of mine." Umar said: I met Abu Bakr and said, "If you wish, I will marry you to Hafsa bt. Umar." He said: He did not give me any reply, and I was more upset with him than with Uthman. I waited some nights, and then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ proposed to her to me, and I married her to him. Abu Bakr met me and said, "Perhaps you felt something in yourself when you offered Hafsa to me and I did not give you any reply." He said: I said, "Yes." He said: "Nothing prevented me from giving you any reply when you offered her to me except that I had heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ mention her, and I would not divulge the secret of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. Had he left her, I would have married her."
«اكْتُمِ الْخِطْبَةَ ثُمَّ تَوَضَّأْ فَأَحْسِنْ وضُوءَكَ ثُمَّ صَلِّ مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكَ ثُمَّ احْمَدْ رَبَّكَ وَمَجِّدْهُ ثُمَّ قُلْ اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلَا أَقْدِرُ وَتَعْلَمُ وَلَا أَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ فَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ فِيَ فُلَانَةِ وَتُسَمِّيهَا بِاسْمِهَا خَيْرًا لِي فِي دِينِي وَدُنْيَايَ وَآخِرَتِي فَاقْدُرْهَا لِي وَإِنْ كَانَ غَيْرُهَا خَيْرًا لِي مِنْهَا فِي دِينِي وَدُنْيَايَ وَآخِرَتِي فَاقْضِ لِي ذَلِكَ»
✧ Keep the proposal secret, then perform ablution and perfect your ablution, then pray what God has decreed for you, then praise your Lord and glorify Him, then say: O God, You have power and I have no power, You know and I do not know, and You are the Knower of the unseen. If You see in so-and-so (and you name her by her name) good for me in my religion, my worldly life, and my hereafter, then decree her for me; and if someone other than her is better for me than her in my religion, my worldly life, and my hereafter, then decree that for me."
أَنَّ رَجُلًا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَقَالَ لَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ فِي أَعْيُنِ الْأَنْصَارِ شَيْئًا»
✧ A man wanted to marry a woman from the Ansar, and the Prophet ﷺ said to him, "Look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansar."
رَأَيْتُ مُحَمَّدَ بْنَ مَسْلَمَةَ يُطَارِدُ ابْنَةَ الضَّحَّاكِ عَلَى إِنْجَارٍ مِنْ أَنَاجِيرِ الْمَدِينَةِ يُبْصِرُهَا فَقُلْتُ لَهُ أَتَفْعَلُ هَذَا وَأَنْتَ صَاحِبُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «إِذَا أَلْقَى اللَّهُ فِي قَلْبِ امْرِئٍ خِطْبَةَ امْرَأَةٍ فَلَا بَأْسَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا»
✧ I saw Muhammad ibn Muslimah chasing the daughter of Al-Dhahak on a running horse from the outskirts of the city, observing her. So I said to him, "Are you doing this while you are the companion of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ?" He replied, "Yes, I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ saying, 'When Allah places a speech of desire in the heart of a person towards a woman, it is not wrong for him to look at her.'"
أَنَّ الْمُغِيرَةَ بْنَ شُعْبَةَ خَطَبَ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ لَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا»
✧ Al-Mughira b. Shuba proposed to a woman, and the Prophet ﷺ said to him, "Go and look at her, for it is more likely to create affection between you two."
أَنَّ رَجُلًا أَتَى النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ لَهُ نِكَاحَ امْرَأَةٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَقَالَ «انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ فِي أَعْيُنِ الْأَنْصَارِ شَيْئًا»
✧ A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and mentioned to him marriage to a woman from the Ansar. He said, "Look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansar."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4045Hasan sahih
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لِفَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ «اذْهَبِي إِلَى أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ وَلَا تُفَوِّتِينَا بِنَفْسِكِ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to Fatima bt. Qays, "Go to Umm Sharik, and do not let us miss out on you."
«لَا يَسْتَامُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى سَوْمِ أَخِيهِ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ وَلَا تَسْأَلُ الْمَرْأَةَ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَكْتَفِئَ مَا فِي صَحْفَتِهَا»
✧ A man should not bargain over the bargain of his brother, nor should a man propose over the proposal of his brother, nor should a woman ask for the divorce of her sister in order to overturn what is in her plate."
«لَا يَخْطُبْ أَحَدُكُمْ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ»
✧ None of you should propose over the proposal of his brother."
«نَهَى أَنْ يَسْتَامَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى سَوْمِ أَخِيهِ أَوْ يَخْطُبَ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ»
✧ He forbade that a man bargain over the bargain of his brother, or propose over the proposal of his brother."
أَنَّ أَبَا عَمْرِو بْنَ حَفْصٍ طَلَّقَهَا الْبَتَّةَ وَهُوَ غَائِبٌ بِالشَّامِ فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَيْهَا وَكِيلَهُ بِشَعِيرٍ فَسَخِطَتْهُ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ مَا لَكَ عَلَيْنَا مِنْ شَيْءٍ فَجَاءَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَتْ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «لَيْسَ لَكِ عَلَيْهِ نَفَقَةٌ» وَأَمَرَهَا أَنْ تَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ ثُمَّ قَالَ «تِلْكَ امْرَأَةٌ يَغْشَاهَا أَصْحَابِي فَاعْتَدِّي عِنْدَ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَإِنَّهُ رَجُلٌ أَعْمَى فَإِذَا حَلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي» قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا حَلَلْتُ ذَكَرْتُ لَهُ أَنَّ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنَ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ وَأَبَا جَهْمٍ خَطَبَانِي فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَمَا أَبُو جَهْمٍ فَلَا يَضَعُ عَصَاهُ عَنْ عَاتِقِهِ وَأَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَصُعْلُوكٌ لَا مَالُ لَهُ انْكِحِي أُسَامَةَ بْنَ زَيْدٍ» قَالَتْ فَكَرِهْتُهُ ثُمَّ قَالَ «انْكِحِي أُسَامَةَ» فَنَكَحْتُهُ فَجَعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا وَاغْتَبَطْتُ بِهِ
✧ Abu Amr b. Hafs divorced her irrevocably while he was absent in Syria. He sent his agent to her with barley, and she was displeased with it. He said, "By God, you have no claim on us." She went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and mentioned that to him, and he said, "You are not entitled to maintenance from him." He ordered her to observe her waiting period in the house of Umm Sharik. Then he said, "That is a woman whom my Companions visit. Observe your waiting period with Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man. When you become lawful, notify me." She said: When I became lawful, I mentioned to him that Muawiya b. Abi Sufyan and Abu Jahm had proposed to me. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "As for Abu Jahm, he does not put down his stick from his shoulder; and as for Muawiya, he is destitute, with no wealth. Marry Usama b. Zayd." She said: I disliked him. Then he said, "Marry Usama." So I married him, and God put good in him, and I was pleased with him.
«لَا يَسْتَامُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى سَوْمِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَشْتَرِيَ أَوْ يَتْرُكَ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَنْكِحَ أَوْ يَذَرَ»
✧ A man should not bargain over the bargain of his brother until he buys or leaves, and he should not propose over the proposal of his brother until he marries or gives up."
«لَا يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ الْخَاطِبُ الْأَوَّلُ أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ فَيَخْطُبُ»
✧ A man should not propose over the proposal of his brother until the first suitor leaves or gives him permission, then he may propose."
كَانَ إِذَا أَرَادَ الرَّجُلُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ قَالَ لَهُ «بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ»
✧ He used to, when a man wanted to marry, say to him, “May Allah bless you and bless upon you.”
«إِذَا أَدَّبَ الرَّجُلُ أَمَتَهُ وَأَحْسَنَ تَأْدِيبَهَا وَعَلَّمَهَا فَأَحْسَنَ تَعْلِيمَهَا ثُمَّ أَعْتَقَهَا وَتَزَوَّجَهَا كَانَ لَهُ أَجْرَانِ وَإِذَا آمَنَ الرَّجُلُ بِعِيسَى ثُمَّ آمَنَ بِي فَلَهُ أَجْرَانِ وَالْعَبْدُ إِذَا اتَّقَى رَبَّهُ وَأَطَاعَ مَوَالِيَهُ فَلَهُ أَجْرَانِ»
✧ “When a man disciplines his slave woman and disciplines her well, and teaches her and teaches her well, then frees her and marries her, he has two rewards. And when a man believes in Jesus then believes in me, he has two rewards. And a slave, when he fears his Lord and obeys his masters, has two rewards.”
لَمَّا سَبَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ سَبَايَا بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ وَقَعَتْ جُوَيْرِيَةُ بِنْتُ الْحَارِثِ فِي السَّهْمِ لِثَابِتِ بْنِ قَيْسِ بْنِ الشَّمَّاسِ أَوْ لِابْنِ عَمِّهِ فَكَاتَبَتْ عَلَى نَفْسِهَا وَكَانَتِ امْرَأَةً حُلْوَةً مُلَاحَةً لَا يَكَادُ يَرَاهَا أَحَدٌ إِلَّا أَخَذَتْ بِنَفْسِهِ فَأَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ تَسْتَعِينُهُ فِي كِتَابَتِهَا فَوَاللَّهِ مَا هُوَ إِلَّا أَنْ وَقَفَتْ عَلَى بَابِ الْحُجْرَةِ فَرَأَيْتُهَا كَرِهْتُهَا وَعَرَفْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ سَيَرَى مِنْهَا مِثْلَ مَا رَأَيْتُ فَقَالَتْ جُوَيْرِيَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ? كَانَ مِنَ الْأَمْرِ مَا قَدْ عَرَفْتَ فَكَاتَبْتُ نَفْسِي فَجِئْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَسْتَعِينُهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَوَ مَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ؟ » فَقَالَتْ وَمَا هُوَ؟ قَالَ «أَتَزَوَّجُكِ وَأَقْضِيَ عَنْكِ كِتَابَتَكِ» فَقَالَتْ نَعَمْ قَالَ «قَدْ فَعَلْتُ» قَالَتْ فَبَلَغَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ ذَلِكَ قَالُوا أَصْهَارُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَرْسَلُوا مَا كَانَ فِي أَيْدِيهِمْ مِنْ سَبَايَا بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ قَالَتْ فَلَقَدْ عُتِقَ بِتَزْوِيجِهِ مِائَةُ أَهْلِ بَيْتٍ مِنْ بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ قَالَتْ فَمَا أَعْلَمُ امْرَأَةً كَانَتْ أَعْظَمَ بَرَكَةً عَلَى قَوْمِهَا مِنْهَا
✧ When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ captured the captives of Banu al-Mustaliq, Juwayriyah bt. al-Harith fell to the share of Thabit b. Qays b. al-Shammas or to his cousin. She made a contract to purchase her freedom. She was a sweet, beautiful woman; hardly would anyone see her but that she captivated him. She came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ seeking his help in her contract. By Allah, no sooner had she stood at the door of the chamber but I saw her and disliked her, and I knew that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would see from her what I saw. Juwayriyah said, “O Messenger of Allah, the matter has occurred as you know; I contracted for my freedom, and I have come to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ seeking his help.” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Is there not something better than that?” She said, “What is it?” He said, “I marry you and pay your contract.” She said, “Yes.” He said, “I have done it.” She said, “That reached the Muslims, and they said, ‘In-laws of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.’ So they sent what was in their hands of the captives of Banu al-Mustaliq.” She said, “By his marriage, one hundred households of Banu al-Mustaliq were freed. I do not know any woman who was a greater blessing upon her people than her.”
لَمَّا سَبَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ سَبَايَا بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ وَقَعَتْ جُوَيْرِيَةُ بِنْتُ الْحَارِثِ فِي سَهْمٍ لِثَابِتِ بْنِ قَيْسِ بْنِ شَمَّاسٍ أَوْ لِابْنِ عَمِّهِ فَكَاتَبَتْ عَلَى نَفْسِهَا وَكَانَتِ امْرَأَةً حُلْوَةً لَا يَكَادُ يَرَاهَا أَحَدٌ إِلَّا أَخَذَتْ بِنَفْسِهِ فَأَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ تَسْتَعِينُهُ فِي كِتَابَتِهَا فَوَاللَّهِ مَا هُوَ إِلَّا أَنْ وَقَفَتْ عَلَى بَابِ الْحُجْرَةِ فَرَأَيْتُهَا كَرِهْتُهَا وَعَرَفْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ سَيَرَى مِنْهَا مَا رَأَيْتُ فَقَالَتْ جُوَيْرِيَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كَانَ مِنَ الْأَمْرِ مَا قَدْ عَرَفْتَ فَكَاتَبْتُ عَلَى نَفْسِي فَجِئْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَسْتَعِينُهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَوَ مَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ؟ » فَقَالَتْ وَمَا هُوَ؟ فَقَالَ «أَتَزَوَّجُكِ وَأَقْضِي عَنْكِ كِتَابَتَكِ» فَقَالَتْ نَعَمْ قَالَ «قَدْ فَعَلْتُ» فَلَمَّا بَلَغَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ ذَلِكَ قَالُوا أَصْهَارُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَرْسَلُوا مَا كَانَ فِي أَيْدِيهِمْ مِنْ سَبَايَا بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ فَلَقَدْ عُتِقَ بِتَزْوِيجِهِ مِائَةُ أَهْلِ بَيْتٍ مِنْ بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ قَالَتْ «فَمَا أَعْلَمُ امْرَأَةً كَانَتْ أَعْظَمَ بَرَكَةً عَلَى قَوْمِهَا مِنْهَا»
✧ When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ captured the captives of Banu al-Mustaliq, Juwayriyah bt. al-Harith fell to a share for Thabit b. Qays b. Shammas or for his cousin. She made a contract to purchase her freedom. She was a sweet woman; hardly would anyone see her but that she captivated him. She came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ seeking his help in her contract. By Allah, no sooner had she stood at the door of the chamber but I saw her and disliked her, and I knew that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would see from her what I saw. Juwayriyah said, “O Messenger of Allah, the matter has occurred as you know; I contracted for my freedom, and I have come to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ seeking his help.” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Is there not something better than that?” She said, “What is it?” He said, “I marry you and pay your contract.” She said, “Yes.” He said, “I have done it.” When that reached the Muslims, they said, “In-laws of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.” So they sent what was in their hands of the captives of Banu al-Mustaliq. By his marriage, one hundred households of Banu al-Mustaliq were freed. She said, “I do not know any woman who was a greater blessing upon her people than her.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4056Hasan sahih
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي أَصَبْتُ امْرَأَةً ذَاتَ حَسَبٍ وَجَمَالٍ وَلَكِنَّهَا لَا تَلِدُ أَفَأَتَزَوَّجُهَا؟ فَنَهَاهُ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ فَقَالَ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ فَنَهَاهُ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ فَقَالَ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجُوا الْوَدُودَ الْوَلُودَ فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمْ»
✧ A man came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have found a woman of noble lineage and beauty, but she does not bear children. Should I marry her?” He forbade him. Then he came a second time and said the like, and he forbade him. Then he came a third time and said the like. He ﷺ said, “Marry the loving, the prolific, for I will boast of your numbers.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4057Hasan sahih
أَنَّ رَجُلًا جَاءَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي أَصَبْتُ امْرَأَةً ذَاتَ جَمَالٍ وَإِنَّهَا لَا تَلِدُ قَالَ أَأَتَزَوَّجُهَا؟ فَنَهَاهُ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ فَنَهَاهُ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ فَنَهَاهُ وَقَالَ «تَزَوَّجِ الْوَدُودَ الْوَلُودَ فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمْ»
✧ A man came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have found a woman of beauty, but she does not bear children. Should I marry her?” He forbade him. Then he came a second time, and he forbade him. Then he came a third time, and he forbade him, and said, “Marry the loving, the prolific, for I will boast of your numbers.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4058No grade recorded
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَهَا فِي شَوَّالٍ وَبَنَى بِهَا فِي شَوَّالٍ فَأَيُّ نِسَائِهِ كَانَ أَحْظَى عِنْدَهُ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her in Shawwal and consummated the marriage with her in Shawwal. So which of his wives was more favored with him?
«خَطَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى جُلَيْبِيبٍ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ إِلَى أَبِيهَا قَالَ حَتَّى أَسْتَأْمِرَ أُمَّهَا قَالَ فَنَعَمْ إِذًا فَذَهَبَ إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهَا فَقَالَتْ لَا هَا اللَّهِ إِذًا وَقَدْ مَنَعْنَاهَا فُلَانًا وَفُلَانًا قَالَ وَالْجَارِيَةُ فِي سِتْرِهَا تَسْمَعُ فَقَالَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ أَتَرُدُّونَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمْرَهُ إِنْ كَانَ قَدْ رَضِيَهُ لَكُمْ فَأَنْكِحُوهُ قَالَ فَكَأَنَّهَا حَلَّتْ عَنْ أَبَوَيْهَا فَقَالَا صَدَقْتِ فَذَهَبَ أَبُوهَا إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنْ رَضِيتَهُ لَنَا رَضِينَاهُ فَقَالَ إِنِّي أَرْضَاهُ فَزَوَّجَهَا فَفَزِعَ أَهْلُ الْمَدِينَةِ وَخَرَجَتْ امْرَأَةُ جُلَيْبِيبٍ فِيهَا فَوَجَدَتْ زَوْجَهَا وَقَدْ قُتِلَ وَتَحْتَهُ قَتْلَى مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ قَدْ قَتَلَهُمْ قَالَ أَنَسُ بْنُ مَالِكٍ فَمَا رَأَيْتُ بِالْمَدِينَةِ ثَيِّبًا أَنْفَقَ مِنْهَا
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ proposed on behalf of Julaybib to a woman of the Ansar, to her father. He said, “Until I consult her mother.” He said, “Yes, then.” So he went to his wife and mentioned that to her. She said, “No, by Allah, never! We have refused her to so-and-so and so-and-so.” She said, and the girl was behind her curtain, listening. The girl said, “Will you reject the command of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ? If he has approved him for you, then marry him.” He said, “It was as if she released her parents.” They both said, “She has spoken truth.” Her father went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, “If you approve him for us, we approve.” He said, “I approve him.” So he married her. The people of Madinah were alarmed, and the wife of Julaybib went out among them. She found her husband killed, and beneath him were slain from the polytheists whom he had killed. Anas b. Malik said, “I have not seen in Madinah a previously married woman more desirable than her.”
أَنَّ عَبْدَ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنَ عَوْفٍ جَاءَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَبِهِ أَثَرُ صُفْرَةٍ فَسَأَلَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّهُ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «كَمْ سُقْتَ إِلَيْهَا» قَالَ زِنَةُ نَوَاةٍ مِنْ ذَهَبٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَوْلِمْ وَلَوْ بِشَاةٍ»
✧ 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Awf came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ with a trace of yellow perfume. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ asked him, and he informed him that he had married a woman from the Ansar. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to him, “How much did you give her as a dowry?” He said, “The weight of a date pit of gold.” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to him, “Hold a wedding feast, even with a sheep.”
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «أَوْلَمَ عَلَى صَفِيَّةَ بِسَوِيقٍ وَتَمْرٍ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ held a wedding feast for Safiyyah with sawiq and dates.
«أَوْلَمَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَوْسَعَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ خُبْزًا وَلَحْمًا كَمَا كَانَ يَصْنَعُ إِذَا تَزَوَّجَ فَأَتَى حُجْرَ أُمِّهَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ فَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَيَدْعُونَ لَهُ ثُمَّ رَجَعَ وَأَنَا مَعَهُ فَلَمَّا انْتَهَيْنَا إِلَى الْبَيْتِ إِذَا رَجُلَانِ يَذْكُرَانِ بَيْنَهُمَا الْحَدِيثَ فِي نَاحِيَةِ الْبَيْتِ فَلَمَّا أَبْصَرَهُمَا وَلَّى رَاجِعًا وَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ آيَةَ الْحِجَابِ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ held a wedding feast and provided the Muslims with ample bread and meat, as he used to do when he married. He went to the chambers of the Mothers of the Believers, greeted them, and they supplicated for him. Then he returned, and I was with him. When we reached the house, there were two men conversing in a corner of the house. When he saw them, he turned back. Then Allah revealed the verse of the veil.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَعْتَقَ صَفِيَّةَ وَجَعَلَ عِتْقَهَا صَدَاقَهَا وَأَوْلَمَ عَلَيْهَا بِحَيْسٍ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ freed Safiyyah and made her emancipation her dowry, and held a wedding feast for her with hays.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «أَوْلَمَ عَلَى صَفِيَّةَ بِسَوِيقٍ وَتَمْرٍ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ gave a wedding feast for Safiyya with sawiq and dates.
أَنَّهَا لَمَّا قَدِمَتِ الْمَدِينَةَ أَخْبَرَتْهُمْ أَنَّهَا بِنْتُ أَبِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ الْمُغِيرَةَ فَكَذَّبُوهَا وَجَعَلُوا يَقُولُونَ مَا أَكْذَبَ الْغَرَائِبَ ثُمَّ أَنْشَأَ نَاسٌ مِنْهُمُ الْحَجَّ فَقَالُوا تَكْتُبِينَ إِلَى أَهْلِكِ فَكَتَبْتُ مَعَهُمْ فَرَجَعُوا إِلَى الْمَدِينَةِ فَصَدَّقُوهَا فَازْدَادَتْ عَلَيْهِمْ كَرَامَةً فَقَالَتْ لَمَّا وَضَعْتُ زَيْنَبَ جَاءَنِي النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يَخْطُبُنِي فَقُلْتُ مَثَلِي لَا يُنْكَحُ أَمَا أَنَّا فَلَا وَلَدَ فِيَّ وَأَنَا غَيُورٌ ذَاتُ عِيَالٍ قَالَ ﷺ «أَنَا أَكْبَرُ مِنْكِ وَأَمَّا الْغَيْرَةُ فَيُذْهِبُهَا اللَّهُ وَأَمَّا الْعِيَالُ فَإِلَى اللَّهِ وَإِلَى رَسُولِهِ» فَتَزَوَّجَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي آتِيكُمُ اللَّيْلَةَ» قَالَتْ فَأَخْرَجْتُ حَبَّاتٍ مِنْ شَعِيرٍ كَانَتْ فِي جَرَّتِي وَأَخْرَجْتُ شَحْمًا فَعَصَدْتُ لَهُ قَالَ فَبَاتَ ثُمَّ أَصْبَحَ فَقَالَ حِينَ أَصْبَحَ «إِنَّ بِكِ عَلَى أَهْلِكِ كَرَامَةً إِنْ شِئْتِ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ وَإِنَّ أُسَبِّعْ لَكِ أُسَبِّعُ لِنِسَائِي»
✧ That when she arrived in Madinah, she informed them that she was the daughter of Abu Umayya b. al-Mughira, but they disbelieved her and began to say, "How deceitful the strangers are!" Then some of them decided to go on Hajj and said, "Will you write to your family?" So I wrote with them, and they returned to Madinah and believed her, and she increased in honor for them. She said: When I gave birth to Zaynab, the Prophet ﷺ came to me to propose. I said, "A woman like me cannot be married. As for me, I have no child in me, and I am jealous, with dependents." He ﷺ said, "I am older than you. As for jealousy, Allah will remove it. As for dependents, they are to Allah and His Messenger." So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her, and he said, "I will come to you tonight." She said, "So I brought out grains of barley that were in my jar and some fat, and I made 'asida for him." He spent the night, then morning came, and when he rose he said, "You have honor with your family. If you wish, I will give you seven nights; but if I give you seven, I will give seven to my wives."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4066Hasan sahih
«أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ»
✧ Publicize the marriage.
«يَا بَنِي بَيَاضَةَ أَنْكِحُوا أَبَا هِنْدٍ وَانْكِحُوا إِلَيْهِ» وَكَانَ حَجَّامًا
✧ O Banu Bayada, give Abu Hind in marriage and marry into his family." And he was a cupper.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4068No grade recorded
«لَا تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَلَا عَلَى خَالَتِهَا وَلَا تَسْأَلُ الْمَرْأَةُ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَكْتَفِئَ مَا فِي صَحْفَتِهَا فَإِنَّ لَهَا مَا كُتِبَ لَهَا»
One should not combine in marriage a woman with her father's sister, or her mother's sister. (Using translation from Muslim 1408e)
«لَا تَسْأَلِ الْمَرْأَةُ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَسْتَفْرِغَ مَا فِي صَحْفَتِهَا وَلِتُنْكَحَ فَإِنَّ لَهَا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهَا»
✧ A woman should not ask for the divorce of her sister to empty her plate; rather she should marry, for she has what is decreed for her.
«لَا تَسْأَلِ الْمَرْأَةُ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَسْتَفْرِغَ مَا فِي صَحْفَتِهَا فَإِنَّ الْمُسْلِمَةَ أُخْتُ الْمُسْلِمَةِ»
✧ A woman should not ask for the divorce of her sister to empty her plate, for the Muslim woman is the sister of the Muslim woman.
«خَيْرُ النِّكَاحِ أَيْسَرُهُ وَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ لِرَجُلٍ » أَتَرْضَى أَنْ أُزَوِّجَكَ فُلَانَةً «قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ لَهَا أَتَرْضَيْنَ أَنْ أُزَوِّجَكَ فُلَانًا» قَالَتْ نَعَمْ فَزَوَّجَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَلَمْ يَفْرِضْ صَدَاقًا فَدَخَلَ بِهَا فَلَمْ يُعْطِهَا شَيْئًا فَلَمَّا حَضَرَتْهُ الْوَفَاةُ قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ زَوَّجَنِي فُلَانَةً وَلَمْ أَعْطِهَا شَيْئًا وَقَدْ أُعْطِيتُهَا سَهْمِي مِنْ خَيْبَرَ فَكَانَ لَهُ سَهْمٌ بِخَيْبَرَ فَأَخَذَتْهُ فَبَاعَتْهُ فَبَلَغَ مِائَةَ أَلْفٍ
✧ The best marriage is the easiest. The Prophet ﷺ said to a man, "Would you like me to marry you to so-and-so?" He said, "Yes." He said to her, "Would you like me to marry you to so-and-so?" She said, "Yes." So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her to him, and he did not stipulate a dower, and he consummated the marriage without giving her anything. When death attended him, he said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married me to so-and-so, and I have not given her anything. I have given her my share of Khaybar." He had a share in Khaybar, so she took it and sold it, and it reached a hundred thousand.
أَنَّهُ سَأَلَ عَائِشَةَ عَنْ قَوْلِ اللَّهِ {وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثَلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ} قَالَتْ «يَا ابْنَ أُخْتِي هَذِهِ الْيَتِيمَةُ تَكُونُ فِي حِجْرِ وَلِيِّهَا تُشَارِكُهُ فِي مَالِهِ فَيُعْجِبُهُ مَالُهَا وَجَمَالُهَا فَيُرِيدُ وَلِيِّهَا أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا بِغَيْرِ أَنْ يُقْسِطَ فِي صَدَاقِهَا فَيُعْطِيَهَا مِثْلَ مَا يُعْطِيَهَا غَيْرُهُ فَنُهُوا أَنْ يَنْكِحُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَنْ يُقْسِطُوا لَهُنَّ مَهْرًا أَعْلَى سُنَّتِهِنَّ مِنَ الصَّدَاقِ وَأُمِرُوا أَنْ يَنْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَهُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ سِوَاهُنَّ» قَالَ عُرْوَةُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ ثُمَّ إِنَّ النَّاسَ اسْتَفْتَوْا بَعْدَ هَذِهِ الْآيَةِ فِيهِمْ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ {يَسْتَفْتُونَكَ فِي النِّسَاءِ قُلِ اللَّهُ يُفْتِيكُمْ فِيهِنَّ وَمَا يُتْلَى عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ فِي يَتَامَى النِّسَاءِ اللَّاتِي لَا تُؤْتُونَهُنَّ مَا كُتِبَ لَهُنَّ وَتَرْغَبُونَ أَنْ تَنْكِحُوهُنَّ} قَالَتْ «وَالَّذِي ذَكَرَ اللَّهُ أَنَّهُ يُتْلَى عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ الْآيَةِ الْأُولَى الَّتِي قَالَ فِيهَا {وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ} » قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ «وَقَالَ اللَّهُ فِي الْآيَةِ الْأُخْرَى رَغْبَةَ أَحَدُكُمْ عَنْ يَتِيمَتِهِ الَّتِي فِي حِجْرِهِ حِينَ تَكُونُ قَلِيلَةَ الْمَالِ وَالْجَمَالِ فَنُهُوا أَنْ يَنْكِحُوا مَا رَغِبُوا فِي مَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا بِالْقِسْطِ مِنْ أَجْلِ رَغْبَتِهِمْ عَنْهُنَّ»
✧ He asked 'A'isha about the saying of Allah: {If you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry what is good to you from the women, two, three, or four}. She said, "O son of my sister, this is the orphan girl who is in the care of her guardian, sharing his wealth with him. Her wealth and beauty please him, so her guardian wants to marry her without dealing justly in her dower, giving her the like of what someone else would give her. They were forbidden to marry them unless they deal justly with them, giving them the highest dower of their kind. They were commanded to marry other women who were good to them." 'Urwa said: 'A'isha said: Then the people asked about them after this verse, so Allah revealed: {They ask you about women. Say: Allah gives you a ruling about them and what is recited to you in the Book concerning the orphan women to whom you do not give what is written for them and you desire to marry them}. She said, "And what Allah mentioned that is recited to you in the Book is the first verse in which He said: {If you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry what is good to you from the women}." 'A'isha said, "And Allah said in the other verse about the desire of one of you for his orphan girl who is in his care when she has little wealth and beauty, so they were forbidden to marry those women whose wealth and beauty they desired except with justice, because of their desire for them."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4074Hasan sahih
«أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ نُكِحَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذَنِ وَلِيِّهَا فَنِكَاحُهَا بَاطِلٌ مَرَّتَيْنِ وَلَهَا مَا أَعْطَاهَا بِمَا أَصَابَ مِنْهَا فَإِنْ كَانَتْ بَيْنَهُمَا خُصُومَةٌ فَذَاكَ إِلَى السُّلْطَانِ وَالسُّلْطَانُ وَلِيُّ مَنْ لَا وَلِيَّ لَهُ»
✧ Any woman married without the permission of her guardian, her marriage is invalid, twice. She may keep what he gave her for what he obtained from her. If there is a dispute between them, then that is for the authority, and the authority is the guardian of one who has no guardian.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4075Hasan sahih
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْ عَدْلٍ وَمَا كَانَ مِنْ نِكَاحٍ عَلَى غَيْرِ ذَلِكَ فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ فَإِنْ تَشَاجَرُوا فَالسُّلْطَانُ وَلِيُّ مَنْ لَا وَلِيَّ لَهُ»
✧ There is no marriage except with a guardian and two just witnesses. Any marriage on other than that is invalid. If they dispute, the authority is the guardian of one who has no guardian.
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ»
✧ There is no marriage except with a guardian.
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ»
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian.
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ»
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4079Hasan sahih
«تُسْتَأْمَرُ الْيَتِيمَةُ فِي نَفْسِهَا فَإِنْ سَكَتَتْ فَهُوَ رِضَاهَا وَإِنَّ أَبَتْ فَلَا جَوَازَ عَلَيْهَا»
"The Messenger of Allah said: 'An orphan girl should be consulted with regard to marriage, and if she remains silent, that is her permission. If she refuses then she is not to be forced.'" (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3270)
«اسْتَأْمِرُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَبْضَاعِهِنَّ» قِيلَ إِنَّ الْبِكْرَ تَسْتَحْيِي قَالَ «سُكُوتُهَا إِقْرَارُهَا»
✧ Consult women about their intimate parts. It was said, "The virgin is shy." He said, "Her silence is her consent."
أَنَّهَا سَأَلَتِ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ عَنِ الْبِكْرِ تَخْطُبُ فَقَالَتْ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ تُسْتَأْمَرُ النِّسَاءُ فِي أَبْضَاعِهِنَّ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ الْبِكْرُ تَسْتَحِي فَتَسْكُتُ قَالَ «سُكُوتُهَا إِقْرَارُهَا»
✧ She asked the Prophet ﷺ about a virgin being sought in marriage. She said: The Prophet ﷺ said, "Women are to be consulted about their intimate parts." She said, "O Messenger of God, the virgin is shy and remains silent." He said, "Her silence is her consent."
إِنَّ الْبِكْرَ تَسْتَحِي فَقَالَ ﷺ «رِضَاهَا صَمْتُهَا»
✧ The virgin is shy. He ﷺ said, "Her consent is her silence."
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ»
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian.
«الْأَيِّمُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا وَالْبِكْرُ تُسْتَأْذَنُ وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا»
✧ The previously married woman has more right over herself than her guardian, and the virgin is asked for permission, and her permission is her silence.
«تُسْتَأْمَرُ الْيَتِيمَةُ فِي نَفْسِهَا فَإِنْ سَكَتَتْ فَقَدْ أَذِنَتْ وَإِنْ أَبَتْ لَمْ تُكْرَهْ»
"The Messenger of Allah said: 'An orphan girl should be consulted with regard to marriage, and if she remains silent, that is her permission. If she refuses then she is not to be forced.'" (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3270)
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4086Hasan sahih
أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو يَعْلَى فِي عَقِبِهِ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَامِرٍ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَائِدَةَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ مِثْلَهُ
✧ Abu Ya'la informed us at its end: Abdullah b. Amir narrated to us; Ibn Abi Za'ida narrated to us from Muhammad b. Amr from Abu Salama from Abu Hurayra from the Prophet ﷺ a similar report.
«الْأَيِّمُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا وَالْبِكْرُ تُسْتَأْذَنُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا»
✧ The previously married woman has more right over herself than her guardian, and the virgin is asked permission regarding herself, and her permission is her silence.
«الثَّيِّبُ أَحَقُّ بِنَفْسِهَا مِنْ وَلِيِّهَا وَالْبِكْرُ يَسْتَأْمِرُهَا أَبُوهَا فِي نَفْسِهَا وَإِذْنُهَا صُمَاتُهَا»
✧ The previously married woman has more right over herself than her guardian, and the virgin's father asks her permission regarding herself, and her permission is her silence.
«لَيْسَ لِوَلِيٍّ مَعَ الثَّيِّبِ أَمْرٌ وَالْيَتِيمَةُ تُسْتَأْمَرُ وَصَمْتُهَا إِقْرَارُهَا»
✧ The guardian has no authority over a previously married woman, and the orphan girl is consulted, and her silence is her consent.
«لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ»
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian.
كَانَتْ أُخْتُهُ تَحْتَ رَجُلٍ فَطَلَّقَهَا ثُمَّ خَلَّى عَنْهَا حَتَّى انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا ثُمَّ قَرَّبَ يَخْطُبُهَا فَحَمِيَ مَعْقِلٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ وَقَالَ خَلَّى عَنْهَا وَهُوَ يَقْدِرُ عَلَيْهَا فَحَالَ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ {وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمِ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ أَنْ يَنْكِحْنَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ إِذَا تَرَاضَوْا بَيْنَهُمْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ}
✧ His sister was married to a man who divorced her, then he left her alone until her waiting period ended, then he came to propose to her. Ma'qil became angry about that and said, "He left her alone while he was capable of her," and he prevented him from her. Then Allah revealed: {When you divorce women and they reach their term, do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree among themselves with what is fair}.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ جَاءَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ فَقَالَتْ لَهُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي قَدْ وَهَبْتُ نَفْسِي لَكَ فَقَامَتْ طَوِيلًا فَقَامَ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ زَوِّجْنِيهَا إِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ لَكَ حَاجَةٌ بِهَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «هَلْ عِنْدَكَ مِنْ شَيْءٍ تُصْدِقُهَا إِيَّاهُ» فَقَالَ مَا عِنْدِي إِلَّا إِزَارِي هَذَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «إِنَّ أَعْطَيْتَهُ إِيَّاهَا جَلَسْتَ لَا إِزَارَ لَكَ فَالْتَمِسْ شَيْئًا» فَقَالَ مَا أَجِدُ قَالَ «فَالْتَمِسْ فَلَمْ يَجِدْ شَيْئًا» فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «هَلْ مَعَكَ مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ شَيْءٌ» قَالَ نَعَمْ سُورَةُ كَذَا وَسُورَةُ كَذَا لِسُوَرٍ سَمَّاهَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «قَدْ زَوَّجْتُكَهَا بِمَا مَعَكَ مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ»
✧ A woman came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said to him, "O Messenger of Allah, I have gifted myself to you." She stood for a long time, then a man stood up and said, "O Messenger of Allah, marry her to me if you have no need of her." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Do you have anything to give her as dower?" He replied, "I have nothing except this lower garment of mine." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "If you give it to her, you will sit with no lower garment. Look for something." He said, "I cannot find anything." He said, "Look for something, even an iron ring," but he could not find anything. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Do you have any of the Quran with you?" He said, "Yes, Surah such-and-such and Surah such-and-such," naming some surahs. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "I have married her to you for what you have of the Quran."
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنِّي تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ «كَمْ أَصْدَقْتَهَا» فَقَالَ أَرْبَعَ أَوَاقٍ فَقَالَ ﷺ «أَرْبَعَ أَوَاقٍ كَأَنَّمَا تَنْحِتُونَ الْفِضَّةَ مِنْ عَرَضِ هَذَا الْجَبَلِ»
✧ A man came to the Messenger of Allahﷺ and said, "I have married a woman." He asked, "How much did you give as mahr (dowry)?" The man replied, "Four awqiya (a measurement of weight)." The Prophetﷺ said, "Four awqiya, it is as if you are carving silver from the width of this mountain."
قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مِنْ يُمْنِ الْمَرْأَةِ تَسْهِيلُ أَمْرِهَا وَقِلَّةُ صَدَاقِهَا» قَالَ عُرْوَةُ وَأَنَا أَقُولُ مِنْ عِنْدِي وَمِنْ شُؤْمِهَا تَعْسِيرُ أَمْرِهَا وَكَثْرَةُ صَدَاقِهَا
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Part of a woman's blessing is the ease of her matter and the smallness of her dower." 'Urwah said: And I say on my own: Part of her misfortune is the difficulty of her matter and the largeness of her dower.
لَقِيَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ عَبْدَ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنَ عَوْفٍ وَبِهِ وَضَرٌ مِنْ خَلُوقٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «مَهْيَمْ عَبْدَ الرَّحْمَنِ» قَالَ تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ قَالَ «كَمْ أَصْدَقْتَهَا» قَالَ وَزْنَ نَوَاةٍ مِنْ ذَهَبٍ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «أَوْلِمْ وَلَوْ بِشَاةٍ» قَالَ أَنَسٌ فَلَقَدْ رَأَيْتُهُ قَسَّمَ لِكُلِّ امْرَأَةٍ مِنْ نِسَائِهِ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهِ مِائَةَ أَلْفٍ
✧ The Prophet ﷺ met 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Awf and on him was a trace of yellow perfume. The Prophet ﷺ said to him, "What is this, 'Abd al-Rahman?" He said, "I married a woman from the Ansar." He said, "How much did you give her as dower?" He said, "The weight of a date stone of gold." The Prophet ﷺ said, "Hold a wedding feast, even with a sheep." Anas said: I saw him after his death divide among each of his wives one hundred thousand.
كَانَ «صَدَاقُنَا إِذْ كَانَ فِينَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَشْرَ أَوَاقٍ»
"The dowry, when the Messenger of Allah was among us, was ten Awaq." (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3348)
فِي رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ وَلَمْ يَدْخُلْ بِهَا وَلَمْ يَفْرِضْ فَقَالَ لَهَا الصَّدَاقُ كَامِلًا وَعَلَيْهَا الْعِدَّةُ وَلَهَا الْمِيرَاثُ قَالَ مَعْقِلُ بْنُ سِنَانٍ «شَهِدْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَضَى بِهِ فِي بِرْوَعَ بِنْتِ وَاشِقٍ»
✧ Regarding a man who married but had not consummated the marriage and had not stipulated a dower, he said: She is entitled to the full dower, she must observe the waiting period, and she inherits. Ma'qil b. Sinan said, "I witnessed the Messenger of Allah ﷺ rule this in the case of Birwa' bt. Washiq."
حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ مَنْصُورٍ عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ عَلْقَمَةَ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بِمِثْلِهِ
✧ Sufyan narrated to us from Mansur from Ibrahim from 'Alqamah from 'Abdullah something similar.
أَنَّ رَجُلًا أَتَاهُ فَسَأَلَهُ عَنْ رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً فَمَاتَ عَنْهَا وَلَمْ يَدْخُلْ بِهَا وَلَمْ يَفْرِضْ لَهَا فَلَمْ يَقُلْ شَيْئًا وَرَدَّدَهُمْ شَهْرًا ثُمَّ قَالَ أَقُولُ بِرَأْيِي فَإِنْ كَانَ صَوَابًا فَمِنَ اللَّهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ خَطَأً فَمِنْ قِبَلِي أَرَى لَهَا صَدَاقَ نِسَائِهَا لَا وَكْسَ وَلَا شَطَطَ وَعَلَيْهَا الْعِدَّةُ وَلَهَا الْمِيرَاثُ فَقَامَ فُلَانٌ الْأَشْجَعِيُّ وَقَالَ «قَضَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي بِرْوَعَ بِنْتِ وَاشِقٍ بِمِثْلِ» ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَفَرِحَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بِذَلِكَ وَكَبَّرَ
✧ That a man came to him and asked him about a man who married a woman and then died before consummating the marriage and before stipulating a dower. He did not say anything and turned them away for a month, then he said, "I will speak according to my own opinion. If it is correct, it is from Allah; if it is wrong, it is from me. I think she should have a dower like that of her peers, without reduction or excess, she must observe the waiting period, and she inherits." So-and-so al-Ashja'i stood up and said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ ruled in the case of Birwa' bt. Washiq exactly like that." He said: 'Abdullah rejoiced at that and said, "Allahu Akbar."
أَنَّ قَوْمًا أَتَوْا عَبْدَ اللَّهِ بْنَ مَسْعُودٍ فَقَالُوا جِئْنَاكَ لِنَسْأَلَكَ عَنْ رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ مِنَّا وَلَمْ يَفْرِضْ صَدَاقًا وَلَمْ يَجْمَعْهُمَا اللَّهُ حَتَّى مَاتَ فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ مَا سُئِلْتُ عَنْ شَيْءٍ مُنْذُ فَارَقْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَشَدَّ عَلَيَّ مِنْ هَذِهِ فَأْتُوا غَيْرِي فَاخْتَلَفُوا إِلَيْهِ شَهْرًا ثُمَّ قَالُوا لَهُ فِي آخِرِ ذَلِكَ مَنْ نَسْأَلُ إِنْ لَمْ نَسْأَلْكَ وَأَنْتَ أُخَيَّةُ أَصْحَابِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي هَذِهِ الْبَلْدَةِ وَلَا نَجْدُ غَيْرَكَ فَقَالَ ابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ سَأَقُولُ فِيهَا بِجَهْدِ رَأْيِي إِنْ كَانَ صَوَابًا فَمِنَ اللَّهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ خَطَأً فَمِنِّي وَاللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ مِنْهُ بَرِيءٌ أَرَى أَنْ يُفْرَضَ لَهَا كَصَدَاقِ نِسَائِهَا وَلَا وَكْسَ وَلَا شَطَطَ وَلَهَا الْمِيرَاثُ وَعَلَيْهَا الْعِدَّةُ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا وَذَلِكَ بِحَضْرَةِ نَاسٍ مِنْ أَشْجَعَ فَقَامَ رَجُلٌ يُقَالُ لَهُ مَعْقِلُ بْنُ سِنَانٍ الْأَشْجَعِيُّ فَقَالَ «أَشْهَدُ أَنَّكَ قَضَيْتَ بِمِثْلِ الَّذِي قَضَى بِهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي امْرَأَةٍ مِنَّا يُقَالُ لَهَا بِرْوَعُ بِنْتُ وَاشِقٍ فَمَا رُئِيَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ فَرِحَ بِشَيْءٍ بَعْدَ الْإِسْلَامِ كَفَرْحِهِ بِهَذِهِ الْقِصَّةِ»
✧ Some people came to 'Abdullah b. Mas'ud and said, "We have come to ask you about a man among us who married but did not stipulate a dower, and Allah did not bring them together before he died." 'Abdullah said, "I have not been asked about anything since I parted from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ that is harder on me than this. Go to someone else." They kept coming to him for a month, then at the end they said to him, "Whom should we ask if we do not ask you? You are the most senior of the companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ in this region, and we find no one else." Ibn Mas'ud said, "I will speak about it according to the best of my opinion. If it is correct, it is from Allah; if it is wrong, it is from me, and Allah and His Messenger are free of it. I think she should be assigned a dower like that of her peers, without reduction or excess, she inherits, and she must observe the waiting period of four months and ten days." That was in the presence of some people from Ashja'. A man called Ma'qil b. Sinan al-Ashja'i stood up and said, "I bear witness that you have ruled exactly as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ruled in the case of a woman of ours called Birwa' bt. Washiq." 'Abdullah was never seen to rejoice at anything after Islam as he rejoiced at this story.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «أَعْتَقَ صَفِيَّةَ وَجَعَلَ عِتْقَهَا صَدَاقَهَا»
✧ That the Prophet ﷺ freed Safiyyah and made her emancipation her dower.
«أَحَقُّ الشُّرُوطِ أَنْ يُوَفَّى بِهِ مَا اسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ بِهِ الْفُرُوجَ»
✧ The conditions most deserving to be fulfilled are those by which you have made sexual intercourse lawful.
دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَسْرُورًا فَرِحًا مِمَّا قَالَ مُجَزِّزٌ الْمُدْلِجِيُّ وَنَظَرَ إِلَى أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ مُضْطَجِعًا مَعَ أَبِيهِ فَقَالَ «هَذِهِ الْأَقْدَامُ بَعْضُهَا مِنْ بَعْضٍ وَكَانَ مُجَزِّزٌ قَائِفًا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came to me happy and joyful because of what Mujazziz al-Mudliji said. He looked at Usamah b. Zayd lying with his father and said, 'These feet are from one another.' Mujazziz was a physiognomist.
«الْوَلَدُ لِلْفِرَاشِ وَلِلْعَاهِرِ الْحَجَرُ»
The Prophet ﷺ said, "The boy is for (the owner of) the bed and the stone is for the person who commits illegal sexual intercourse.' (Using translation from Bukhārī 6818)
كَانَ عُتْبَةُ بْنُ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ عَهِدَ إِلَى أَخِيهِ سَعْدِ بْنِ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ أَنَّ ابْنَ وَلِيدَةَ زَمْعَةٌ مِنِّي فَاقْبِضْهُ إِلَيْكَ قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا كَانَ عَامُ الْفَتْحِ أَخَذَهُ سَعْدُ بْنُ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ فَقَالَ ابْنُ أَخِي قَدْ كَانَ عَهِدَ إِلَيَّ فِيهِ فَقَامَ إِلَيْهِ عَبْدُ بْنُ زَمْعَةَ فَقَالَ أَخِي وَابْنُ وَلِيدَةَ أَبِي وُلِدَ عَلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَتَيَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ سَعْدٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَخِي كَانَ عَهِدَ إِلَيَّ فِيهِ وَقَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ زَمْعَةَ أَخِي وَابْنُ وَلِيدَةَ أَبِي وُلِدَ عَلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «هُوَ لَكَ يَا عَبْدُ بْنَ زَمْعَةَ الْوَلَدُ لِلْفِرَاشِ وَلِلْعَاهِرِ الْحَجَرُ» ثُمَّ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لِسَوْدَةَ بِنْتِ زَمْعَةَ «احْتَجِبِي مِنْهُ» لَمَّا رَأَى مِنْ شَبَهِهِ بِعُتْبَةَ فَمَا رَآهَا حَتَّى لَقِيَ اللَّهَ
✧ 'Utbah b. Abi Waqqas had entrusted his brother Sa'd b. Abi Waqqas, saying, "The son of Zam'ah's slave woman is from me; take him under your care." So when it was the year of the conquest, Sa'd b. Abi Waqqas took him and said, "He is the son of my brother, who had entrusted him to me." 'Abd b. Zam'ah stood up and said, "He is my brother and the son of my father's slave woman, born on his bed." They went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. Sa'd said, "O Messenger of Allah, my brother had entrusted him to me," and 'Abd b. Zam'ah said, "He is my brother and the son of my father's slave woman, born on his bed." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "He is yours, O 'Abd b. Zam'ah. The child belongs to the bed, and the adulterer gets the stone." Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to Sawdah bt. Zam'ah, "Veil yourself from him," because of the resemblance he saw to 'Utbah. She never saw him until she met Allah.
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ بَنِي فَزَارَةَ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنَّ امْرَأَتِي وَضَعَتْ غُلَامًا أَسْوَدَ فَقَالَ لَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ إِبِلٍ» قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ «فَمَا أَلْوَانُهَا» قَالَ حُمْرٌ قَالَ «هَلْ فِيهَا مِنْ أَوْرَقَ» قَالَ إِنَّ فِيهَا وُرْقًا قَالَ «فَأَنَّى أَتَاهُ ذَلِكَ» قَالَ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ نَزَعَهُ عِرْقٌ قَالَ «وَهَذَا عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ نَزَعَهُ عِرْقٌ»
There came a person to the Prophet (may peace he upon him) ) from Banu Fazara and said: My wife has given birth to a child who is black, whereupon Allah's Apostle ﷺ said: Have you any camels? He said: Yes. He again said: What is this colour? He said: They are red. He said: Is there a dusky one among them? He said: Yes, there are dusky ones among them He said: How has it come about? He said: It is perhaps the strain to which it has reverted, whereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: It is perhaps the strain to which he (the child) has reverted. (Using translation from Muslim 1500a)
أَنَّ رَجُلًا مِنْ بَنِي فَزَارَةَ أَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنَّ امْرَأَتِي وَلَدَتْ غُلَامًا أَسْوَدَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «هَلْ لَكَ مِنْ إِبِلٍ» قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ «فَمَا أَلْوَانُهَا» قَالَ حُمْرٌ قَالَ «فَهَلْ فِيهَا مِنْ أَوْرَقٍ» فَقَالَ إِنَّ فِيهَا لَوُرْقًا قَالَ «فَأَنَّى تَرَاهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَ «عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ نَزَعَهُ عِرْقٌ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «وَهَذَا عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ نَزَعَهُ عِرْقٌ»
"My wife has given birth to a black boy." The Messenger of Allah said: "Do you have camels?" He said: "Yes." He said: "What color are they?" He said: "Red." He said: "Are there any gray ones among them?" He said: "There are some gray ones among them." He said: "Where do you think they come from?" He said: "Perhaps it is hereditary." He said: "Likewise, perhaps this is hereditary." (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3478)
أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ حِينَ أُنْزِلَتْ آيَةُ الْمُلَاعَنَةِ «أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ أَدْخَلَتْ عَلَى قَوْمٍ مَنْ لَيْسَ مِنْهُمْ فَلَيْسَتْ مِنَ اللَّهِ فِي شَيْءٍ وَلَنْ يُدْخِلَهَا اللَّهُ جَنَّتَهُ وَأَيُّمَا رَجُلٍ جَحَدَ وَلَدَهُ وَهُوَ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهِ احْتَجَبَ اللَّهُ مِنْهُ وَفَضَحَهُ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْأَوَّلِينَ وَالْآخِرِينَ»
✧ He heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say when the verse of mutual cursing (li'an) was revealed: "Any woman who brings into a people someone who is not of them, she has nothing to do with Allah, and Allah will never admit her to His Paradise. And any man who denies his child while looking at him, Allah will veil Himself from him and disgrace him before the heads of the first and the last."
دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَأَسَارِيرُ وَجْهِهِ تَبْرُقُ فَقَالَ «أَلَمْ تَرَيْ إِلَى مُجَزِّزٍ أَبْصَرَ آنِفًا زَيْدَ بْنَ حَارِثَةَ وَأُسَامَةَ بْنَ زَيْدٍ فَقَالَ إِنَّ بَعْضَ هَذِهِ الْأَقْدَامِ لِمَنْ بَعْضٍ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came to me, his face beaming, and said, "Did you not see Mujazziz? He looked just now at Zayd b. Harithah and Usamah b. Zayd and said, 'Some of these feet are from the same.'"
يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ هَلْ لَكَ فِي دُرَّةَ بِنْتِ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ قَالَ «أَصْنَعُ بِهَا مَاذَا» قَالَتْ تَنْكِحُهَا قَالَ «وَهَلْ تَحِلُّ لِي» قَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ أُخْبِرْتُ أَنَّكَ تَخْطِبُ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتَ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «إِنَّ زَيْنَبَ تَحْرُمُ عَلَيَّ وَإِنَّهَا فِي حِجْرِي وَأَرْضَعَتْنِي وَإِيَّاهَا ثُوَيْبَةُ فَلَا تَعْرِضْنَ عَلَيَّ بَنَاتِكُنَّ وَلَا أَخَوَاتِكُنَّ وَلَا عَمَّاتِكُنَّ وَلَا خَالَاتِكُنَّ وَلَا أُمَّهَاتِكُنَّ»
✧ "O Messenger of Allah, would you like Durrah bint Abi Sufyan?" He said: "What would I do with her?" She said: "Marry her." He said: "Is she lawful for me?" She said: "By Allah, I have been told that you are proposing to Zaynab bint Umm Salamah." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Zaynab is unlawful for me, for she is in my care, and Thuwaybah nursed both me and her. So do not offer me your daughters, nor your sisters, nor your paternal aunts, nor your maternal aunts, nor your mothers."
أَنَّ أُمَّ حَبِيبَةَ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ انْكِحْ بِنْتَ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ لِأُخْتِهَا فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «وَتُحِبِّينَ ذَلِكَ» قَالَتْ نَعَمْ وَأَحَبُّ مَنْ يُشَارِكُنِي فِي خَيْرٍ أُخْتِي فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ لَا يَحِلُّ» قَالَتْ أُمُّ حَبِيبَةَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ
✧ Umm Habibah said: "O Messenger of Allah, marry the daughter of Abu Sufyan," meaning her sister. The Prophet ﷺ said: "Would you like that?" She said: "Yes, and the one I would most love to share good with me is my sister." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "That is not lawful." Umm Habibah said: "O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I have been told..."
لَقِيتُ خَالِي أَبَا بُرْدَةَ وَمَعَهُ الرَّايَةُ فَقُلْتُ إِلَى أَيْنَ فَقَالَ «أَرْسَلَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِلَى رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةَ أَبِيهِ أَنْ أَقْتُلَهُ أَوْ أَضْرِبَ عُنُقَهُ»
✧ "I met my maternal uncle Abu Burdah, and he had the banner. I said: 'Where are you going?' He said: 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent me to a man who married his father's wife, to kill him or strike his neck.'"
«لَا يُجْمَعُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَعَمَّتِهَا وَلَا بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَخَالَتِهَا»
✧ "A woman is not to be combined in marriage with her paternal aunt, nor a woman with her maternal aunt."
«نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ تُنْكَحَ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا أَوْ عَلَى خَالَتِهَا»
✧ "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade that a woman be married in addition to her paternal aunt or in addition to her maternal aunt."
«لَا يُجْمَعُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَعَمَّتِهَا وَلَا بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَخَالَتِهَا»
✧ "A woman is not to be combined in marriage with her paternal aunt, nor a woman with her maternal aunt."
«نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ تُزَوَّجَ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى الْعَمَّةِ وَالْخَالَةِ قَالَ إِنَّكُنَّ إِذَا فَعَلْتُنَّ ذَلِكَ قَطَعْتُنَّ أَرْحَامَكُنَّ»
✧ "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade marrying a woman in addition to the paternal aunt and the maternal aunt. He said: 'If you do that, you sever your ties of kinship.'"
«لَا تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَلَا الْعَمَّةُ عَلَى بِنْتِ أَخِيهَا وَلَا تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى خَالَتِهَا وَلَا الْخَالَةُ عَلَى بِنْتِ أُخْتِهَا»
✧ "A woman is not to be married in addition to her paternal aunt, nor the paternal aunt in addition to her brother's daughter; and a woman is not to be married in addition to her maternal aunt, nor the maternal aunt in addition to her sister's daughter."
«نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ تُنْكَحَ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَعَلَى خَالَتِهَا وَعَلَى بِنْتِ أَخِيهَا وَعَلَى بِنْتِ أُخْتِهَا وَنَهَى أَنْ تُنْكَحَ الْكُبْرَى عَلَى الصُّغْرَى وَالصُّغْرَى عَلَى الْكُبْرَى»
✧ "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade that a woman be married in addition to her paternal aunt, her maternal aunt, her brother's daughter, and her sister's daughter; and he forbade that the elder be married in addition to the younger, and the younger in addition to the elder."
سُئِلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْ رَجُلٍ طَلَّقَ امْرَأَتَهُ الْبَتَّةَ فَتَزَوَّجَتْ زَوْجًا فَطَلَّقَهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ يَدْخُلَ بِهَا أَتَرْجِعُ إِلَى زَوْجِهَا الْأَوَّلِ قَالَ «لَا حَتَّى يَذُوقَ عُسَيْلَتَهَا مَا ذَاقَ صَاحِبُهَا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ was asked about a man who divorced his wife irrevocably, and she married another husband, then he divorced her before consummating the marriage: may she return to her first husband? He said: "No, not until he tastes her sweetness as the other tasted it."
فِي رَجُلٍ طَلَّقَ امْرَأَتَهُ ثَلَاثًا ثُمَّ تَزَوَّجَتْ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَطَلَّقَهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ يَدْخُلَ بِهَا ثُمَّ أَرَادَ الْأَوَّلُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا قَالَ «لَا حَتَّى يَذُوقَ الْآخَرُ عُسَيْلَتَهَا وَتَذُوقَ عُسَيْلَتَهُ»
✧ Concerning a man who divorced his wife three times, then she married another husband, and he divorced her before consummating the marriage; then the first husband wanted to marry her. He said: "No, until the other tastes her honey and she tastes his honey."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4121No grade recorded
أَنَّ رِفَاعَةَ بْنَ سَمَوْأَلٍ طَلَّقَ امْرَأَتَهُ تَمِيمَةَ بِنْتَ وَهْبٍ فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ ثَلَاثًا فَنَكَحَهَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ الزُّبَيْرِ فَلَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ أَنْ يَمَسَّهَا فَفَارَقَهَا فَأَرَادَ رِفَاعَةُ أَنْ يَنْكِحَهَا وَهُوَ زَوْجُهَا الْأَوَّلُ الَّذِي كَانَ طَلَّقَهَا فَذَكَرَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَنَهَاهُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا وَقَالَ «لَا تَحِلُّ لَكَ حَتَّى تَذُوقَ الْعُسَيْلَةَ»
✧ Rifa'ah b. Samaw'al divorced his wife Tamimah bt. Wahb during the time of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ three times. Then 'Abd al-Rahman b. al-Zubayr married her, but he was unable to touch her, so he separated from her. Rifa'ah, her first husband who had divorced her, wanted to marry her, so he mentioned that to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He forbade him from marrying her and said: "She is not lawful for you until she tastes the honey."
سُئِلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْ رَجُلٍ طَلَّقَ امْرَأَتَهُ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَدَخَلَ بِهَا ثُمَّ طَلَّقَهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ يُوَاقِعَهَا أَتَحِلُّ لِلْأَوَّلِ؟ قَالَ «لَا حَتَّى يَذُوقَ عُسَيْلَتَهَا وَتَذُوقَ عُسَيْلَتَهُ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ was asked about a man who divorced his wife, and she married another husband, and he entered upon her, then he divorced her before having intercourse with her; is she lawful for the first? He said: "No, until he tastes her honey and she tastes his honey."
أَرْسَلَ إِلَى أَبَانَ بْنِ عُثْمَانَ وَأَبَانُ يَوْمَئِذٍ أَمِيرُ الْحَاجِّ وَهُمَا مُحْرِمَانِ إِنِّي أَرَدْتُ أَنْ أُنْكِحَ طَلْحَةَ بْنَ عُمَرَ ابْنَةَ شَيْبَةَ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ تَحْضُرَ ذَلِكَ فَأَنْكَرَ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ أَبَانُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ وَقَالَ سَمِعْتُ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ عَفَّانَ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ»
✧ He sent to Aban b. 'Uthman, while Aban was then the commander of the pilgrimage, and they were both in ihram: "I want to marry Talhah b. 'Umar to the daughter of Shaybah b. Jubayr, and I would like you to attend that." Aban b. 'Uthman disapproved of that and said: "I heard 'Uthman b. 'Affan say: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'The one in ihram does not marry, does not propose, and does not marry off.'"
«لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ وَلَا يُخْطَبُ عَلَيْهِ»
✧ "The one in ihram does not marry, does not marry off, does not propose, and is not proposed to."
«لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ»
✧ "The one in ihram does not marry, does not marry off, and does not propose."
أَنَّ عُمَرَ بْنَ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَعْمَرٍ أَرَادَ أَنْ يَنْكِحَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَى أَبَانَ بْنِ عُثْمَانَ فَقَالَ أَبَانُ إِنَّ عُثْمَانَ حَدَّثَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ «الْمُحْرِمُ لَا يَنْكِحُ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ»
✧ 'Umar b. 'Ubayd Allah b. Ma'mar wanted to marry while in ihram, so he sent to Aban b. 'Uthman. Aban said: "'Uthman narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'The one in ihram does not marry, does not propose, and does not marry off.'"
«لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ»
✧ "The one in ihram does not marry and does not marry off."
«لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ»
✧ "The one in ihram does not marry and does not marry off."
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَ مَيْمُونَةَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ "married Maymunah while he was in ihram."
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَ مَيْمُونَةَ حَلَالًا وَبَنَى بِهَا حَلَالًا وَكُنْتُ الرَّسُولَ بَيْنَهُمَا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ "married Maymunah while not in ihram, and consummated the marriage while not in ihram, and I was the messenger between them."
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَ مَيْمُونَةَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ "married Maymunah while he was in ihram."
«تَزَوَّجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بَعْضَ نِسَائِهِ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ وَاحْتَجَمَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married some of his wives while he was in a state of ihram, and he was cupped while in a state of ihram.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَ مَيْمُونَةَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ فِي عَمْرَةِ الْقَضَاءِ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ married Maymunah while he was in a state of ihram during the Umrat al-Qada.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَهَا حَلَالًا وَبَنَى بِهَا حَلَالًا وَمَاتَتْ بِسَرِفَ فَدَفَنَّاهَا فِي الظُّلَّةِ الَّتِي بَنَى بِهَا فِيهَا فَنَزَلْتُ فِي قَبْرِهَا أَنَا وَابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ فَلَمَّا وَضَعْنَاهَا فِي اللَّحْدِ مَالَ رَأْسُهَا وَأَخَذْتُ رِدَائِي فَوَضَعْتُهُ تَحْتَ رَأْسِهَا فَاجْتَذَبَهُ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ فَأَلْقَاهُ وَكَانَتْ حَلَقَتْ فِي الْحَجِّ رَأْسَهَا فَكَانَ رَأْسُهَا مُحَمَّمًا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her while he was not in a state of ihram, and consummated the marriage with her while not in a state of ihram. She died at Sarif, and we buried her in the shade structure where he had consummated the marriage with her. I and Ibn Abbas descended into her grave, and when we placed her in the niche, her head tilted, so I took my cloak and placed it under her head. Ibn Abbas pulled it and threw it aside. She had shaved her head during Hajj, and her hair was dyed with henna.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَ مَيْمُونَةَ وَهُوَ حَلَالٌ وَبَنَى بِهَا وَهُوَ حَلَالٌ وَكُنْتُ الرَّسُولَ بَيْنَهُمَا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married Maymunah while he was not in a state of ihram, and consummated the marriage with her while not in a state of ihram. I was the messenger between them.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَهَا وَهُوَ حَلَالٌ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her while he was not in a state of ihram.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ «تَزَوَّجَهَا بِسَرِفَ وَهُمَا حَلَالَانِ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ married her at Sarif while they were both not in a state of ihram.
«تَزَوَّجَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِسَرِفَ وَهُمَا حَلَالَانِ بَعْدَمَا رَجَعَا مِنْ مَكَّةَ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married me at Sarif while we were both not in a state of ihram, after they had returned from Makkah.
أَنَّ عُمَرَ بْنَ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ أَرْسَلَ إِلَى أَبَانَ بْنِ عُثْمَانَ وَأَبَانُ يَوْمَئِذٍ أَمِيرُ الْحَاجِّ وَهُمَا مُحْرِمَانِ قَدْ أَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَنْكِحَ طَلْحَةَ بْنَ عُمَرَ بِنْتَ شَيْبَةَ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ وَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ تَحْضُرَ ذَلِكَ فَأَنْكَرَ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ أَبَانُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ وَقَالَ سَمِعْتُ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ عَفَّانَ رِضْوَانُ اللَّهِ عَلَيْهِ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «لَا يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ وَلَا يُنْكِحُ»
✧ Umar b. Ubayd Allah sent to Aban b. Uthman, and Aban was at that time the commander of the pilgrimage, while both were in a state of ihram, saying: I intend to marry Talhah b. Umar to the daughter of Shaybah b. Jubayr, and I want you to attend that. Aban b. Uthman denied that and said: I heard Uthman b. Affan, ؓ, say: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'The one in ihram does not marry, nor does he propose, nor does he give in marriage.'
جَاءَ عَمِّي مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةَ فَاسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَيَّ فَأَبَيْتُ أَنْ آذَنَ لَهُ حَتَّى أَسْأَلَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَتْ فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَسَأَلْتُهُ فَقَالَ «إِنَّهُ عَمُّكِ فَأَذَنِي لَهُ» فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّمَا أَرْضَعَتْنِي الْمَرْأَةٌ وَلَمْ يُرْضِعْنِي الرَّجُلُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «يَحْرُمُ مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ مَنْ يَحْرُمُ مِنَ الْوِلَادَةِ»
✧ "My foster uncle came and asked permission to enter upon me, but I refused to permit him until I asked the Prophet ﷺ. She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came, and I asked him. He said: 'He is your uncle, so permit him.' She said: 'O Messenger of Allah, only the woman nursed me; the man did not nurse me.' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'What is forbidden by birth is forbidden by suckling.'"
كُنَّا نَغْزُو مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَلَيْسَ مَعَنَا نِسَاءٌ فَقُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَا نَسْتَخْصِي؟ «فَنَهَانَا عَنْ ذَلِكَ وَرَخَّصَ لَنَا أَنْ نَنْكِحَ الْمَرْأَةَ بِالثَّوْبِ إِلَى أَجْلٍ ثُمَّ قَرَأَ {يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُحَرِّمُوا طَيِّبَاتِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ وَلَا تَعْتَدُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُعْتَدِينَ} »
✧ We used to go on military campaigns with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and we had no women with us. We said: O Messenger of Allah, should we not castrate ourselves? He forbade us from that and permitted us to marry a woman for a garment for a fixed period. Then he recited: {O you who believe, do not forbid the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, and do not transgress. Indeed, Allah does not love the transgressors}.
«نَهَى عَنْ مُتْعَةِ النِّسَاءِ يَوْمَ خَيْبَرَ وَعَنْ أَكْلِ لُحُومِ الْحُمُرِ الْإِنْسِيَّةِ»
✧ He forbade mut'a with women on the day of Khaybar and the eating of the flesh of domesticated donkeys.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ «رَخَّصَ فِي مُتْعَةِ النِّسَاءِ فَأَتَيْتُهُ بَعْدَ ثَلَاثٍ فَإِذَا هُوَ يُحَرِّمُهَا أَشَدَّ التَّحْرِيمِ وَيَقُولُ فِيهَا أَشَدَّ الْقَوْلِ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ permitted mut'a with women. I came to him after three [days], and there he was forbidding it most severely and saying the harshest things about it.
«نَهَى عَنْ مُتْعَةِ النِّسَاءِ يَوْمَ خَيْبَرَ وَعَنْ أَكْلِ لُحُومِ الْحُمُرِ الْأَهْلِيَّةِ»
✧ He forbade mut'a with women on the day of Khaybar and [forbade] eating the flesh of domestic donkeys.
«أَذِنَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي الْمُتْعَةِ عَامَ الْفَتْحِ فَانْطَلَقْتُ أَنَا وَرَجُلٌ آخَرُ إِلَى امْرَأَةٍ شَابَّةٍ كَأَنَّهَا بَكْرَةٌ عَيْطَاءُ لِنَسْتَمْتِعَ بِهَا فَجَلَسْنَا بَيْنَ يَدَيْهَا وَعَلَيْهِ بُرْدٌ وَعَلَيَّ بُرْدٌ فَكَلَّمْنَاهَا وَمَهَرْنَاهَا بُرْدَيْنَا وَكُنْتُ أَشَبَّ مِنْهُ وَكَانَ بُرْدُهُ أَجْوَدَ مِنْ بُرْدِي فَجَعَلَتْ تَنْظُرُ إِلَيَّ مَرَّةً وَإِلَى بُرْدِهِ مَرَّةً ثُمَّ اخْتَارَتْنِي فَنَكَحْتُهَا فَأَقَمْتُ مَعَهَا ثَلَاثًا ثُمَّ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ نَهَى عَنْهَا فَفَارَقْتُهَا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ permitted us mut'a in the year of the Conquest. So I and another man went to a young woman, like a long-necked young she-camel, to enjoy her. We sat before her, he wearing a striped cloak and I wearing a striped cloak. We spoke to her and gave her our two cloaks as her dower. I was more youthful than him, and his cloak was better than mine. She began looking at me once and at his cloak once, then she chose me and I married her. I stayed with her for three [days]. Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade it, and I left her.
خَرَجْنَا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَمَّا قَضَيْنَا عُمْرَتَنَا قَالَ لَنَا «اسْتَمْتِعُوا مِنْ هَذِهِ النِّسَاءِ» قَالَ وَالِاسْتِمْتَاعُ عِنْدَنَا يَوْمَئِذٍ التَّزْوِيجُ فَعَرَضْنَا بِذَلِكَ النِّسَاءُ أَنْ نَضْرِبَ بَيْنَنَا وَبَيْنَهُنَّ أَجَلًا قَالَ فَذَكَرْنَا ذَلِكَ لِلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ «افْعَلُوا ذَلِكَ» فَخَرَجْتُ أَنَا وَابْنُ عَمٍّ لِي مَعِي بُرْدَةٌ وَمَعَهُ بُرْدَةٌ وَبُرْدُهُ أَجْوَدُ مِنْ بُرْدِي وَأَنَا أَشَبُّ مِنْهُ فَأَتَيْنَا امْرَأَةً فَعَرَضْنَا ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهَا فَأَعْجَبَهَا شَبَابِي وَأَعْجَبَهَا بُرْدُ ابْنِ عَمِّي فَقَالَتْ بُرْدٌ كَبُرْدٍ فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا وَكَانَ الْأَجَلُ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهَا عَشْرًا فَلَبِثْتُ عِنْدَهَا تِلْكَ اللَّيْلَةَ ثُمَّ أَصْبَحْتُ غَادِيًا إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بَيْنَ الْحَجَرِ وَالْبَابِ قَائِمٌ يَخْطُبُ النَّاسَ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ «أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنِّي قَدْ أَذِنْتُ لَكُمْ فِي الِاسْتِمْتَاعِ فِي هَذِهِ النِّسَاءِ أَلَا وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ قَدْ حَرَّمَ ذَلِكَ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ فَمَنْ كَانَ عِنْدَهُ مِنْهُنَّ شَيْئًا فَلْيُخَلِّ سَبِيلَهُ وَلَا تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا»
✧ We set out with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. When we had completed our 'umrah, he said to us, 'Enjoy these women.' At that time, 'enjoyment' among us meant marriage. We presented to the women that we set a term between us and them. We mentioned that to the Prophet ﷺ and he said, 'Do that.' So I and a cousin of mine went out. I had a cloak and he had a cloak, and his cloak was better than mine, while I was more youthful than him. We came to a woman and presented that to her. My youth pleased her, and my cousin's cloak pleased her. She said, 'A cloak is as good as a cloak.' So I married her, and the term between me and her was ten [days]. I stayed with her that night, then in the morning I went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ while he was standing between the [Black] Stone and the door, addressing the people. He was saying: 'O people, I had permitted you to enjoy these women. Verily, Allah has now forbidden that until the Day of Resurrection. Whoever has any of them, let him let her go, and do not take back anything of what you gave them.'
أَنَّ أَبَاهُ «غَزَا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَخَرَجْتُ أَنَا وَرَجُلٌ مِنْ قَوْمِي لِي عَلَيْهِ فَضْلٌ فِي الْجَمَالِ وَهُوَ قَرِيبٌ مِنَ الدَّمَامَةِ مَعَ كُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِنَّا بُرْدٌ أَمَا بُرْدِي فَبُرْدٌ خَلَقٌ وَأَمَّا بُرْدُ ابْنِ عَمِّي فَبُرْدٌ جَدِيدٌ غَضٌّ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنَّا أَسْفَلَ مَكَّةَ أَوْ بِأَعْلَاهَا فَلَقَيْنَا فَتَاةً مِثْلُ الْبَكْرَةِ فَقُلْنَا هَلْ نَسْتَمْتِعُ مِنْكِ قَالَتْ وَمَاذَا تَبْذُلَانِ فَنَشَرَ كُلُّ وَاحِدٍ مِنَّا بُرْدَهُ فَجَعَلَتْ تَنْظُرُ إِلَى الرَّجُلِ فَإِذَا رَآهَا الرَّجُلُ تَنْظُرُ إِلَيَّ عِطْفِهَا وَقَالَ بُرْدُ هَذَا خَلَقٌ وَبُرْدِي جَدِيدٌ غَضٌّ فَتَقُولُ بُرْدُ هَذَا لَا بَأْسَ بِهِ ثُمَّ اسْتَمْتَعْتُ مِنْهَا فَلَمْ نَخْرُجْ حَتَّى حَرَّمَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ»
✧ That his father went on a military expedition with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He said: I and a man of my people, over whom I had superiority in beauty while he was close to ugliness, each of us had a cloak. My cloak was worn out, while the cloak of my cousin was new and fresh. When we were in lower Makkah or in its upper part, we met a young woman like a young she-camel. We said, 'Will you allow us to enjoy you?' She said, 'What will you give?' Each of us spread out his cloak. She began to look at the man. When the man saw her looking at me, he turned aside. He said, 'This one's cloak is worn out, and my cloak is new and fresh.' She would say, 'This one's cloak is not bad.' Then I enjoyed her. We had not left before the Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade it.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَمَّا خَرَجَ نَزَلَ ثَنِيَّةَ الْوَدَاعِ فَرَأَى مَصَابِيحَ وَسَمِعَ نِسَاءً يَبْكِينَ فَقَالَ «مَا هَذَا» قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نِسَاءٌ كَانُوا تَمَتَّعُوا مِنْهُنَّ أَزْوَاجُهُنَّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «هَدَمَ أَوْ قَالَ حَرَّمَ الْمُتْعَةَ النِّكَاحُ وَالطَّلَاقُ وَالْعُدَّةُ وَالْمِيرَاثُ»
✧ When the Prophet ﷺ left, he stayed at the Thaniyyah Al-Wada'a and saw some lamps and heard women crying. He asked, "What is this?" They replied, "O Messenger of Allah, these are the women who were enjoying their time with their husbands." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then said, "He has abolished or prohibited temporary marriage, divorce, waiting period after divorce, and inheritance."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4150Hasan sahih
نَهَى عَنِ الْمُتْعَةِ وَقَالَ «إِنَّهَا حَرَامٌ مِنْ يَوْمِكُمْ هَذَا إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ وَمَنْ كَانَ أَعْطَى شَيْئًا فَلَا يَأْخُذْهُ»
✧ He forbade mut'a and said: 'It is forbidden from this day of yours until the Day of Resurrection. Whoever gave anything, let him not take it back.'
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4151No grade recorded
«رَخَّصَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَامَ أَوْطَاسٍ فِي الْمُتْعَةِ ثَلَاثًا ثُمَّ نَهَانَا عَنْهَا»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ permitted us mut'a in the year of Awtas for three [days], then he forbade us from it.
«نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْ مُتْعَةِ النِّسَاءِ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade mut'a with women.
كُنَّا نَغْزُو مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ لَيْسَ لَنَا نِسَاءٌ فَقَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَا نَسْتَخْصِي فَنَهَانَا عَنْ ذَلِكَ وَأَمَرَنَا أَنْ نَنْكِحَ الْمَرْأَةَ بِالثَّوْبِ ثُمَّ قَرَأَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ هَذِهِ الْآيَةَ {يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُحَرِّمُوا طَيِّبَاتِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ}
✧ We used to go on military campaigns with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and we had no women with us. They said: O Messenger of Allah, should we not castrate ourselves? He forbade us from that and commanded us to marry a woman for a garment. Then Abdullah recited this verse: {O you who believe, do not forbid the good things which Allah has made lawful for you}.
أَنَّ عَبَّاسَ بْنَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَبَّاسٍ أَنْكَحَ عَبْدَ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنَ الْحَكَمِ ابْنَتَهُ وَأَنْكَحَهُ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ ابْنَتَهُ وَقَدْ كَانَا جَعَلَاهُ صَدَاقًا فَكَتَبَ مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ وَهُوَ خَلِيفَةٌ إِلَى مَرْوَانَ يَأْمُرُهُ بِالتَّفْرِيقِ بَيْنَهُمَا وَقَالَ فِي كِتَابِهِ «هَذَا الشِّغَارُ قَدْ نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْهُ»
✧ That 'Abbas b. 'Abd Allah b. 'Abbas gave his daughter in marriage to 'Abd al-Rahman b. al-Hakam, and 'Abd al-Rahman gave him his daughter in marriage, and they had made them the dower. Mu'awiyah b. Abi Sufyan, while he was caliph, wrote to Marwan ordering him to separate them, and he said in his letter: 'This is shighar, which the Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade.'
«لَا شِغَارَ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ»
✧ There is no shighar in Islam.
«نَهَى عَنِ الشِّغَارِ»
✧ He forbade shighar.
أَسْلَمَ غَيْلَانُ الثَّقَفِيُّ وَعِنْدَهُ عَشْرُ نِسْوَةٍ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَمْسِكْ أَرْبَعًا وَفَارِقْ سَائِرَهُنَّ»
✧ Ghaylan al-Thaqafi accepted Islam while he had ten wives, so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Keep four, and separate from the rest.”
أَسْلَمَ غَيْلَانُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ الثَّقَفِيُّ وَعِنْدَهُ عَشْرُ نِسْوَةٍ «فَأَمَرَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَتَخَيَّرَ مِنْهُنَّ أَرْبَعًا وَيَتْرُكَ سَائِرَهُنَّ»
✧ Ghaylan b. Salamah al-Thaqafi accepted Islam while he had ten wives, so the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ordered him to choose four of them and leave the rest.
أَنَّ امْرَأَةً أَسْلَمَتْ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَجَاءَ زَوْجُهَا فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ «إِنَّهَا قَدْ كَانَتْ أَسْلَمَتْ مَعِي فَرَدَّهَا عَلَيْهِ»
✧ A woman accepted Islam during the time of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, then her husband came and said: O Messenger of Allah, she had accepted Islam along with me, so he returned her to him.
قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي أَسْلَمْتُ وَعِنْدِي أُخْتَانِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «طَلِّقْ أَيَّتَهُمَا شِئْتَ»
✧ I said: O Messenger of Allah, I have embraced Islam while I have two sisters as wives. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'Divorce whichever of them you wish.'
أَنَّ غَيْلَانَ بْنَ سَلَمَةَ الثَّقَفِيَّ أَسْلَمَ وَتَحْتَهُ عَشْرُ نِسْوَةٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «اخْتَرْ مِنْهُنَّ أَرْبَعًا» فَلَمَّا كَانَ فِي عَهْدِ عُمَرَ طَلَّقَ نِسَاءَهُ وَقَسَّمَ مَالَهُ بَيْنَ بَنِيهِ فَبَلَغَ ذَلِكَ عُمَرَ فَلَقِيَهُ فَقَالَ إِنِّي أَظُنُّ الشَّيْطَانَ فِيمَا يَسْتَرِقُ مِنَ السَّمَعِ سَمِعَ بِمَوْتِكَ فَقَذَفَهُ فِي نَفْسِكَ وَلَعَلَّكَ أَنْ لَا تَمْكُثَ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا وَايْمُ اللَّهِ لَتَرُدَّنَّ نِسَاءَكَ وَلَتَرْجِعَنَّ فِي مَالِكِ أَوْ لَأُوَرِّثُهُنَّ مِنْكَ وَلَآمُرَنَّ بِقَبْرِكَ فَيُرْجَمُ كَمَا رُجِمَ قَبْرُ أَبِي رِغَالٍ
✧ That Ghaylan b. Salamah al-Thaqafi embraced Islam while he had ten wives. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to him: 'Choose four of them.' Later, during the caliphate of 'Umar, he divorced his wives and divided his wealth among his sons. That reached 'Umar, so he met him and said: 'I think Satan, in what he steals by hearing, heard of your death and cast it into your mind. Perhaps you will not remain but a little while. By Allah, you will take back your wives and return to your wealth, or I will make them inherit from you and order your grave to be stoned as the grave of Abu Righal was stoned.'
«لَا تُبَاشِرِ الْمَرْأَةُ الْمَرْأَةَ فَتَصِفُهَا لِزَوْجِهَا حَتَّى كَأَنَّهُ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهَا»
✧ A woman should not have close contact with another woman and then describe her to her husband until it is as if he is looking at her.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4162Hasan sahih
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ دَخَلَ حَائِطًا مِنْ حَوَائِطِ الأَنْصَارِ فَإِذَا فِيهِ جَمَلانِ يَضْرِبَانِ وَيَرْعَدَانِ فَاقْتَرَبَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مِنْهُمَا فَوَضَعَا جِرَانَهُمَا بِالأَرْضِ فَقَالَ مَنْ مَعَهُ سَجَدَ لَهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَا يَنْبَغِي لأَحَدٍ أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لأَحَدٍ وَلَوْ كَانَ أَحَدٌ يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لأَحَدٍ لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا لِمَا عَظَّمَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهَا مِنْ حَقِّهِ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ entered a garden from among the gardens of the Ansar, and there were two camels in it that were fighting and bellowing. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ drew near to them, and they placed their necks on the ground. Those with him said: They have prostrated to him. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: It is not appropriate for anyone to prostrate to anyone. If it were appropriate for anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband because of the greatness of the right Allah has placed upon her for him.
«إِذَا صَلَّتِ الْمَرْأَةُ خُمُسَهَا وَصَامَتْ شَهْرَهَا وَحَصَّنَتْ فَرْجَهَا وَأَطَاعَتْ بَعْلَهَا دَخَلَتْ مِنْ أَيِّ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ شَاءَتْ»
✧ “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month, guards her private part, and obeys her husband, she will enter from any gate of Paradise she wishes.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4164Hasan sahih
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِابْنَةٍ لَهُ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ هَذِهِ ابْنَتِي قَدْ أَبَتْ أَنْ تَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَالَ لَهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «أَطِيعِي أَبَاكِ» فَقَالَتْ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ حَتَّى تُخْبِرَنِي مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ أَنْ لَوْ كَانَتْ قَرْحَةٌ فَلَحَسَتْهَا مَا أَدَّتْ حَقَّهُ» قَالَتْ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «لَا تَنْكِحُوهُنَّ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ»
✧ A man came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ with a daughter of his and said: O Messenger of Allah, this is my daughter; she refuses to marry. The Prophet ﷺ said to her: “Obey your father.” She said: By the One who sent you with the truth, I will not marry until you tell me what the right of the husband is over his wife. The Prophet ﷺ said: “The right of the husband over his wife is that if there were a sore on him and she licked it, she would not have fulfilled his right.” She said: By the One who sent you with the truth, I will never marry. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Do not marry them except with the permission of their families.”
«إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ زَوْجَتَهُ لِحَاجَتِهِ فَلْتُجِبْهُ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ عَلَى التَّنُّورِ»
✧ “If a man calls his wife to his need, she should respond to him even if she is at the oven.”
قَالَتِ الْيَهُودُ «إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ إِذَا أَتَى امْرَأَتَهُ وَهِيَ مُجَبِّيَةٌ جَاءَ وَلَدُهُ أَحْوَلَ فَنَزَلَتْ {نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ} إِنْ شَاءَ مُجَبِّيَةً وَإِنْ شَاءَ غَيْرَ مُجَبِّيَةٍ إِذَا كَانَ فِي صِمَامٍ وَاحِدٍ»
✧ The Jews said: “If a man has intercourse with his wife while she is on her hands and knees, his child will be born cross-eyed.” Then it was revealed: “Your wives are a tilth for you, so come to your tilth as you wish” — if he wishes, on her hands and knees, and if he wishes, otherwise, as long as it is in the same orifice.
«فِي بُضْعِ أَحَدِكُمْ صَدَقَةٌ» قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ أَيَأْتِي أَحَدُنَا شَهْوَتَهُ وَيَكُونُ لَهُ فِيهِ أَجْرٌ فَقَالَ «أَرَأَيْتُمْ لَوْ وَضَعَهَا فِي الْحَرَامِ أَكَانَ عَلَيْهِ فِيهِ وِزْرٌ فَكَذَلِكَ إِذَا وَضَعَهَا فِي الْحَلَالِ كَانَ لَهُ أَجْرٌ»
✧ “In the private relations of one of you there is charity.” They said: O Messenger of Allah, if one of us fulfills his desire, will he have a reward for it? He said: “Do you think that if he were to put it in what is forbidden, there would be a sin upon him? Likewise, if he puts it in what is lawful, there is a reward for him.”
«لَا تَأْذَنِ الْمَرْأَةُ فِي بَيْتِ زَوْجِهَا وَهُوَ شَاهِدٌ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ»
✧ “A woman should not permit anyone in her husband’s house while he is present except with his permission.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4169No grade recorded
«لَوْلَا بَنُو إِسْرَائِيلَ لَمْ يَخْنَزِ الطَّعَامُ وَلَمْ يَخْنَزِ اللَّحْمُ وَلَوْلَا حَوَّاءُ لَمْ تَخُنْ أُنْثَى زَوْجَهَا»
✧ “Were it not for the Children of Israel, food would not spoil and meat would not become putrid. And were it not for Hawwa’, no female would ever betray her husband.”
«لَا يَحِلُّ لِامْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَصُومَ وَزَوْجُهَا شَاهِدٌ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَلَا تَأْذَنُ لِرَجُلٍ فِي بَيْتِهَا وَهُوَ لَهُ كَارِهٌ وَمَا تَصَدَّقَتْ مِنْ صَدَقَةٍ فَلَهُ نِصْفُ صَدَقَتِهَا وَإِنَّمَا خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ»
✧ “It is not lawful for a woman to fast while her husband is present except with his permission, nor to allow a man into his house when he dislikes it. And whatever charity she gives, half of its reward is his. She was created from a rib.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4171Hasan sahih
لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذُ بْنُ جَبَلٍ مِنَ الشَّامِ سَجَدَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَا هَذَا؟ » قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَدِمْتُ الشَّامَ فَرَأَيْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لِبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ وَأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ قَالَ «فَلَا تَفْعَلْ فَإِنِّي لَوْ أَمَرْتُ شَيْئًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِشَيْءٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ»
✧ When Mu‘adh b. Jabal came from Syria, he prostrated to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “What is this?” He said, “O Messenger of Allah, I came to Syria and saw them prostrating to their patricians and bishops, so I wanted to do that for you.” He said, “Do not do it. If I were to command anything to prostrate to anything, I would command a woman to prostrate to her husband. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, a woman does not fulfill the right of her Lord until she fulfills the right of her husband, such that if he were to ask her for herself while she is on a camel saddle, she would not refuse him.”
«أَيُّمَا رَجُلٍ دَعَا امْرَأَتَهُ فَلَمْ تُجِبْهُ فَبَاتَ سَاخِطًا عَلَيْهَا حَتَّى يُصْبِحَ لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ»
✧ “Any man who calls his wife and she does not respond to him, and he spends the night angry with her until morning, the angels curse her until she wakes.”
«إِذَا دَعَا أَحَدُكُمِ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ أَنْ تَجِيءَ لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ»
✧ “When one of you calls his wife to his bed and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4174No grade recorded
«إِذَا كَانَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ هَاجِرَةً لِفِرَاشِ زَوْجِهَا لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ»
✧ “When a woman abandons her husband’s bed, the angels curse her until she returns.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4175Hasan sahih
أَنَّ رَجُلًا سَأَلَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَا حَقُّ الْمَرْأَةِ عَلَى الزَّوْجِ؟ قَالَ «يُطْعِمُهَا إِذَا طَعِمَ وَيَكْسُوَهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَى ثُمَّ لَا يَضْرِبُ الْوَجْهَ وَلَا يُقَبِّحُ وَلَا يَهْجُرُ إِلَّا فِي الْبَيْتِ»
✧ A man asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, “What is the right of a wife upon her husband?” He said, “He should feed her when he eats and clothe her when he clothes himself. Then he should not strike the face, nor insult her, nor desert her except in the house.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4176Hasan sahih
«أَكْمَلُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِيمَانًا أَحْسَنُهُمْ خُلُقًا وَخِيَارُكُمْ خِيَارُكُمْ لِنِسَائِهِمْ»
✧ “The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4177No grade recorded
«خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرَكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي وَإِذَا مَاتَ صَاحِبُكُمْ فَدَعُوهُ»
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family; and when your companion dies, then leave him.”
«إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ فَإِنْ أَقَمْتَهَا كَسَرْتَهَا فَدَارِهَا تَعِشْ بِهَا»
✧ “Indeed, woman was created from a rib. If you try to straighten her, you will break her. So deal with her gently, and you will live with her.”
«إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ خُلِقَتْ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ وَلَنْ تَصْلُحَ لَكَ عَلَى طَرِيقَةٍ وَإِنِ اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهَا وَبِهَا عِوَجٌ وَإِنَّ تُرِدْ إِقَامَتَهَا تَكْسِرْهَا وَكَسْرُهَا طَلَاقُهَا»
✧ “Indeed, woman was created from a rib, and she will never be straight for you in any way. If you enjoy her, you enjoy her while she has a crookedness. And if you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.”
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4180Hasan sahih
«إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْمَرْأَةِ كَالضِّلَعِ إِنْ أَرَدْتَ إِقَامَتَهَا كُسِرَتْ وَإِنَّ تَسْتَمْتِعْ بِهَا تَسْتَمْتِعْ بِهَا وَفِيهَا عِوَجٌ فَاسْتَمْتِعْ بِهَا عَلَى مَا كَانَ مِنْهَا مِنْ عِوَجٍ»
✧ “The likeness of a woman is like a rib. If you try to straighten it, it breaks. If you enjoy it, you enjoy it while it has a crookedness. So enjoy it despite the crookedness in it.”
«إِنْ كُنْتُ لَآتِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ بِالْإِنَاءِ فَآخُذُهُ فَأَشْرَبُ مِنْهُ فَيَأْخُذُهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَيَضَعُ فَاهُ مَوْضِعَ فِيَّ وَإِنْ كُنْتُ لِآخُذُ الْعَرْقَ مِنَ اللَّحْمِ فَآكُلُهُ فَيَأْخُذُهُ فَيَضَعُ فَاهُ مَوْضِعَ فِيَّ فَيَأْكُلُهُ وَأَنَا حَائِضٌ»
✧ “I would bring the vessel to the Prophet ﷺ and take it and drink from it. The Prophet ﷺ would take it and place his mouth where my mouth had been. And I would take a piece of meat with bone and eat from it, and he would take it and place his mouth where my mouth had been and eat it, while I was menstruating.”
«نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَطْرُقَ الْمَرْءُ أَهْلَهُ لَيْلًا أَوْ يُخَوِّنَهُمْ وَيَلْتَمِسَ عَثَرَاتِهِمْ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade a man from coming to his family at night, or seeking to betray them, or looking into their faults.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4183No grade recorded
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ كَانَ يَمْكُثُ عِنْدَ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ وَيَشْرَبُ عِنْدَهَا عَسَلًا قَالَتْ فَتَوَاصَيْتُ أَنَا وَحَفْصَةُ إِنْ دَخَلَ عَلَيْنَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَلْتَقُلْ إِنِّي أَجِدُ مِنْكَ رِيحَ الْمَغَافِرِ فَدَخَلَ عَلَى إِحْدَاهُمَا فَقَالَتْ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «بَلْ شَرِبْتُ عِنْدَ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ عَسَلًا وَلَنْ أَعُودَ لَهُ فَنَزَلَتْ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ} الْآيَةَ»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ used to stay with Zaynab bt. Jahsh and drink honey at her place. She said: Hafsah and I agreed that if the Prophet ﷺ entered upon either of us, she should say, 'I detect on you the smell of maghafir.' So he entered upon one of them and she said that to him. He said, 'Rather, I drank honey at Zaynab bt. Jahsh's place, and I will never do so again.' Then the verse was revealed: {O Prophet, why do you prohibit...}.
«أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ سَأَلَتْ زَوْجَهَا طَلَاقَهَا مِنْ غَيْرِ بَأْسٍ فَحَرَامٌ عَلَيْهَا رَائِحَةُ الْجَنَّةِ»
✧ Any woman who asks her husband for divorce without any serious problem, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ اسْتَعْذَرَ أَبَا بَكْرٍ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ وَلَمْ يَظُنَّ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَنْ يَنَالَهَا بِالَّذِي نَالَهَا فَرَفَعَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَدَهُ فَلَطَمَهَا وَصَكَّ فِي صَدْرِهَا فَوَجَدَ مِنْ ذَلِكَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ وَقَالَ «يَا أَبَا بَكْرٍ مَا أَنَا بِمُسْتَعْذِرِكَ مِنْهَا بَعْدَهَا أَبَدًا»
✧ The Prophet ﷺ sought to excuse Abu Bakr regarding Aishah, and the Prophet ﷺ did not think that Abu Bakr would do to her what he did. Abu Bakr raised his hand and slapped her, and struck her chest. The Prophet ﷺ felt distressed at that and said, 'O Abu Bakr, I will never ask you to excuse her after this.'
أَنَّ الرِّجَالَ اسْتَأْذَنُوا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي ضَرْبِ النِّسَاءِ فَأَذِنَ لَهُمْ فَضَرَبُوهُنَّ فَبَاتَ فَسَمِعَ صَوْتًا عَالِيًا فَقَالَ «مَا هَذَا» قَالُوا أَذِنْتَ لِلرِّجَالِ فِي ضَرْبِ النِّسَاءِ فَضَرَبُوهُنَّ فَنَهَاهُمْ وَقَالَ «خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا مِنْ خَيْرِكُمْ لِأَهْلِي»
✧ The men asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ for permission to strike women, and he gave them permission. So they struck them. That night he heard a loud sound and said, 'What is this?' They said, 'You permitted men to strike women, so they struck them.' So he forbade them and said, 'The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.'
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4187No grade recorded
عَنِ الْمَرْأَتَيْنِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ اللَّتَيْنِ قَالَ اللَّهُ لَهُمَا {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللَّهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} حَتَّى حَجَّ فَحَجَجْتُ مَعَهُ فَعَدَلَ وَعَدَلْتُ مَعَهُ بِإِدَاوَةٍ فَتَبَرَّزَ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَسَكَبْتُ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ مِنَ الْإِدَاوَةٍ فَتَوَضَّأَ فَقُلْتُ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ مَنِ الْمَرْأَتَانِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ اللَّتَانِ قَالَ لَهُمَا اللَّهُ {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللَّهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} فَقَالَ عُمَرُ وَاعَجَبًا مِنْكَ يَا ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ هِيَ حَفْصَةُ وَعَائِشَةُ ثُمَّ اسْتَقْبَلَ عُمَرُ الْحَدِيثَ فَقَالَ «إِنِّي كُنْتُ أَنَا وَجَارٌ لِي مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فِي بَنِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ وَهُوَ مِنْ عَوَالِي الْمَدِينَةِ وَكُنَّا نَتَنَاوَبُ النُّزُولَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا وَأَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا فَإِذَا نَزَلْتُ جِئْتُهُ بِخَبَرِ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمِ مِنَ الْوَحْيِ وَغَيْرِهِ وَإِذَا نَزَلَ فَعَلَ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ وَكُنَّا مَعَاشِرَ قُرَيْشٍ نَغْلِبُ النِّسَاءَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا عَلَى الْأَنْصَارِ إِذَا قَوْمٌ تَغْلِبُهُمْ نِسَاؤُهُمْ فَطَفِقَ نِسَاؤُنَا يَأْخُذْنَ مِنْ نِسَاءِ الْأَنْصَارِ فَصَخِبَتْ عَلَيَّ امْرَأَتِي فَرَاجَعَتْنِي فَأَنْكَرْتُ أَنْ تُرَاجِعَنِي قَالَتْ وَلِمَ تُنْكِرُ أَنْ أُرَاجِعَكَ فَوَاللَّهِ إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ لَيُرَاجِعْنَهُ وَإِنَّ إِحْدَاهُنَّ لَتَهْجُرُهُ الْيَوْمَ حَتَّى اللَّيْلِ فَأَفْزَعَنِي ذَلِكَ فَقُلْتُ خَابَ مَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْهُنَّ ثُمَّ جَمَعْتُ عَلَيَّ ثِيَابِي فَنَزَلْتُ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ بِنْتِ عُمَرَ فَقُلْتُ لَهَا يَا حَفْصَةُ أَتُغْضِبُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَتَهْجُرُهُ الْيَوْمَ حَتَّى اللَّيْلِ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ قُلْتُ قَدْ خِبْتِ وَخَسِرْتِ أَفَتَأْمَنِينَ أَنْ يَغْضَبَ اللَّهُ لِغَضَبِ رَسُولِهِ ﷺ فَتَهْلِكِينَ؟ لَا تَسْتَنْكِرِي رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَلَا تُرَاجِعِيهِ وَلَا تَهْجُرِيهِ وَسَلِينِي مَا بَدَا لَكِ وَلَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ أَنْ كَانَتْ جَارَتُكِ هِيَ أَضْوَأَ وَأَحَبَّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُرِيدُ عَائِشَةَ قَالَ عُمَرُ وَقَدْ تُحِدِّثْنَا أَنَّ غَسَّانَ تَنْعَلُ الْخَيْلَ لِتَغْزُوَنَا فَنَزَلَ صَاحِبِي الْأَنْصَارِيُّ يَوْمَ نَوْبَتِهِ فَرَجَعَ إِلَيَّ عَشِيًّا فَضَرَبَ بَابِي ضَرْبًا شَدِيدًا فَفَزِعْتُ فَخَرَجْتُ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ قَدْ حَدَثَ أَمَرٌ عَظِيمٌ قُلْتُ مَا هُوَ أَجَاءَتْ غَسَّانُ قَالَ لَا بَلْ أَعْظَمُ وَأَطْوَلُ طَلَّقَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ نِسَاءَهُ قَالَ عُمَرُ قُلْتُ خَابَتْ حَفْصَةُ وَخَسِرَتْ قَدْ كُنْتُ أَظُنُّ أَنَّ هَذَا يُوشِكُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَالَ فَجَمَعْتُ عَلَيَّ ثِيَابِي فَصَلَّيْتُ صَلَاةَ الْفَجْرِ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَدَخَلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَشْرُبَةً لَهُ اعْتَزَلَ فِيهَا
✧ Regarding the two women among the Prophet's ﷺ wives to whom Allah said {If you two repent to Allah, your hearts have inclined}. This continued until he performed Hajj, and I performed Hajj with him. He turned aside, and I turned aside with him carrying a water-skin. He went to relieve himself, then came back, and I poured water over his hands from the water-skin, and he performed ablution. I said, 'O Commander of the Faithful, who are the two women among the Prophet's ﷺ wives to whom Allah said {If you two repent to Allah, your hearts have inclined}?' Umar said, 'How strange of you, O Ibn Abbas! They are Hafsah and Aishah.' Then Umar resumed his account and said: 'I and a neighbor of mine from the Ansar, in the Banu Umayyah b. Zayd, who lived in the upper part of Madinah, used to take turns going down to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. One day he would go down, and one day I would go down. When I went down, I would bring him the news of that day from the revelation and other matters; and when he went down, he did the same. We, the people of Quraysh, used to dominate our women. But when we came to the Ansar, we found a people whom their women dominated. So our women began to adopt the ways of the Ansari women. My wife raised her voice at me and talked back to me, and I disapproved of her talking back to me. She said, "Why do you disapprove of me talking back to you? By Allah, the wives of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ talk back to him, and one of them may shun him from day until night." That alarmed me, and I said, "Whoever among them does that will be in loss." Then I gathered my clothes and went down and entered upon Hafsah bt. Umar. I said to her, "O Hafsah, does one of you anger the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and shun him from day until night?" She said, "Yes." I said, "You have failed and lost. Do you feel secure that Allah will become angry for the anger of His Messenger ﷺ and you will perish? Do not ask the Messenger of Allah ﷺ for too much, do not talk back to him, do not shun him, and ask me for whatever you need. Do not be deluded because your neighbor is more radiant and more beloved to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ," meaning Aishah. Umar said: 'We had been told that Ghassan was shoeing horses to raid us. My Ansari companion went down on his day and returned to me in the evening. He knocked on my door violently, and I was alarmed and went out to him. He said, "A great matter has occurred." I said, "What is it? Has Ghassan come?" He said, "No, but something greater and more serious: the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has divorced his wives." Umar said: I said, "Hafsah has failed and lost. I already thought this would happen soon." He said: So I gathered my clothes and prayed the dawn prayer with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ went into a small upper room of his and isolated himself there.
لَمَّا اعْتَزَلَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ ﷺ نِسَاءَهُ دَخَلْتُ الْمَسْجِدَ وَالنَّاسُ يَنْكُتُونَ بِالْحَصَى وَيَقُولُونَ طَلَّقَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ نِسَاءَهُ وَذَلِكَ قَبْلُ أَنْ يُؤْمَرْنَ بِالْحِجَابِ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ لَأَعْلَمَنَّ ذَلِكَ الْيَوْمَ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى عَائِشَةَ فَقُلْتُ يَا بِنْتَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ لَقَدْ بَلَغَ مِنْ شَأْنِكِ أَنْ تُؤْذِيَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ قَالَتْ مَالِي وَمَالَكَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ عَلَيْكَ بِعَيْبَتِكَ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ بِنْتِ عُمَرَ فَقُلْتُ لَهَا يَا حَفْصَةُ لَقَدْ بَلَغَ مِنْ شَأْنُكِ أَنْ تُؤْذِيَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَقَدْ عَلِمْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ لَا يُحِبُّكِ وَلَوْلَا أَنَا لَطَلَّقَكِ فَبَكَتْ أَشَدَّ الْبُكَاءِ فَقُلْتُ أَيْنَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ؟ قَالَتْ هُوَ فِي خِزَانَتِهِ فِي الْمَشْرُبَةِ فَدَخَلْتُ فَإِذَا أَنَا بِرَبَاحٍ غُلَامٍ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَاعِدٍ عَلَى أُسْكُفَّةِ الْمَشْرُبَةِ مُدَلٍّ رِجْلَيْهِ عَلَى نَقِيرٍ مِنْ خَشَبٍ وَهُوَ جِذْعٌ يَرْقَى عَلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَيَنْحَدِرُ فَنَادَيْتُ يَا رَبَاحُ اسْتَأْذِنْ لِي عِنْدَكَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَنَظَرَ إِلَى الْغُرْفَةِ ثُمَّ نَظَرَ إِلَيَّ فَلَمْ يَقُلْ شَيْئًا فَقُلْتُ يَا رَبَاحُ اسْتَأْذِنْ لِي عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَإِنِّي أَظُنُّ رَسُولَ ﷺ ظَنَّ أَنِّي جِئْتُ مِنْ أَجْلِ حَفْصَةَ وَاللَّهِ لَئِنْ أَمَرَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِضَرْبِ عُنُقِهَا لَأَضْرِبَنَّ عُنُقَهَا وَرَفَعْتُ صَوْتِي فَأَوْمَأَ إِلَيَّ بِيَدِهِ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَهُوَ مُضْطَجِعٌ عَلَى حَصِيرٍ قَالَ فَجَلَسْتُ فَإِذَا عَلَيْهِ إِزَارٌ لَيْسَ عَلَيْهِ غَيْرُهُ وَإِذَا الْحَصِيرُ قَدْ أَثَّرَ فِي جَنْبِهِ فَنَظَرْتُ بِبَصَرِي فِي خِزَانَةِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَإِذَا بِقَبْضَةٍ مِنْ شَعِيرٍ نَحْوَ الصَّاعِ وَمِثْلُهَا قُرْظٌ فِي نَاحِيَةِ الْغُرْفَةِ وَإِذَا أَفِيقٌ قَالَ أَبُو حَفْصٍ الْأَفِيقُ الْإِهَابُ الَّذِي قَدْ ذَهَبَ شَعْرُهُ وَلَمْ يُدْبَغْ فَابْتَدَرَتْ عَيْنَايَ فَقَالَ «مَا يُبْكِيكَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ؟ » قُلْتُ يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ وَمَا لِي لَا أَبْكِي وَهَذَا الْحَصِيرُ قَدْ أَثَّرَ فِي جَنْبِكَ وَهَذِهِ خِزَانَتُكَ وَلَا أَرَى فِيهَا إِلَّا مَا أَرَى وَذَلِكَ قَيْصَرُ وَكِسْرَى فِي الثِّمَارِ وَالْأَنْهَارِ وَأَنْتَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ وَصَفْوَتُهُ وَهَذِهِ خِزَانَتُكَ قَالَ «يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ أَلَا تَرْضَى أَنْ تَكُونَ لَنَا الْآخِرَةُ وَلَهُمُ الدُّنْيَا؟ » قُلْتُ بَلَى فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَيْهِ وَأَنَا أَرَى فِي وَجْهِهِ الْغَضَبَ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا يَشُقُّ عَلَيْكَ مِنْ شَأْنِ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنْ كُنْتَ طَلَّقْتَهُنَّ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ وَمَلَائِكَتَهُ وَجِبْرِيلَ وَمِيكَائِيلَ وَأَنَا وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ مَعَكَ وَقَلَّمَا تَكَلَّمْتُ وَأَحْمَدُ اللَّهَ بِكَلَامٍ إِلَّا رَجَوْتُ أَنْ يَكُونَ اللَّهُ يُصَدِّقُ قُولِي وَأُنْزِلَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةُ آيَةُ التَّخْيِيرِ {عَسَى رَبُّهُ إِنْ طَلَّقَكُنَّ أَنْ يُبْدِلَهُ أَزْوَاجًا خَيْرًا مِنْكُنَّ} {وَإِنْ تَظَاهَرَا عَلَيْهِ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ مَوْلَاهُ} الْآيَةَ وَكَانَتْ عَائِشَةُ وَحَفْصَةُ تُظَاهِرَانِ عَلَى سَائِرِ نِسَاءِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَطَلَّقْتَهُنَّ؟ قَالَ «لَا» قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَأَنْزِلُ فَأُخْبِرُهُنَّ أَنَّكَ لَمْ تُطَلِّقْهُنَّ؟ قَالَ «نَعَمْ إِنَّ شِئْتَ» فَلَمْ أَزَلْ أُحَدِّثُهُ حَتَّى تَحَسَّرَ الْغَضَبُ عَنْ وَجْهِهِ وَحَتَّى كَشَّرَ فَضَحِكَ وَكَانَ مِنْ أَحْسَنِ النَّاسِ ثَغْرًا فَنَزَلَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَنَزَلْتُ أَتَشَبَّثُ بِالْجَذَعِ وَنَزَلَ كَمَا يَمْشِي عَلَى الْأَرْضِ مَا يَمَسُّهُ بِيَدِهِ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كُنْتَ فِي الْغُرْفَةِ تِسْعًا وَعِشْرِينَ فَقُمْتُ عَلَى بَابِ الْمَسْجِدِ فَنَادَيْتُ بِأَعْلَى صَوْتِي لَمْ يُطَلِّقِ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ نِسَاءَهُ وَنَزَلَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةُ {وَإِذَا جَاءَهُمْ أَمَرٌ مِنَ الْأَمْنِ أَوِ الْخَوْفِ أَذَاعُوا بِهِ} إِلَى قَوْلِهِ {لَعَلِمَهُ الَّذِينَ يَسْتَنْبِطُونَهُ مِنْهُمْ} فَكُنْتُ أَنَا اسْتَنْبَطْتُ ذَلِكَ الْأَمْرَ وَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ آيَةَ التَّخْيِيرِ «
✧ When the Prophet of Allah ﷺ isolated himself from his wives, I entered the mosque and the people were striking pebbles and saying, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ has divorced his wives.' That was before the women were commanded to observe hijab. Umar said: 'I will certainly know about it today.' So I entered upon Aishah and said, 'O daughter of Abu Bakr, has your matter reached the point that you offend Allah and His Messenger?' She said, 'What is it to you, O son of al-Khattab? Look after your own family.' Then I entered upon Hafsah bt. Umar and said to her, 'O Hafsah, has your matter reached the point that you offend Allah and His Messenger? I know that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ does not love you, and were it not for me, he would have divorced you.' She wept bitterly. I said, 'Where is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?' She said, 'He is in his storage room in the upper chamber.' So I went in, and there was Rabah, a servant of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, sitting on the threshold of the upper chamber, dangling his legs on a wooden notch—a trunk that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to climb up and descend on. I called, 'O Rabah, ask permission for me to see the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.' He looked at the room, then looked at me, but said nothing. I said, 'O Rabah, ask permission for me to see the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, for I think the Messenger of Allah ﷺ thought I came on behalf of Hafsah. By Allah, if the Messenger of Allah ﷺ commands me to strike her neck, I will strike her neck.' I raised my voice, and he gestured to me with his hand. So I entered upon the Messenger of Allah ﷺ while he was lying on a mat. He said: I sat down, and he had a waist-wrapper on, with nothing else, and the mat had left marks on his side. I looked around the storage room of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and saw a handful of barley, about a sa', and the like of it of qaraz in a corner of the room, and there was an untanned hide. Abu Hafs said: al-afiq is a hide whose hair has fallen off and has not been tanned. My eyes filled with tears, and he said, 'What makes you weep, O son of al-Khattab?' I said, 'O Prophet of Allah, why should I not weep? This mat has left marks on your side, and this is your storage room, and I see in it only what I see, while Caesar and Khosrau live amid fruits and rivers. You are the Messenger of Allah and His chosen one, and this is your storage room.' He said, 'O son of al-Khattab, are you not pleased that for us is the Hereafter and for them is this world?' I said, 'Yes.' I entered upon him and saw anger in his face. I said, 'O Messenger of Allah, what distresses you about the matter of women? If you have divorced them, then Allah and His angels, Jibril and Mikail, and I and Abu Bakr are with you. Seldom have I spoken—and I praise Allah—without hoping that Allah would confirm my words. And this verse, the verse of choice, was revealed: {Perhaps his Lord, if he divorces you, will give him in exchange wives better than you} and {If you two support one another against him, then Allah is his protector}—the verse. Aishah and Hafsah used to support one another against the rest of the Prophet's ﷺ wives. I said, 'O Messenger of Allah, have you divorced them?' He said, 'No.' I said, 'O Messenger of Allah, shall I go down and tell them that you have not divorced them?' He said, 'Yes, if you wish.' I kept talking to him until the anger left his face, and until he smiled and laughed. He had one of the most beautiful mouths of the people. Then the Prophet of Allah ﷺ descended, and I descended, holding onto the trunk. He came down as though walking on the ground, without touching it with his hand. I said, 'O Messenger of Allah, you were in the room for twenty-nine days.' Then I stood at the door of the mosque and called out at the top of my voice: 'The Prophet ﷺ has not divorced his wives.' And this verse was revealed: {When there comes to them a matter of security or fear, they spread it abroad} up to {those among them who could investigate it would have known it}. I was the one who investigated that matter. And Allah revealed the verse of choice.
«لَا تَضْرِبُوا إِمَاءَ اللَّهِ» قَالَ فَذَئِرَ النِّسَاءُ وَسَاءَتْ أَخْلَاقُهُنَّ عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ ذَئِرَ النِّسَاءُ وَسَاءَتْ أَخْلَاقُهُنَّ عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ مُنْذُ نَهَيْتَ عَنْ ضَرْبِهِنَّ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «فَاضْرِبُوا» فَضَرَبَ النَّاسُ نِسَاءَهُمْ تِلْكَ اللَّيْلَةَ فَأَتَى نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْتَكِينَ الضَّرْبَ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ حِينَ أَصْبَحَ «لَقَدْ طَافَ بِآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ اللَّيْلَةَ سَبْعُونَ امْرَأَةً كُلُّهُنَّ يَشْتَكِينَ الضَّرْبَ وَايْمُ اللَّهِ لَا تَجِدُونَ أُولَئِكَ خِيَارُكُمْ»
✧ Do not strike the maidservants of Allah. He said: The women became defiant and their behavior toward their husbands worsened. Umar b. al-Khattab said: 'The women have become defiant and their behavior toward their husbands has worsened since you forbade striking them.' The Prophet ﷺ said: 'Then strike them.' So the people struck their wives that night. Many women came complaining of the beating. In the morning, the Prophet ﷺ said: 'Seventy women went around the family of Muhammad last night, all complaining of beating. By Allah, you will not find those among the best of you.'
«عَلَامَ يَجْلِدُ أَحَدُكُمُ امْرَأَتَهُ جَلْدَ الْعَبْدِ ثُمَّ يُجَامِعُهَا فِي آخِرِ الْيَوْمِ»
✧ Why would one of you flog his wife like a slave, then have intercourse with her at the end of the day?
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4160Hasan sahih
«لَا تُبَاشِرِ الْمَرْأَةُ الْمَرْأَةَ كَأَنَّهَا تَنْعَتُهَا لِزَوْجِهَا أَوْ تَصِفُهَا لِرَجُلٍ كَأَنَّهُ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهَا»
✧ A woman should not have close contact with another woman such that she describes her to her husband, or describes her to a man as if he is looking at her.
«لَكَ فِي جِمَاعِ زَوْجَتِكَ أَجْرٌ» فَقِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَفِي شَهْوَةٍ يَكُونُ مِنْ أَجْرٍ قَالَ «نَعَمْ أَرَأَيْتُ لَوْ كَانَ لَكَ وَلَدٌ قَدْ أَدْرَكَ ثُمَّ مَاتَ أَكُنْتَ مُحْتَسِبَهُ؟ » قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ «أَنْتَ كُنْتَ خَلَقْتَهُ؟ » قَالَ بَلِ اللَّهُ خَلَقَهُ قَالَ «أَنْتَ كُنْتَ هَدَيْتَهُ؟ » قَالَ بَلِ اللَّهُ هَدَاهُ قَالَ «أَكُنْتَ تَرْزُقُهُ؟ » قَالَ بَلِ اللَّهُ كَانَ رَزَقَهُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «فَضَعْهُ فِي حَلَالِهِ وَجَنِّبْهُ حَرَامَهُ وَأَقْرِرْهُ فَإِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَحْيَاهُ وَإِنْ شَاءَ أَمَاتَهُ وَلَكَ أَجْرٌ»
✧ 'You have a reward in having intercourse with your wife.' It was said: 'O Messenger of Allah, is there a reward even in satisfying desire?' He said: 'Yes. Do you think that if you had a son who reached maturity and then died, would you seek reward for him?' He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Did you create him?' He said: 'No, Allah created him.' He said: 'Did you guide him?' He said: 'No, Allah guided him.' He said: 'Did you provide for him?' He said: 'No, Allah provided for him.' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'Then place it in what is lawful for you and keep it away from what is forbidden, and keep it. If Allah wills, He will give it life, and if He wills, He will cause it to die, and you will have a reward.'
أَنَّ بَعْضَ النَّاسِ سَأَلُوا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنْ شَأْنِ الْعَزْلِ وَذَلِكَ فِي غَزْوَةِ بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ وَكَانُوا أَصَابُوا سَبَايَا وَكَرِهُوا أَنْ يَلِدْنَ مِنْهُمْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «لَا عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ لَا تَفْعَلُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ قَدَّرَ مَا هُوَ خَالِقٌ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ»
✧ Some people asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ about coitus interruptus during the expedition of Banu al-Mustaliq. They had captured female captives and disliked that they should bear children from them. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'It does not matter if you do not do that, for Allah has decreed what He will create until the Day of Resurrection.'
أَنَّ رَجُلًا مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ جَاءَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنَّ عِنْدِي جَارِيَةً وَأَنَا أَعْزِلُ عَنْهَا فَقَالَ ﷺ «إِنَّهُ سَيَأْتِيهَا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهَا» ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ إِنَّهَا قَدْ حَمَلَتْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَا قَدَّرَ اللَّهُ نَسَمَةً تَخْرُجُ إِلَّا هِيَ كَائِنَةٌ»
✧ A man from the Ansar came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, "I have a slave girl and I practice coitus interruptus with her." He ﷺ said, "Indeed, what is decreed for her will come to her." Then he came to him after that and said, "She has become pregnant." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Whatever soul Allah has decreed to come forth, it will surely come to be."
«كُنَّا نَعْزِلُ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَمْ يَنْهَنَا عَنْهُ»
✧ "We used to practice coitus interruptus during the time of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he did not forbid us from it."
أَصَبْنَا سَبْيًا يَوْمَ خَيْبَرَ فَكُنَّا نُرِيدُ الْفِدَاءَ فَسَأَلْنَا النَّبِيَّ ﷺ عَنِ الْعَزْلِ فَقَالَ «لَا عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ لَا تَفْعَلُوا ذَلِكُمْ فَإِنَّمَا هُوَ الْقَدْرُ»
✧ We captured some captives on the day of Khaybar, and we wanted to ransom them. We asked the Prophet ﷺ about coitus interruptus, and he said: 'It does not matter if you do not do that, for it is only the decree.'
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4196No grade recorded
«لَقَدْ هَمَمْتُ أَنْ أَنْهَى عَنِ الْغِيلَةِ حَتَّى ذَكَرْتُ أَنَّ الرُّومَ وَفَارِسَ يَصْنَعُونَ ذَلِكَ فَلَا يَضُرُّ أَوْلَادَهُمْ»
✧ "I had intended to forbid al-ghīlah, until I remembered that the Byzantines and Persians do that and it does not harm their children."
«إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَسْتَحِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ لَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَعْجَازِهِنَّ»
✧ "Indeed, Allah is not shy of the truth. Do not come to women in their posteriors."
أَنَّ رَجُلًا قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ يَخْرُجُ مِنْ أَحَدُنَا الرُّوَيْحَةُ قَالَ «إِذَا فَسَا أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَتَوَضَّأْ وَلَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَعْجَازِهِنَّ»
✧ A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, one of us emits a slight wind." He said, "If one of you breaks wind, let him perform ablution, and do not come to women in their posteriors."
«إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَسْتَحِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ لَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَدْبَارِهِنَّ»
✧ "Indeed, Allah is not shy of the truth. Do not come to women in their anuses."
جَاءَ أَعْرَابِيٌّ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ إِنَّا نَكُونَ فِي أَرْضِ الْفَلَاةِ فَيَكُونُ مِنَّا الرُّوَيْحَةُ وَفِي الْمَاءِ قِلَّةٌ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «إِذَا فَسَا أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَتَوَضَّأْ وَلَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَعْجَازِهِنَّ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَسْتَحِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ»
✧ A Bedouin came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, "We are in a barren land, and one of us emits a slight wind, and water is scarce." The Prophet ﷺ said, "If one of you breaks wind, let him perform ablution, and do not come to women in their posteriors, for indeed Allah is not shy of the truth."
جَاءَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ هَلَكْتُ قَالَ «وَمَا أَهْلَكَكَ؟ » قَالَ حَوَّلْتُ رَحْلِيَ اللَّيْلَةَ قَالَ فَلَمْ يَرُدَّ عَلَيْهِ شَيْئًا فَأَوْحَى اللَّهُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ هَذِهِ الْآيَةَ {نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ}
✧ Umar b. al-Khattab came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, "I am ruined." He said, "And what has ruined you?" He said, "I turned my mount around tonight." He said, and the Prophet ﷺ did not reply to him at all, then Allah revealed to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ this verse: {Your wives are a tilth for you, so come to your tilth as you will}.
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4203Hasan sahih
«لَا يَنْظُرُ اللَّهُ إِلَى رَجُلٍ أَتَى امْرَأَةً فِي دُبُرِهَا»
✧ "Allah will not look at a man who comes to a woman in her anus."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4204Hasan sahih
«لَا يَنْظُرُ اللَّهُ إِلَى رَجُلٍ أَتَى امْرَأَتَهُ فِي دُبُرِهَا»
✧ "Allah will not look at a man who comes to his wife in her anus."
قَالَتِ الْيَهُودُ «إِنَّمَا يَكُونُ الْحَوَلُ إِذَا أَتَى الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ مِنْ خَلْفِهَا فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ {نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ} مِنْ قُدَّامِهَا وَمِنْ خَلْفِهَا وَلَا يَأْتِيهَا إِلَّا فِي الْمَأْتَى»
✧ The Jews said, "Squint-eyedness only occurs when a man approaches his wife from behind her." So Allah revealed, {Your wives are a tilth for you, so come to your tilth as you will} from in front of her or from behind her, but he should not come to her except in the place of cultivation.
«كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَسْتَأْذِنُنَا فِي يَوْمِ الْمَرْأَةِ مِنَّا بَعْدَمَا أُنْزِلَتْ {تُرْجِي مَنْ تَشَاءُ مِنْهُنَّ وَتُؤْوِي} إِلَيْكَ مَنْ تَشَاءُ» قَالَتْ مُعَاذَةُ فَمَا تَقُولِينَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا اسْتَأْذَنَكِ قَالَتْ أَقُولُ إِنْ كَانَ ذَاكَ إِلَيَّ لَمْ أُوثِرْ أَحَدًا عَلَى نَفْسِي
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to seek permission from us on the day of a woman among us after the revelation of: "You may defer whom you will of them, and you may receive whom you will" [33:51]. Mu'adhah said: "What would you say to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ when he sought your permission?" She said: "I would say: 'If that is up to me, I would not prefer anyone over myself.'"
«مَنْ كَانَتْ لَهُ امْرَأَتَانِ فَمَالَ مَعَ إِحْدَاهُمَا عَلَى الْأُخْرَى جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَأَحَدُ شِقَّيْهِ سَاقِطٌ»
✧ Whoever has two wives and inclines toward one of them over the other will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides sagging.
«سَبْعٌ لِلْبِكْرِ وَثَلَاثٌ لِلثَّيِّبِ»
✧ Seven [nights] for the virgin and three for the previously married.
حَفِظْنَاهُ عَنْ حُمَيْدٍ عَنْ أَنَسٍ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ مِثْلَهُُُُ
✧ We memorized it from Humayd, from Anas, from the Prophet ﷺ, the like of it.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَمَّا تَزَوَّجَهَا أَقَامَ عِنْدَهَا ثَلَاثًا وَقَالَ «لَيْسَ بِكِ عَلَى أَهْلِكِ هَوَانٌ إِنْ شِئْتِ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ فَإِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»
✧ When the Prophet ﷺ married her, he stayed with her three [nights] and said: "It is no dishonor to you among your family. If you wish, I will allocate seven [nights] for you; but if I allocate seven for you, I will allocate seven for my other wives."
مَا رَأَيْتُ امْرَأَةً أَحَبَّ إِلَيَّ مِنْ أَنْ أكُونَ فِي مِسْلَاخِهَا مِنْ سَوْدَةَ بِنْتِ زَمْعَةَ مِنِ امْرَأَةٍ فِيهَا حِدَةٌ فَلَمَّا كَبِرَتْ جَعَلَتْ يَوْمَهَا مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ لِعَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَدْ جَعَلْتُ يَوْمِي مِنْكَ لِعَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ «وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقْسِمُ لِعَائِشَةَ يَوْمَيْنِ يَوْمَهَا وَيَوْمَ سَوْدَةَ»
✧ I have not seen a woman I would rather be in her place than Sawdah bint Zam'ah, a woman who had some sharpness. When she grew old, she gave her day with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ to 'A'ishah. She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have given my day with you to 'A'ishah." She said: "And the Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to apportion for 'A'ishah two days: her day and Sawdah's day."
Sahih Ibn Hibban 4212No grade recorded
«أَيْ بَرِيرَةُ هَلْ رَأَيْتِ مِنَ عَائِشَةَ شَيْئًا يُرِيبُكِ؟ » قَالَتْ بَرِيرَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَالَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ مَا رَأَيْتُ عَلَيْهَا أَمْرًا قَطُّ أَغْمِضُهُ عَلَيْهَا أَكْثَرَ مِنْ أَنَّهَا جَارِيَةٌ حَدِيثَةُ السِّنِّ تَنَامُ عَنْ عَجِينِ أَهْلِهَا فَيَدْخُلُ الدَّاجِنُ فَيَأْكُلُهُ فَقَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَاسْتَعْذَرَ مِنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أُبَيٍّ ابْنِ سَلُولَ فَقَالَ وَهُوَ عَلَى الْمِنْبَرِ «يَا مَعْشَرَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ مَنْ يَعْذِرُنِي مِنْ رَجُلٍ بَلَغَ أَذَاهُ فِي أَهْلِ بَيْتِي؟ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْ أَهْلِي إِلَّا خَيْرًا وَلَقَدْ ذَكَرُوا رَجُلًا مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْهُ إِلَّا خَيْرًا وَمَا كَانَ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى أَهْلِي إِلَّا مَعِي» فَقَامَ سَعْدُ بْنُ مُعَاذٍ الْأَنْصَارِيُّ فَقَالَ أَنَا أَعْذِرُكَ مِنْهُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنْ كَانَ مِنَ الْأَوْسِ ضَرَبْنَا عُنُقَهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ مِنَ الْخَزْرَجِ أَمَرْتَنَا فَفَعَلْنَا أَمْرَكَ فَقَامَ سَعْدُ بْنُ عُبَادَةَ وَهُوَ سَيِّدُ الْخَزْرَجِ وَكَانَ رَجُلًا صَالِحًا وَلَكِنِ احْتَمَلَتْهُ الْحَمِيَّةُ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ مَا تَقْتُلُهُ وَلَا تَقْدِرُ عَلَى قَتْلِهِ فَقَامَ أُسَيْدُ بْنُ حُضَيْرٍ وَهُوَ ابْنُ عَمِّ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ فَقَالَ كَذَبْتَ لَعَمْرُ اللَّهِ لَنَقْتُلَنَّهُ فَإِنَّكَ مُنَافِقٌ تُجَادِلُ عَنِ الْمُنَافِقِينَ فَثَارَ الْحَيَّانِ الْأَوْسُ وَالْخَزْرَجُ حَتَّى هَمُّوا أَنْ يَقْتَتِلُوا وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُخَفِّضُهُمْ حَتَّى سَكَتُوا وَسَكَتَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَبَكَيْتُ يَوْمِي لَا يَرْقَأُ لِي دَمْعٌ وَلَا أَكْتَحِلُ بِنَوْمٍ وَأَبَوَايَ يَظُنَّانِ أَنَّ الْبُكَاءَ فَالِقُ كَبِدِي فَبَيْنَمَا هُمَا جَالِسَانِ عِنْدِي إِذِ اسْتَأْذَنَتْ عَلَيَّ امْرَأَةٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَأَذِنْتُ لَهَا فَجَلَسَتْ مَعِي فَبَيْنَمَا نَحْنُ عَلَى حَالِنَا ذَلِكَ إِذْ دَخَلَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَسَلَّمَ ثُمَّ جَلَسَ وَلَمْ يَكُنْ جَلَسَ قَبْلَ يَوْمِي ذَلِكَ مُذْ كَانَ مِنْ أَمْرِي مَا كَانَ وَلَبِثَ شَهْرًا لَا يُوحَى إِلَيْهِ قَالَتْ فَتَشَهَّدَ ثُمَّ قَالَ «أَمَّا بَعْدُ فَقَدْ بَلَغَنِي يَا عَائِشَةُ عَنْكِ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَإِنْ كُنْتِ بَرِيئَةً فَسَيُبَرِّئُكِ اللَّهُ وَإِنْ كُنْتِ أَلْمَمْتِ بِذَنْبٍ فَاسْتَغْفِرِي اللَّهَ وَتُوبِي فَإِنَّ الْعَبْدَ إِذَا اعْتَرَفَ بِالذَّنْبِ ثُمَّ تَابَ تَابَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ» فَلَمَّا قَضَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَقَالَتَهُ قَلَصَ دَمْعِي حَتَّى مَا أَحِسُّ مِنْهُ بِقَطْرَةٍ فَقُلْتُ لِأَبِي أَجِبْ عَنِّي رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ مَا أَدْرِي مَا أَقُولُ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ لِأُمِّي أَجِيبِي عَنِّي رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ لَا أَدْرِي مَا أَقُولُ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ وَأَنَا جَارِيَةٌ حَدِيثَةُ السِّنِّ لَا أَقْرَأُ كَثِيرًا مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ إِنِّي وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ عَرَفْتُ أَنَّكُمْ سَمِعْتُمْ بِذَاكَ حَتَّى اسْتَقَرَّ فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ وَصَدَّقْتُمْ بِهِ فَإِنْ قُلْتُ لَكُمْ إِنِّي بَرِيئَةٌ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ إِنِّي بَرِيئَةٌ لَمْ تُصَدِّقُونِي وَإِنِ اعْتَرَفْتُ لَكُمْ بِأَمْرٍ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ أَنِّي بَرِيئَةٌ لَتُصَدِّقُونِي وَإِنِّي وَاللَّهِ لَا أَجِدُ مَثَلِي وَمَثَلَكُمْ إِلَّا كَمَا قَالَ أَبُو يُوسُفَ {فَصَبْرٌ جَمِيلٌ وَاللَّهُ الْمُسْتَعَانُ عَلَى مَا تَصِفُونَ} ثُمَّ تَحَوَّلْتُ فَاضْطَجَعْتُ عَلَى فِرَاشِي وَأَنَا وَاللَّهِ حِينَئِذٍ أَعْلَمُ أَنِّي بَرِيئَةٌ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ جَلَّ وَعَلَا يُبَرِّئُنِي بِبَرَاءَتِي وَلَكِنْ لَمْ أَظُنُّ أَنَّ اللَّهَ جَلَّ وَعَلَا يُنَزِّلُ فِي شَأْنِي وَحْيًا يُتْلَى وَلَشَأْنِي كَانَ أَحْقَرَ فِي نَفْسِي مِنْ أَنْ يَتَكَلَّمَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ وَعَلَا فِيَّ بِأَمْرٍ يُتْلَى وَلَكِنْ أَرْجُو أَنْ يَرَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي مَنَامِهِ رُؤْيَا يُبَرِّئُنِي اللَّهُ بِهَا قَالَتْ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا رَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَجْلِسَهُ وَلَا خَرَجَ مِنَ الْبَيْتِ أَحَدٌ حَتَّى أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَلَى نَبِيِّهِ ﷺ فَأَخَذَهُ مَا كَانَ يَأْخُذُهُ مِنَ الْبُرَحَاءِ عِنْدَ الْوَحْيِ مِنْ ثِقَلِ الْقَوْلِ الَّذِي أُنْزِلَ عَلَيْهِ فَلَمَّا سُرِّيَ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ كَانَ أَوَّلُ كَلِمَةٍ تَكَلَّمَ بِهَا أَنْ قَالَ «يَا عَائِشَةُ أَمَا وَاللَّهِ فَقَدْ بَرَّأَكِ اللَّهُ» فَقَالَتْ لِي أُمِّي قُومِي إِلَيْهِ فَقُلْتُ وَاللَّهِ لَا أَقُومُ إِلَيْهِ وَلَا أَحْمَدُ إِلَّا اللَّهَ الَّذِي هُوَ أَنْزَلَ بَرَاءَتِي فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ {إِنَّ الَّذِينَ جَاءُوا بِالْإِفْكِ عُصْبَةٌ مِنْكُمْ} الْعَشْرُ الْآيَاتُ قَالَتْ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ هَذِهِ الْآيَاتِ فِي بَرَاءَتِي وَكَانَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ رِضْوَانُ اللَّهِ عَلَيْهِ يُنْفِقُ عَلَى مِسْطَحٍ لِقَرَابَتِهِ مِنْهُ وَفَقْرِهِ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَا أَنْفِقُ عَلَيْهِ أَبَدًا بَعْدَ الَّذِي قَالَ لِعَائِشَةَ مَا قَالَ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ {وَلَا يَأْتَلِ أُولُوا الْفَضْلِ مِنْكُمْ وَالسَّعَةِ} إِلَى قَوْلِهِ {أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أَنْ يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ} فَقَالَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لَأُحِبُّ أَنْ يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لِي فَرَجَعَ إِلَى مِسْطَحٍ بِالنَّفَقَةِ الَّتِي كَانَ يُنْفِقُ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَا أَنْزِعُهَا مِنْهُ أَبَدًا قَالَتْ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ سَأَلَ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتَ جَحْشٍ عَنْ أَمْرِي مَا عَلِمْتِ وَمَا رَأَيْتِ؟ فَقَالَتْ أَحْمِي سَمْعِي وَبَصَرِي مَا عَلِمْتُ إِلَّا خَيْرًا قَالَتْ وَهِيَ الَّتِي كَانَتْ تُسَامِينِي مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَصَمَهَا اللَّهُ بِالْوَرَعِ وَطَفِقَتْ أُخْتُهَا حَمْنَةُ بِنْتُ جَحْشٍ تُحَارِبُ لَهَا فَهَلَكَتْ فِيمَنْ هَلَكَ قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ «فَهَذَا مَا انْتَهَى إِلَيَّ مِنْ أَمْرِ هَؤُلَاءِ الرَّهْطِ»
✧ "O Barirah, have you seen anything from 'A'ishah that makes you doubt her?" Barirah said: "O Messenger of Allah, by the One who sent you with the truth, I have never seen a matter in her that I would conceal from her. Nothing is more [trivial] than that she is a young girl who sleeps away from the dough of her family, and a tame animal comes and eats it." Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ stood and sought to be excused from 'Abd Allah b. Ubayy b. Salul. He said while on the pulpit: "O assembly of Muslims, who will excuse me from a man whose harm has reached my household? By Allah, I know nothing but good about my family. They have mentioned a man about whom I know nothing but good, and he never entered upon my family except with me." Sa'd b. Mu'adh al-Ansari stood and said: "I will excuse you from him, O Messenger of Allah. If he is from Aws, we will strike his neck; and if he is from Khazraj, command us and we will do your command." Then Sa'd b. 'Ubadah stood—he was the chief of Khazraj and a righteous man, but zeal overcame him—and said: "By Allah, you will not kill him, nor are you able to kill him." Usayd b. Hudayr, the cousin of Sa'd b. Mu'adh, stood and said: "You lie, by the life of Allah, we will surely kill him. You are a hypocrite arguing on behalf of the hypocrites." The two tribes, Aws and Khazraj, became agitated until they were about to fight, while the Messenger of Allah ﷺ kept calming them until they fell silent. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then became silent. I wept all day; my tears did not cease and I could not sleep. My parents thought that weeping would split my liver. While they were sitting with me, a woman from the Ansar asked permission to enter upon me. I gave her permission and she sat with me. While we were in that state, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ entered, greeted, and sat down. He had not sat with me since my affair began. He remained a month without receiving revelation. She said: He then testified and said: "Now then, O 'A'ishah, such and such has reached me about you. If you are innocent, Allah will soon acquit you. If you have fallen into sin, then seek Allah's forgiveness and repent, for when a servant confesses a sin and then repents, Allah turns to him." When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ finished his speech, my tears stopped until I didn't feel even a drop. I said to my father: "Answer the Messenger of Allah ﷺ on my behalf." He said: "By Allah, I do not know what to say to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ." I said to my mother: "Answer the Messenger of Allah ﷺ on my behalf." She said: "By Allah, I do not know what to say to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ." I said, while I was a young girl who did not read much of the Qur'an: "By Allah, I knew that you had heard this and it settled in your hearts and you believed it. If I say to you that I am innocent—and Allah knows I am innocent—you will not believe me. If I confess to you a matter—and Allah knows I am innocent—you will believe me. By Allah, I find for myself and you no example except as Abu Yusuf said: 'So patience is most fitting, and Allah is the one sought for help against what you describe' [12:18]." Then I turned and lay down on my bed. At that time, by Allah, I knew I was innocent and that Allah, Mighty and Exalted, would acquit me. But I did not think that Allah, Mighty and Exalted, would send down revelation concerning my affair that would be recited. My affair was too insignificant in my own eyes for Allah, Mighty and Exalted, to speak about me with a matter to be recited. But I hoped that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would see in his sleep a vision through which Allah would acquit me. She said: By Allah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not leave his seat, nor did anyone leave the house, until Allah sent down [revelation] upon His Prophet ﷺ. He was seized by the same severity that would seize him at the time of revelation, from the weight of the words revealed to him. When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was relieved, the first words he spoke were: "O 'A'ishah, rejoice! By Allah, Allah has acquitted you." My mother said to me: "Get up and go to him." I said: "By Allah, I will not get up to him, and I praise none but Allah who sent down my acquittal." Then Allah sent down: "Indeed, those who came with falsehood are a group among you" [24:11], the ten verses. She said: So Allah sent down these verses concerning my acquittal. Abu Bakr, ؓ, used to spend on Mistah because of his kinship and his poverty. He said: "By Allah, I will never spend on him again after what he said about 'A'ishah." Then Allah sent down: "And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives" [24:22], until His saying: "Would you not love that Allah should forgive you?" [24:22]. Abu Bakr said: "By Allah, I love that Allah should forgive me." He resumed spending on Mistah and said: "By Allah, I will never withhold it from him." She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ had asked Zaynab bint Jahsh about my affair: "What do you know and what have you seen?" She said: "I protect my hearing and my sight. I know nothing but good." She said: She was the one among the wives of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who vied with me, but Allah protected her through piety. Her sister Hamnah bint Jahsh began to fight on her behalf and was destroyed among those who were destroyed. Al-Zuhri said: "This is what has reached me of the matter of these people."
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقْسِمُ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ فَيَعْدِلُ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ «اللَّهُمَّ هَذَا فِعْلِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ فَلَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا لَا أَمْلِكُ»
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to divide his time among his wives and be fair, then say, "O Allah, this is my action in what I possess, so do not blame me for what I do not possess."
بَيْنَا أَنَا وَابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ نَمْشِي بِالْمَدِينَةِ قَالَ فَلَقِيَ عُثْمَانُ بْنُ عَفَّانَ فَأَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ قَالَ فَقَامَا وَتَنَحَّيْتُ عَنْهُمَا فَلَمَّا رَأَى عَبْدُ اللَّهِ أَنْ لَيْسَ لَهُ حَاجَةٌ يَسِرُّهَا قَالَ ادْنُ عَلْقَمَةُ قَالَ فَانْتَهَيْتُ إِلَيْهِ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ أَلَا نُزَوِّجُكَ يَا عَبْدَ اللَّهِ جَارِيَةً لَعَلَّهَا أَنْ تُذَكِّرَكَ مَا فَاتَكَ؟ قَالَ فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ لَئِنْ قُلْتَ ذَلِكَ فَإِنَّا قَدْ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ شَبَابًا فَقَالَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَصُمْ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وَجَاءٌ»
✧ While I and Ibn Mas'ud were walking in the city, Uthman ibn Affan met us and took Ibn Mas'ud's hand. So they both stood up and I stepped aside. When Abdullah saw that he had no need for me to accompany him, he said, "Come, O Alqamah." I then approached him while he was saying, "Should we not marry you, Abdullah, to a girl who may remind you of what you have missed?" Abdullah replied, "If you say that, then indeed we were young with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he said to us, 'Whoever is able to marry, let him marry, for it will help him lower his gaze and guard his chastity. And whoever is unable to marry, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him." And this is the Islamic castration.