15. ✧ Marriage

al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1859No grade recorded
أَخَذَ عَلِيٌّ ؓ بِيَدِ كَعْبِ بْنِ عُجْرَةَ ؓ، فَأَقَامَهُ بَيْنَ السِّمَاطَيْنِ، فَقَالَ لَهُ: حَدِّثْ بِمَا سَمِعْتَ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ ! فَقَالَ ؓ: سَمِعْتُهُ يَقُولُ: « لَا تَحِلُّ ابْنَةُ الْأَخِ وَابْنَةُ الْأُخْتِ مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ
✧ 'Ali ؓ took Ka'b b. 'Ujrah ؓ by the hand and stood him between the two rows, then said to him: "Narrate what you heard from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ!" He ؓ said: "I heard him say: 'The daughter of a brother and the daughter of a sister through breastfeeding are not lawful (to marry).'"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1860No grade recorded
وُجِدَ فِي قَائِمِ سَيْفِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ... فَذَكَرَتِ الْحَدِيثَ، قَالَتْ: وَفِي الْآخِرِ: « وَلَا تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ عَلَى عَمَّتِهَا وَلَا عَلَى خَالَتِهَا، وَلَا تُسَافِرُ الْمَرْأَةُ ثَلَاثَ لَيَالٍ مَعَ غَيْرِ ذِي مَحْرَمٍ
✧ It was found on the hilt of the sword of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ... She mentioned the hadith and said: "And in the last part: 'A woman is not married in addition to her paternal aunt or her maternal aunt, and a woman does not travel three nights except with a mahram.'"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1861No grade recorded
« نَهَى رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَنْ تُنْكَحَ الْأَمَةُ عَلَى الْحُرَّةِ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade marrying a slave woman in addition to a free woman.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1862No grade recorded
« نِكَاحُ الْحُرَّةِ عَلَى الْأَمَةِ طَلَاقُ الْأَمَةِ
✧ Marrying a free woman in addition to a slave woman is a divorce of the slave woman.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1863No grade recorded
« أَيُّمَا رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ انْتَزَعْنَا مِنْهُ امْرَأَتَهُ، وَلَمْ نُجِزْ نِكَاحَهُ
✧ Any man who marries while he is in ihram, we take his wife away from him and we do not approve his marriage.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1864No grade recorded
إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ كَتَبَ كِتَابًا فِيهِ: « لَا جَلَبَ، وَلَا جَنَبَ، وَلَا وِرَاطَ، وَلَا شِغَارَ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ، وَكُلُّ مُسْكِرٍ حَرَامٌ، وَمَنْ أَجْبَا فَقَدْ أَرْبَا
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ wrote a document in which: "No jalab, no janab, no wirat, and no shighar in Islam. Every intoxicant is forbidden. Whoever practices ijba' has practiced riba."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1865No grade recorded
« الْمُحْرِمُ لَا يَنْكِحُ، وَلَا يَخْطُبُ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ، وَلَا عَلَى مَنْ سِوَاهُ
✧ The muhrim does not marry, nor does he propose for himself or for anyone else.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1866No grade recorded
خَطَبَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ... فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ، وَفِيهِ: « وَمَنْ مَشَى فِي تَزْوِيجِ رَجُلٍ حَلَالًا حَتَّى يَجْمَعَ بَيْنَهُمَا رَزَقَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى أَلْفَ امْرَأَةٍ مِنَ الْحُورِ الْعِينِ، كُلُّ امْرَأَةٍ فِي قَصْرٍ مِنْ دُرٍّ وَيَاقُوتٍ، وَكَانَ لَهُ بِكُلِّ خُطْوَةٍ خَطَاهَا، أَوْ كَلِمَةٍ تَكَلَّمَ بِهَا فِي ذَلِكَ - عِبَادَةُ سَنَةٍ، قِيَامُ لَيْلِهَا، وَصِيَامُ نَهَارِهَا. وَمَنْ مَشَى فِي صُلْحِ امْرَأَةٍ وَزَوْجِهَا كَانَ لَهُ أَجْرُ أَلْفِ شَهِيدٍ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ حَقًّا، وَكَانَ لَهُ بِكُلِّ خُطْوَةٍ عِبَادَةُ سَنَةٍ صِيَامُهَا وَقِيَامُهَا
✧ The Messenger of God ﷺ addressed us... and he mentioned the hadith, in which [he said]: "Whoever walks in arranging the marriage of a man lawfully until he brings them together, God Almighty will provide him with a thousand women from the houris of paradise, each woman in a palace of pearl and ruby, and for every step he takes or word he speaks in that matter he will have the worship of a year: standing in prayer its nights and fasting its days. And whoever walks in reconciling a woman and her husband will have the reward of a thousand martyrs truly slain in the path of God, and for every step he will have the worship of a year, its fasting and its standing in prayer."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1867No grade recorded
« خَيْرُكُنَّ أَيْسَرُكُنَّ صَدَاقًا
✧ "The best of you are the easiest of you in dowry."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1868No grade recorded
وَلَقِيتُهُ وَكَلَّمْتُهُ، قَالَ: قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، خَرَجْتُ مَعَ عَمٍّ لِي فِي سَفَرٍ، فَأَدْرَكَهُ الْحَفَا، فَقَالَ: أَعِرْنِي حِذَاءَكَ، فَقُلْتُ: لَا أُعِيرُكَهَا أَوْ تُزَوِّجُنِي ابْنَتَكَ. فَقَالَ: قَدْ زَوَّجْتُكَ ابْنَتِي. قَالَ: فَلَمَّا أَتَيْنَا أَهْلَنَا بَعَثَ إِلَيَّ حِذَائِي، وَقَالَ: لَا امْرَأَةَ لَكَ عِنْدِي. فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: « دَعْهَا، لَا خَيْرَ لَكَ فِيهَا
✧ And I met him and spoke to him. He said: I said, "O Messenger of God, I went out with an uncle of mine on a journey, and he suffered sore feet. He said, 'Lend me your sandals.' I said, 'I will not lend them to you unless you marry me to your daughter.' He said, 'I have married you to my daughter.'" He said: "When we came to our family, he sent me back my sandals and said, 'You have no wife with me.'" The Prophet ﷺ said: "Leave her; there is no good for you in her."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1869No grade recorded
« مَا اجْتَمَعَ أَمْرَانِ قَطُّ، إِلَّا كَانَ أَحَبُّهُمَا إِلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى أَيْسَرَهُمَا
✧ "Two matters never come together except that the more beloved of them to God Almighty is the easier of them."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1870No grade recorded
« مَنْ زَوَّجَ عَبْدًا لِلهِ تَعَالَى لَا يُزَوِّجُهُ إِلَّا لَهُ تَوَّجَهُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي الْجَنَّةِ تَاجًا يُعْرَفُ بِهِ
✧ "Whoever arranges a marriage for a servant of God Almighty, arranging it only for His sake, God, Mighty and Majestic, will crown him in Paradise with a crown by which he will be known."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1871No grade recorded
رَكِبَ عُمَرُ ؓ الْمِنْبَرَ مِنْبَرَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَ: لَا أَعْرِفَنَّ مَا زَادَ الصَّدَاقُ عَلَى أَرْبَعِمِائَةِ دِرْهَمٍ، ثُمَّ نَزَلَ. فَاعْتَرَضَتْهُ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ، فَقَالَتْ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، نَهَيْتَ النَّاسَ أَنْ يَزِيدُوا فِي صَدَقَاتِهِنَّ عَلَى أَرْبَعِمِائَةِ دِرْهَمٍ ؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ، قَالَتْ: أَمَا سَمِعْتَ اللهَ تَعَالَى يَقُولُ فِي الْقُرْآنِ: وَآتَيْتُمْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ قِنْطَارًا... الْآيَةَ ؟ فَقَالَ: اللَّهُمَّ غَفْرًا، كُلُّ النَّاسِ أَفْقَهُ مِنْ عُمَرَ. ثُمَّ رَجَعَ، فَرَكِبَ، فَقَالَ: أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ، إِنِّي كُنْتُ نَهَيْتُكُمْ أَنْ تَزِيدُوا فِي صَدَقَاتِهِنَّ عَلَى أَرْبَعِمِائَةِ دِرْهَمٍ، فَمَنْ شَاءَ أَنْ يُعْطِيَ مِنْ مَالِهِ مَا أَحَبَّ، أَوْ فَمَنْ طَابَتْ نَفْسُهُ فَلْيَفْعَلْ
✧ Umar ؓ mounted the pulpit, the pulpit of the Messenger of God ﷺ, and said: "I shall not acknowledge any increase in dowry above four hundred dirhams." Then he descended. A woman of Quraysh confronted him and said, "O Commander of the Believers, have you forbidden people to increase their women's dowries above four hundred dirhams?" He said, "Yes." She said, "Have you not heard God Almighty say in the Qur'an: 'And you have given one of them a qintar'... the verse?" He said, "O God, forgiveness! All the people are more knowledgeable than Umar." Then he returned, mounted, and said, "O people, I had forbidden you to increase their dowries above four hundred dirhams. Whoever wishes to give from his wealth whatever he likes, or whoever is pleased in himself, let him do so."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1872No grade recorded
« لَا جُنَاحَ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ بِمَا شَاءَ مِنْ مَالِهِ، قَلَّ أَوْ كَثُرَ، إِذَا أَشْهَدَ
✧ "There is no blame on a man to marry with whatever he wishes of his wealth, little or much, when he has witnesses."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1873No grade recorded
" « لَا جُنَاحَ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ بِمَا شَاءَ مِنْ مَالِهِ قَلَّ أَوْ كَثُرَ إِذَا أَشْهَدَ »" نوع="مرفوع"
✧ "There is no blame on a man to marry with whatever he wishes of his wealth, little or much, when he has witnesses." [Marfu']
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1874No grade recorded
كَانَ يَقْسِمُ الْغَنَمَ بَيْنَ أَصْحَابِهِ مِنَ الصَّدَقَةِ، فَتَقَعُ الشَّاةُ بَيْنَ الرَّجُلَيْنِ، فَيَقُولُ أَحَدُهُمَا: دَعْ لِي نَصِيبَكَ أَتَزَوَّجْ بِهِ !
✧ He used to divide the sheep among his companions from the charity, and a sheep would fall between two men, and one of them would say, "Leave me your share that I may marry with it!"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1875No grade recorded
« مَنِ اسْتَحَلَّ بِدِرْهَمٍ فَقَدِ اسْتَحَلَّ
✧ "Whoever makes lawful [a woman] for a dirham has made lawful [what is unlawful]."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1876No grade recorded
بَيْنَمَا أَبِي فِي غَزَاةٍ فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ قَدْ رَمِضُوا، فَقَالَ رَجُلٌ: مَنْ يُعْطِينِي نَعْلَيْهِ وَأُنْكِحُهُ أَوَّلَ ابْنَةٍ تَلِدُ لِي ؟ فَخَلَعَ أَبِي نَعْلَيْهِ فَأَلْقَاهُمَا إِلَيْهِ، فَوُلِدَ لِلرَّجُلِ جَارِيَةٌ فَبَلَغَتْ، فَقَالَ أَبِي: اجْمَعْ إِلَيَّ أَهْلِي، فَقَالَ: هَلُمَّ الصَّدَاقَ، فَقَالَ: وَاللهِ إِنِّي لَا أَزِيدُكَ عَلَى مَا أَعْطَيْتُكَ، لِلنَّعْلَيْنِ. فَقَالَ: آللهِ، لَا أُعْطِيكَهَا إِلَّا بِصَدَاقٍ. فَأَتَى أَبِي رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، فَسَأَلَهُ عَنْ ذَلِكَ، فَقَالَ: « أَلَا أُخْبِرُكَ بِمَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ ؟ تَدَعُهَا فَلَا تَحْنَثُ، وَلَا تُحْنِثُ صَاحِبَكَ ». فَتَرَكَهَا أَبِي
✧ While my father was on a raid in the pre-Islamic era, they suffered from the heat. A man said, "Who will give me his sandals, and I will marry him to the first daughter born to me?" My father took off his sandals and threw them to him. A girl was born to the man and reached maturity. My father said, "Gather my family to me," and then said, "Bring the dowry." He said, "By God, I will not give you more than what I gave you: the sandals." My father said, "By God, I will not give her to you except with a dowry." So my father came to the Messenger of God ﷺ and asked him about that. He said, "Shall I not inform you of what is better than that? Leave her, so you will not break your oath, and you will not cause your companion to break his." So my father left her.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1877No grade recorded
فِي رَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً وَبِهَا جُنُونٌ أَوْ جُذَامٌ أَوْ بَرَصٌ، قَالَ: « هِيَ امْرَأَتُهُ ; إِنْ شَاءَ طَلَّقَ، وَإِنْ شَاءَ أَمْسَكَ
✧ About a man who married a woman and she had insanity, leprosy, or vitiligo, he said: "She is his wife; if he wishes, he divorces, and if he wishes, he keeps her."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1878No grade recorded
إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَكَ يَفْخَرْنَ عَلَيَّ، يَقُلْنَ: لَمْ يَتَزَوَّجْكِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ، إِنَّمَا أَنْتِ مِلْكُ يَمِينٍ ! فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « أَلَمْ أُعْظِمْ صَدَاقَكِ ؟ أَلَمْ أُعْتِقْ أَرْبَعِينَ مِنْ قَوْمِكِ
✧ Your wives indeed boast over me. They say: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not marry you; you are only a possession of the right hand! So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Did I not make your dowry substantial? Did I not free forty of your people?"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1879No grade recorded
« إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ جَعَلَ عِتْقَهَا صَدَاقَهَا، أَمْهَرَهَا نَفْسَهَا
✧ "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ made her manumission her dowry; he gave her herself as her dowry."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1880No grade recorded
« أَنَّ رَجُلًا تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً فَجَهَّزَهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ، وَلَمْ يُعْطِ شَيْئًا
✧ "A man married a woman, and the Prophet ﷺ outfitted her, but he did not give anything."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1881No grade recorded
« مَنْ شَهِدَ إِمْلَاكَ رَجُلٍ مُسْلِمٍ فَكَأَنَّمَا صَامَ يَوْمًا فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ تَعَالَى، وَالْيَوْمُ بِسَبْعِمِائَةٍ
✧ "Whoever witnesses the marriage contract of a Muslim man, it is as if he fasted a day in the path of Allah, the Exalted, and the day is equivalent to seven hundred."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1882No grade recorded
قِيلَ لِعَائِشَةَ ؓ: إِنَّ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ يَقُولُ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « الشُّؤْمُ فِي ثَلَاثَةٍ: فِي الدَّارِ، وَالْمَرْأَةِ، وَالْفَرَسِ ». فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ ؓ: لَمْ يَحْفَظْ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ ; لِأَنَّهُ دَخَلَ وَرَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ: « قَاتَلَ اللهُ الْيَهُودَ ! يَقُولُونَ: الشُّؤْمُ فِي ثَلَاثَةٍ: فِي الدَّارِ، وَالْمَرْأَةِ، وَالْفَرَسِ ». فَسَمِعَ آخِرَ الْحَدِيثِ، وَلَمْ يَسْمَعْ أَوَّلَهُ.
✧ It was said to ʿĀʾishah ؓ: 'Indeed Abū Hurayrah ؓ says: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Ill omen is in three things: in the house, the woman, and the horse."' Then ʿĀʾishah ؓ said: 'Abū Hurayrah ؓ did not memorize it well; because he entered while the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was saying: "May Allah fight the Jews! They say: Ill omen is in three things: in the house, the woman, and the horse." He heard the end of the hadith but did not hear its beginning.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1883No grade recorded
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ تَزَوَّجَهَا وَهُوَ مُحْرِمٌ، يَعْنِي مَيْمُونَةَ، وَكَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ وَسَعِيدُ بْنُ الْمُسَيِّبِ يُنْكِرَانِ ذَلِكَ
✧ He said: "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her while he was in a state of iḥrām," meaning Maymūnah. And Ibn ʿUmar and Saʿīd b. al-Musayyib used to reject that.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1884No grade recorded
خَطَبَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ، فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ، وَفِيهِ: « مَنْ ظَلَمَ امْرَأَةً مَهْرَهَا فَهُوَ عِنْدَ اللهِ تَعَالَى زَانٍ، وَيَقُولُ اللهُ تَعَالَى لَهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ: عَبْدِي، زَوَّجْتُكَ عَلَى عَهْدِي، فَلَمْ تَعْرِفْ بِعَهْدِي ؟ فَيَتَوَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالَى طَلَبَ حَقِّهَا، فَيَسْتَوْعِبُ حَسَنَاتِهِ كُلَّهَا، فَمَا بَقِيَ مِنْهُ، فَيُؤْمَرُ بِهِ إِلَى النَّارِ. وَمَنْ كَانَ لَهُ امْرَأَتَانِ فَلَمْ يَعْدِلْ بَيْنَهُمَا فِي الْقَسْمِ مِنْ نَفْسِهِ وَمَالِهِ جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَغْلُولًا، مَائِلًا شِقُّهُ، حَتَّى يَدْخُلَ النَّارَ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ delivered a sermon to us, and he mentioned the hadith, in which is: "Whoever wrongs a woman by withholding her dowry, then he is, in the sight of Allah, the Exalted, an adulterer. And Allah, the Exalted, will say to him on the Day of Resurrection: 'My servant, I gave you in marriage upon My covenant, yet you did not honor My covenant?' Then Allah, the Exalted, will take charge of seeking her right, and He will exhaust all his good deeds, and whatever remains of them, it will be commanded that he be taken to the Fire. And whoever has two wives and does not treat them justly in the division of his self and his wealth, he will come on the Day of Resurrection fettered, with his side leaning, until he enters the Fire."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1885No grade recorded
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يُحْمَلُ إِلَى نِسَائِهِ وَهُوَ مَرِيضٌ، فَيَعْدِلُ بَيْنَهُنَّ فِي الْقَسْمِ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to be carried to his wives while he was ill, and he would divide justly among them.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1886No grade recorded
كَانَ إِذَا أَرَادَ سَفَرًا أَقْرَعَ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ، فَأَصَابَتِ الْقُرْعَةُ عَائِشَةَ ؓ فِي غَزْوَةِ بَنِي الْمُصْطَلِقِ
✧ He used to draw lots between his wives when he intended to travel. And the lot fell to ʿĀʾishah ؓ in the expedition of Banū al-Muṣṭaliq.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1887No grade recorded
أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ عُمَرَ ؓ قَالَ لِعُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ: اخْطُبْ عَلَيَّ ابْنَةَ صَالِحٍ ! فَقَالَ: لَهُ يَتَامَى، وَلَمْ يَكُنْ لِيُؤْثِرَنَا عَلَيْهِمْ. فَانْطَلَقَ عَبْدُ اللهِ إِلَى عَمِّهِ زَيْدِ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، لِيَخْطُبَ عَلَيْهِ، فَانْطَلَقَ بِهِ إِلَى صَالِحٍ، فَقَالَ: إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ عُمَرَ أَرْسَلَنِي إِلَيْكَ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكَ، فَقَالَ: لِي يَتَامَى، وَلَمْ أَكُنْ لِأُتْرِبَ لَحْمِي وَأَرْفَعَ لَحْمَكُمْ ! إِنِّي أُشْهِدُكُمْ أَنِّي قَدْ أَنْكَحْتُهَا فُلَانًا. وَكَانَ هَوَى أُمِّهَا إِلَى عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَأَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، خَطَبَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ ابْنَتِي، فَأَنْكَحَهَا أَبُوهَا يَتِيمًا فِي حِجْرِهِ وَلَمْ يُؤَامِرْهَا، فَأَرْسَلَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِلَى صَالِحٍ فَقَالَ: « أَنْكَحْتَ ابْنَتَكَ، وَلَمْ تُؤَامِرْهَا ؟ » قَالَ: نَعَمْ. فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « أَشِيرُوا عَلَى النِّسَاءِ فِي أَنْفُسِهِنَّ »، مَرَّتَيْنِ. فَقَالَ صَالِحٌ: إِنَّمَا فَعَلْتُ هَذَا لِمَا يُصْدِقُهَا ابْنُ عُمَرَ، فَإِنَّ لَهَا مِنْ مَالِي مِثْلَ مَا أَعْطَاهَا
✧ ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar ؓ said to ʿUmar b. al-Khaṭṭāb ؓ: "Seek for me the daughter of Ṣāliḥ in marriage." He said: "He has orphans, and he would not prefer us over them." So ʿAbd Allah went to his paternal uncle Zayd b. al-Khaṭṭāb to seek her hand for him. He took him to Ṣāliḥ and said: "ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar sent me to you to ask for your daughter's hand." He said: "I have orphans, and I would not let my own flesh suffer while raising yours in status. I call you to witness that I have married her to so-and-so." Her mother's inclination was towards ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar ؓ, so she came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar proposed to my daughter, but her father married her to an orphan under his care without consulting her." So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent for Ṣāliḥ and said: "You married off your daughter without consulting her?" He said: "Yes." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Consult women about themselves," twice. Then Ṣāliḥ said: "I only did this because of what Ibn ʿUmar would give her as a dowry, for she has from my wealth the like of what he would give her."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1888No grade recorded
كَانَ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يُزَوِّجَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ قَالَ: « إِنَّ فُلَانَ بْنَ فُلَانٍ يَذْكُرُ فُلَانَةَ بِنْتَ فُلَانٍ
✧ Whenever he wanted to give one of his women in marriage, he would say: "Indeed so-and-so son of so-and-so mentions so-and-so daughter of so-and-so."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1889No grade recorded
إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَرَقَّ بَيْنَ جَارِيَةٍ بِكْرٍ وَبَيْنَ زَوْجِهَا، زَوَّجَهَا أَبُوهَا وَهِيَ كَارِهَةٌ، قَالَ: وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا زَوَّجَ أَحَدًا مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَتَى خِدْرَهَا وَقَالَ: « إِنَّ فُلَانًا يَذْكُرُ فُلَانَةً
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ separated a virgin girl from her husband; her father had given her in marriage while she was unwilling. He said: And whenever the Messenger of Allah ﷺ gave one of his daughters in marriage, he would come to her curtain and say: "Indeed so-and-so mentions so-and-so."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1890No grade recorded
« يَا أَعْرَابِيُّ، الشَّبَقُ وَالْجُوعُ ؟ » قَالَ: هُوَ ذَاكَ، قَالَ ﷺ: « فَاذْهَبْ، فَأَوَّلُ امْرَأَةٍ تَلْقَاهَا لَيْسَ لَهَا زَوْجٌ فَهِيَ امْرَأَتُكَ ». فَقَالَ الْأَعْرَابِيُّ: فَدَخَلْتُ نَخْلَ بَنِي النَّجَّارِ، فَإِذَا جَارِيَةٌ تَخْتَرِفُ فِي زِنْبِيلٍ، فَقُلْتُ لَهَا: يَا ذَاتَ الزِّنْبِيلِ، هَلْ لَكِ زَوْجٌ ؟ قَالَتْ: لَا، قَالَ: انْزِلِي، فَقَدْ زَوَّجَنِيكِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ، قَالَ: فَنَزَلَتْ، فَانْطَلَقْتُ مَعَهَا إِلَى مَنْزِلِهَا، فَقَالَتْ لِأَبِيهَا: إِنَّ هَذَا الْأَعْرَابِيَّ أَتَانِي وَأَنَا أَخْتَرِفُ فِي الزِّنْبِيلِ، فَسَأَلَنِي: هَلْ لَكِ زَوْجٌ ؟ فَقُلْتُ: لَا، فَقَالَ: انْزِلِي، فَقَدْ زَوَّجَنِيكِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ. فَخَرَجَ أَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ إِلَى الْأَعْرَابِيِّ، فَقَالَ الْأَعْرَابِيُّ: مَا ذَاتُ الزِّنْبِيلِ مِنْكَ ؟ قَالَ: ابْنَتِي، قَالَ: هَلْ لَهَا زَوْجٌ ؟ قَالَ: لَا، قَالَ: فَقَدْ زَوَّجَنِيهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ. فَانْطَلَقَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ وَأَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَأَخْبَرَهُ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « هَلْ لَهَا زَوْجٌ ؟ » قَالَ: لَا، قَالَ ﷺ: « اذْهَبْ، فَأَحْسِنْ جِهَازَهَا، ثُمَّ ابْعَثْ بِهَا إِلَيْهِ ». فَانْطَلَقَ أَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ فَجَهَّزَ ابْنَتَهُ، وَأَحْسَنَ الْقِيَامَ عَلَيْهَا، ثُمَّ بَعَثَ مَعَهَا بِتَمْرٍ وَلَبَنٍ. فَجَاءَتْ بِهِ إِلَى بَيْتِ الْأَعْرَابِيِّ، وَانْصَرَفَ الْأَعْرَابِيُّ إِلَى بَيْتِهِ، فَرَأَى جَارِيَةً مُصَنَّعَةً، وَرَأَى تَمْرًا وَلَبَنًا، فَقَامَ إِلَى الصَّلَاةِ. فَلَمَّا طَلَعَ الْفَجْرُ غَدَا إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، وَغَدَا أَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ عَلَى ابْنَتِهِ، فَقَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا قَرُبَنَا وَلَا قَرُبَ تَمْرَنَا وَلَا لَبَنَنَا ! قَالَ: فَانْطَلَقَ أَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَأَخْبَرَهُ، فَدَعَا الْأَعْرَابِيَّ فَقَالَ: « يَا أَعْرَابِيُّ، مَا مَنَعَكَ أَنْ تَكُونَ أَلْمَمْتَ بِأَهْلِكَ ؟ » قَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، انْصَرَفْتُ مِنْ عِنْدِكَ، وَدَخَلْتُ الْمَنْزِلَ وَإِذَا بِجَارِيَةٍ مُصَنَّعَةٍ، وَرَأَيْتُ تَمْرًا وَلَبَنًا، فَكَانَ يَجِبُ عَلَيَّ أَنْ أُحْيِيَ لَيْلَتِي إِلَى الصُّبْحِ - يَعْنِي شُكْرًا - فَقَالَ ﷺ: « يَا أَعْرَابِيُّ، اذْهَبْ فَأَلِمَّ بِأَهْلِكَ ».
✧ "O Bedouin, lust and hunger?" He said: That is it. He ﷺ said: "Go, and the first woman you meet who has no husband, she is your wife." The Bedouin said: I entered the palm grove of Banu al-Najjar, and there was a young woman picking dates into a basket. I said to her: O owner of the basket, do you have a husband? She said: No. He said: Come down, for the Messenger of God ﷺ has married you to me. He said: She came down, and I went with her to her house. She said to her father: This Bedouin came to me while I was picking dates into the basket, and he asked me: Do you have a husband? I said: No. He said: Come down, for the Messenger of God ﷺ has married you to me. The girl's father came out to the Bedouin, and the Bedouin said: What is the owner of the basket to you? He said: My daughter. He said: Does she have a husband? He said: No. He said: The Messenger of God ﷺ has married her to me. The girl and her father went to the Messenger of God ﷺ, and he informed him. The Messenger of God ﷺ said: "Does she have a husband?" He said: No. He ﷺ said: "Go, prepare her trousseau well, then send her to him." The girl's father went and prepared his daughter, and took good care of her, then sent with her dates and milk. She brought them to the Bedouin's house, and the Bedouin returned to his house. He saw a well-adorned young woman, and he saw dates and milk, so he stood up to pray. When dawn broke, he went early to the Messenger of God ﷺ, and the girl's father went early to his daughter. She said: By God, he did not approach us, nor did he approach our dates or our milk! He said: The girl's father went to the Messenger of God ﷺ and informed him. He called the Bedouin and said: "O Bedouin, what prevented you from being intimate with your wife?" He said: O Messenger of God, I left you and entered the house, and there was a well-adorned young woman, and I saw dates and milk, so it was incumbent upon me to spend my night until morning in prayer—meaning out of gratitude. He ﷺ said: "O Bedouin, go and be intimate with your wife."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1891No grade recorded
إِنَّ جُلَيْبِيبًا كَانَ امْرَأً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، وَكَانَ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَيَتَحَدَّثُ إِلَيْهِنَّ. قَالَ أَبُو بَرْزَةَ ؓ: فَقُلْتُ لِامْرَأَتِي: اتَّقُوا، لَا يَدْخُلَنَّ عَلَيْكُنَّ جُلَيْبِيبٌ ! قَالَ: وَكَانَ أَصْحَابُ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ لِأَحَدِهِمْ أَيِّمٌ لَمْ يُزَوِّجُوهَا حَتَّى يَعْلَمَ هَلْ لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فِيهَا حَاجَةٌ أَوْ لَا. فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ لِرَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ: « يَا فُلَانُ، زَوِّجْنِي ابْنَتَكَ » ! قَالَ: نِعِمَّ، وَنُعْمَةُ عَيْنٍ ! قَالَ ﷺ: « إِنِّي لَسْتُ لِنَفْسِي أُرِيدُهَا »، قَالَ: فَلِمَنْ ؟ قَالَ ﷺ: « لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ ». قَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، نَسْتَأْمِرُ أُمَّهَا. فَأَتَى فَقَالَ: إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكِ، قَالَتْ: نِعِمَّ، وَنُعْمَةُ عَيْنٍ ! تُزَوِّجُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ ! قَالَ: إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ لِنَفْسِهِ يُرِيدُهَا، قَالَتْ: فَلِمَنْ ؟ قَالَ: لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ، قَالَتْ: حَلْقَى ! أَلِجُلَيْبِيبٍ ؟ لَا، لَعَمْرُ اللهِ لَا أَرْفَعُ جُلَيْبِيبًا. فَلَمَّا قَامَ أَبُوهَا لِيَأْتِيَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ، قَالَتِ الْفَتَاةُ مِنْ خِدْرِهَا لِأَبَوَيْهَا: مَنْ خَطَبَنِي إِلَيْكُمْ ؟ قَالَا: رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ، قَالَتْ: أَتَرُدُّونَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ أَمْرَهُ ؟ ادْفَعُونِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَإِنَّهُ لَنْ يُضَيِّعَنِي. فَذَهَبَ أَبُوهَا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ: شَأْنَكَ بِهَا، فَزَوَّجَهَا جُلَيْبِيبًا. قَالَ حَمَّادٌ: قَالَ لِي إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ قُلْتُ لِثَابِتٍ: هَلْ تَدْرِي مَا دَعَا ﷺ لَهَا بِهِ ؟ قَالَ: اللَّهُمَّ صُبَّ عَلَيْهِمَا الْخَيْرَ صَبًّا، وَلَا تَجْعَلْ عَيْشَهُمَا كَدًّا كَدًّا ! قَالَ ثَابِتٌ: فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ
✧ Julaybib was a man from the Ansar, and he used to enter upon women and converse with them. Abu Barzah ؓ said: I said to my wife: Beware, let not Julaybib enter upon you! He said: The companions of the Prophet ﷺ, when one of them had an unmarried woman, they would not marry her off until they knew whether the Messenger of God ﷺ had a need for her or not. One day the Messenger of God ﷺ said to a man from the Ansar: "O so-and-so, marry your daughter to me!" He said: Yes, and a delight to the eye! He ﷺ said: "I do not want her for myself." He said: Then for whom? He ﷺ said: "For Julaybib." He said: O Messenger of God, let me consult her mother. He went and said: The Messenger of God ﷺ is proposing to your daughter. She said: Yes, and a delight to the eye! You are marrying the Messenger of God ﷺ! He said: He does not want her for himself. She said: Then for whom? He said: For Julaybib. She said: Woe to me! For Julaybib? No, by the life of God, I will not raise Julaybib. When her father got up to go to the Prophet ﷺ, the young woman said from her chamber to her parents: Who proposed to me to you? They said: The Messenger of God ﷺ. She said: Would you reject the command of the Messenger of God ﷺ? Give me to the Messenger of God ﷺ, for he will never waste me. Her father went to the Prophet ﷺ and said: She is yours to deal with. So he married her to Julaybib. Hammad said: Ishaq b. Abdullah b. Abi Talhah said to me: I said to Thabit: Do you know what he ﷺ supplicated for her? He said: O God, pour abundant good upon them, and do not make their livelihood a constant struggle! Thabit said: So he married her to him.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1892No grade recorded
تَابَعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فِي نِسْوَةٍ، فَقَالَ لَنَا: « فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ ؟ » فَقُلْنَا: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، بَايِعْنَا ! فَقَالَ ﷺ: « إِنِّي لَا أُصَافِحُكُنَّ، إِنَّمَا آخُذُ عَلَيْكُنَّ مَا أَخَذَهُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ
✧ I followed the Messenger of God ﷺ among women, and he said to us: "As much as you are able." We said: O Messenger of God, accept our pledge! He ﷺ said: "I do not shake hands with you; I only take from you what God, Mighty and Majestic, has taken."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1893No grade recorded
إِنَّمَا بَايَعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَوْمَ بَايَعَ النِّسَاءَ، قَالَتْ: فَمَدَدْتُ يَدِي لِأُبَايِعَهُ، فَقَبَضَ يَدَهُ وَقَالَ: « لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ، وَلَكِنْ إِنَّمَا آخُذُ عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْقَوْلِ
✧ I pledged allegiance to the Messenger of God ﷺ on the day he took the pledge from women. She said: I extended my hand to pledge to him, but he withdrew his hand and said: "I do not shake hands with women, but I only take from them by word."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1894No grade recorded
« كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ لَا يُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ
✧ "The Messenger of God ﷺ did not shake hands with women."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1895No grade recorded
سَعْدُ بْنُ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ ؓ: « بَيْنَا أَنَا أَطُوفُ بِالْبَيْتِ إِذْ رَأَيْتُ امْرَأَةً فَأَعْجَبَتْنِي »، وَكَانَ يُقَالُ: لَا يَضُرُّكَ حُسْنُ امْرَأَةٍ لَا تَعْرِفُهَا
✧ Sa'd b. Abi Waqqas ؓ said: "While I was circumambulating the House, I saw a woman and she pleased me." And it was said: The beauty of a woman you do not know does not harm you.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1896No grade recorded
« زِنَا الْعَيْنَيْنِ النَّظَرُ
✧ "The fornication of the two eyes is looking."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1897No grade recorded
خَطَبَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ، فَذَكَرَ حَدِيثًا، وَفِيهِ: « وَمَنْ أَصَابَ مِنِ امْرَأَةٍ نَظْرَةً حَرَامًا مَلَأَ اللهُ عَيْنَيْهِ نَارًا، ثُمَ أَمَرَ بِهِ إِلَى النَّارِ، فَإِنْ غَضَّ بَصَرَهُ عَنْهَا أَدْخَلَ اللهُ قَلْبَهُ مَحَبَّتَهُ وَرَحْمَتَهُ، وَأَمَرَ بِهِ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ. وَمَنْ صَافَحَ امْرَأَةً حَرَامًا جَاءَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَغْلُولَةً يَدَاهُ إِلَى عُنُقِهِ، ثُمَّ يُؤْمَرُ بِهِ إِلَى النَّارِ، فَإِنْ فَاكَهَهَا حُبِسَ بِكُلِّ كَلِمَةٍ فِي الدُّنْيَا أَلْفَ عَامٍ ». وَفِي الْحَدِيثِ: « وَاشْتَدَّ غَضَبُ اللهِ عَلَى امْرَأَةٍ ذَاتِ بَعْلٍ مَلَأَتْ عَيْنَيْهَا مِنْ غَيْرِ زَوْجِهَا، أَوْ غَيْرِ ذِي رَحِمٍ مِنْهَا، فَإِذَا فَعَلَتْ ذَلِكَ أَحْبَطَ اللهُ كُلَّ عَمَلٍ عَمِلَتْهُ، فَإِنْ أَوْطَأَتْ فِرَاشَهُ غَيْرَهُ كَانَ حَقًّا عَلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى أَنْ يُجَرِّعَهَا النَّارَ مِنْ يَوْمِ تَمُوتُ فِي قَبْرِهَا
✧ The Messenger of God ﷺ addressed us, and he mentioned a hadith, and in it: "Whoever casts an unlawful glance at a woman, God will fill his eyes with fire, then order him to the Fire. But if he lowers his gaze from her, God will put love and mercy into his heart, and order him to Paradise. And whoever shakes hands with a woman unlawfully will come on the Day of Resurrection with his hands chained to his neck, then be ordered to the Fire. And if he jokes with her, he will be detained for every word in this world for a thousand years." And in the hadith: "God's anger intensifies against a married woman who fills her eyes with someone other than her husband or a close relative. If she does that, God will nullify every deed she has done. And if she lets someone else lie in his bed, it is incumbent upon God, Exalted is He, to make her swallow fire from the day she dies in her grave."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1898No grade recorded
« الْإِثْمُ حَوَازُ الْقُلُوبِ، وَمَا كَانَ مِنْ نَظْرَةٍ فَإِنَّ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهَا مَطْمَعًا
✧ "Sin is what stirs in the hearts, and any glance, the devil has an appetite in it."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1899No grade recorded
« ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا تَرَى أَعْيُنُهُمُ النَّارَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ: عَيْنٌ بَكَتْ مِنْ خَشْيَةِ اللهِ تَعَالَى، وَعَيْنٌ حَرَسَتْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ، وَعَيْنٌ غَضَّتْ عَنْ مَحَارِمِ اللهِ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى
✧ "Three eyes will not see the Fire on the Day of Resurrection: an eye that wept from fear of God, Exalted is He; an eye that kept watch in the path of God, Mighty and Majestic; and an eye that lowered its gaze from what God, Blessed and Exalted, has forbidden."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1900No grade recorded
« غَطِّي عَنَّا قَنَازِعَكِ يَا أُمَّ أَيْمَنَ
✧ "Cover your forelocks from us, O Umm Ayman."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1901No grade recorded
« كُنْتُ رَدِيفَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، وَأَعْرَابِيٌّ مَعَهُ ابْنَةٌ لَهُ حَسْنَاءُ، فَجَعَلَ الْأَعْرَابِيُّ يَعْرِضُهَا لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ رَجَاءَ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا
✧ "I was riding behind the Messenger of God ﷺ, and there was a Bedouin with a beautiful daughter of his. The Bedouin began to present her to the Messenger of God ﷺ hoping that he would marry her."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1902No grade recorded
« خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ
✧ The best of you are those who are best to their families.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1903No grade recorded
إِنَّ عَائِشَةَ ؓ زَوَّجَتِ ابْنَةَ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ مِنَ الْمُنْذِرِ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، فَقَالَ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ: تُزَوِّجِينَ بِنْتَ رَجُلٍ بِغَيْرِ أَمْرِهِ ؟ فَغَضِبَتْ عَائِشَةُ ؓ وَقَالَتْ لِلْمُنْذِرِ: « لِتُمَلِّكْهَا أَمْرَهَا ؟ فَفَعَلَ، فَلَمْ يَرَوْهُ شَيْئًا
✧ Aishah ؓ married the daughter of Abd al-Rahman to al-Mundhir b. al-Zubayr. Abd al-Rahman said, "You marry a man's daughter without his command?" Aishah ؓ became angry and said to al-Mundhir, "Let her own her affair." He did so, and they did not consider it anything.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1904No grade recorded
آمَتْ حَفْصَةُ مِنْ زَوْجِهَا، وَآمَ عُثْمَانُ مِنْ رُقَيَّةَ، فَمَرَّ عُمَرُ بِعُثْمَانَ، فَقَالَ: هَلْ لَكَ فِي حَفْصَةَ، فَقَدِ انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا ؟ فَلَمْ يُحِرْ إِلَيْهِ شَيْئًا، فَأَتَى النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ، فَقَالَ: « فَأَنَا أَتَزَوَّجُ حَفْصَةَ، وَأُزَوِّجُ عُثْمَانَ أُخْتَهَا أُمَّ كُلْثُومٍ ». فَقَالَ عُمَرُ: فَنِعْمَ. فَتَزَوَّجَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ حَفْصَةَ، وَزَوَّجَ عُثْمَانَ أُمَّ كُلْثُومٍ
✧ Hafsah became husbandless after her husband, and Uthman became wifeless after Ruqayyah. Umar passed by Uthman and said, "Would you like Hafsah? Her waiting period has ended." He did not respond to him at all. So he came to the Prophet ﷺ and mentioned that to him. He said, "I will marry Hafsah, and I will marry Uthman to her sister Umm Kulthum." Umar said, "Excellent." So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ married Hafsah and married Uthman to Umm Kulthum.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1905No grade recorded
كُنْتُ مَعَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فِي سَفَرٍ، فَعَرَّسْنَا ذَاتَ لَيْلَةٍ، ثُمَّ غَدَوْنَا عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَجَعَلَ يَسْأَلُ رَجُلًا رَجُلًا: « أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا فُلَانُ ؟ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا فُلَانُ ؟ »، ثُمَّ قَالَ: « تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا كَعْبُ ؟ »، قُلْتُ: نَعَمْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، قَالَ ﷺ: « أَبِكْرًا، أَمْ ثَيِّبًا ؟ »، قُلْتُ: ثَيِّبًا. قَالَ: « فَهَلَّا بِكْرًا تَعَضُّهَا وَتَعَضُّكَ.
✧ I was with the Prophet ﷺ on a journey, and we camped one night. Then we went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ in the morning. He began asking one man after another: "Did you marry, O so-and-so? Did you marry, O so-and-so?" Then he said, "Did you marry, O Ka'b?" I said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He ﷺ said, "A virgin or a previously married woman?" I said, "A previously married woman." He said, "Why not a virgin, so that you could play with her and she could play with you?"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1906No grade recorded
كُنْتُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ: « يَا فُلَانُ، أَتَزَوَّجْتَ ؟ » قَالَ: لَا، قَالَ: فَقَالَ لِي: « تَزَوَّجْتَ ؟ »، قُلْتُ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: « أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا
✧ I was with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he said, "O so-and-so, did you marry?" He said, "No." He said, then he said to me, "Did you marry?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a previously married woman?"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1907No grade recorded
« أَتَزَوَّجَتْ يَا فُلَان أَتَزَوَّجَتْ يَا فُلَان » ثُمَّ قَالَ « تَزَوَّجَتْ يَا كَعْب » قُلْت نَعَم يَا رَسُول اللهِ قَالَ ﷺ « أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا » قُلْت ثَيِّبًا قَالَ « فَهَلَّا بَكَّرَا تَعَضُّهَا وَتَعَضُّك »" نوع="مرفوع"
✧ "Did you marry, O so-and-so? Did you marry, O so-and-so?" Then he said, "Did you marry, O Ka'b?" I said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He ﷺ said, "A virgin or a previously married woman?" I said, "A previously married woman." He said, "Why not a virgin, so that you could play with her and she could play with you?"
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1908No grade recorded
« كَانَ الْحَسَنُ ؓ يَكْرَهُ أَنْ يُزَوِّجَ الْيَتِيمَ وَالْيَتِيمَةَ حَتَّى يَبْلُغَا
✧ Al-Hasan ؓ disliked marrying off an orphan boy or girl until they reached puberty.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1909No grade recorded
خَرَجْتُ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فِي حَجَّةِ الْوَدَاعِ، وَأَخْرَجَ مَعَهُ نِسَاءَهُ ؓ. قَالَتْ: وَكَانَ مَتَاعِي فِيهِ خِفَّةٌ، فَكَانَ عَلَى جَمَلٍ نَاجٍ. وَكَانَ مَتَاعُ صَفِيَّةَ بِنْتِ حُيَيٍّ ؓ فِيهِ ثِقَلٌ، وَكَانَ عَلَى جَمَلٍ ثَقَالٍ بَطِيءٍ يَنْتَظِرُ بِالرَّكْبِ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « حَوِّلُوا مَتَاعَ عَائِشَةَ عَلَى جَمَلِ صَفِيَّةَ، وَحَوِّلُوا مَتَاعَ صَفِيَّةَ عَلَى جَمَلِ عَائِشَةَ، حَتَّى يَمْضِيَ الرَّكْبُ ». فَلَمَّا رَأَيْتُ ذَلِكَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ ؓ: قُلْتُ: يَا لَمَعَاذَ اللهِ ! غَلَبَتْ هَذِهِ الْيَهُودِيَّةُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ ! قَالَتْ: فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « يَا أُمَّ عَبْدِ اللهِ، إِنَّ مَتَاعَكِ كَانَ فِيهِ خَفٌّ، وَكَانَ مَتَاعُ صَفِيَّةَ فِيهِ ثِقَلٌ، فَأَبْطَأَ الرَّكْبُ، فَحَوَّلْنَا مَتَاعَهَا عَلَى بَعِيرِكِ، وَحَوَّلْنَا مَتَاعَكِ عَلَى بَعِيرِهَا » ! قَالَتْ: فَقُلْتُ: أَلَسْتَ تَزْعُمُ أَنَّكَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ؟ قَالَتْ: فَتَبَسَّمَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ، وَقَالَ: « أَفِيَّ شَكٌّ أَنْتِ يَا أُمَّ عَبْدِ اللهِ ؟ » قَالَتْ: قُلْتُ: أَلَسْتَ تَزْعُمُ أَنَّكَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ؟ فَهَلَّا عَدَلْتَ ؟ وَسَمِعَنِي أَبُو بَكْرٍ ؓ، وَكَانَ فِيهِ غَرْبٌ، أَيْ حِدَّةٌ، فَأَقْبَلَ عَلَيَّ فَلَطَمَ وَجْهِي، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « مَهْلًا يَا أَبَا بَكْرٍ »، فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، أَمَا سَمِعْتَ ؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « إِنَّ الْغَيْرَى لَا تَنْظُرُ أَسْفَلَ الْوَادِي مِنْ أَعْلَاهُ
✧ I went out with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ on the Farewell Pilgrimage, and he brought his wives ؓ with him. She said: My baggage was light, so it was on a swift camel. The baggage of Safiyyah bt. Huyayy ؓ was heavy, so it was on a slow, heavy camel that held back the caravan. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Transfer Aishah's baggage onto Safiyyah's camel, and transfer Safiyyah's baggage onto Aishah's camel, so that the caravan can proceed." When I saw that, Aishah ؓ said: I said, "O refuge with Allah! Has this Jewess prevailed over the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?" She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "O Umm Abd Allah, your baggage was light, and Safiyyah's baggage was heavy, so the caravan was delayed. We transferred her baggage onto your camel and your baggage onto her camel." She said: I said, "Do you not claim that you are the Messenger of Allah?" She said: The Prophet ﷺ smiled and said, "Are you in doubt about me, O Umm Abd Allah?" She said: I said, "Do you not claim that you are the Messenger of Allah? Then why did you not act justly?" Abu Bakr ؓ heard me, and he had sharpness, that is, a temper. He came to me and slapped my face. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Gently, O Abu Bakr." He said, "O Messenger of Allah, did you not hear?" The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "A jealous woman cannot see the bottom of the valley from its top."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1910No grade recorded
إِنَّ امْرَأَةً مِنْ جُرَشَ أَتَتِ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ عَلَى بَعِيرٍ، فَنَادَتْ: يَا عَائِشَةُ، أَعِينِينِي بِدَعْوَةٍ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، تُسْكِنُنِي أَوْ تُطَيِّبُنِي بِهَا ! وَأَنَّهُ قَالَ لَهَا: « ضَعِي يَدَكِ الْيُمْنَى عَلَى فُؤَادِكِ فَامْسَحِيهِ، وَقُولِي: بِسْمِ اللهِ، اللَّهُمَّ دَاوِنِي بِدَوَائِكَ، وَاشْفِنِي بِشِفَائِكَ، وَأَغْنِنِي بِغِنَاكَ وَبِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ، وَاحْدِرْ عَنِّي أَذَاكَ
✧ A woman from Jurash came to the Prophet ﷺ on a camel and called out, "O Aishah, help me with a supplication from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ to calm me or comfort me." He said to her, "Place your right hand on your heart and wipe it, and say: In the name of Allah; O Allah, heal me with Your healing, cure me with Your cure, enrich me with Your richness and Your bounty from all besides You, and avert from me Your harm."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1911No grade recorded
أَكْرَيْتُ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ جَرِيرٍ فِي الْحَجِّ، فَقَدِمَ عَلَى عُمَرَ ؓ، فَسَأَلَهُ عَنْ أَشْيَاءَ، فَكَانَ مِمَّا سَاءَلَهُ قَالَ: كَيْفَ وَجَدْتَ نِسَاءَكَ ؟ قَالَ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، مَا أَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ أُقَبِّلَ امْرَأَةً مِنْهُنَّ فِي غَيْرِ يَوْمِهَا إِلَّا اتَّهَمَتْنِي، وَمَا خَرَجْتُ لِحَاجَةٍ إِلَّا قَالَتْ: كُنْتَ عِنْدَ فُلَانَةَ، كُنْتَ عِنْدَ فُلَانَةَ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ: إِنَّ كَثِيرًا مِنْهُنَّ لَا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ، وَلَا يُؤْمِنُ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ، وَلَعَلَّ أَحَدًا مَا يَكُونُ فِي حَاجَةِ بَعْضِهِنَّ، أَوْ يَأْتِي السُّوقَ فَيَشْتَرِي الْحَاجَةَ لِبَعْضِهِنَّ فَتَتَّهِمُهُ. فَقَالَ ابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ ؓ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، أَمَا عَلِمْتَ أَنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ خَلِيلَ الرَّحْمَنِ شَكَا إِلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى ذَرَبًا فِي خُلُقِ سَارَةَ، فَقَالَ لَهُ: « إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ كَالضِّلْعِ ; إِنْ تَرَكْتَهَا اعْوَجَّتْ، وَإِنْ قَوَّمْتَهَا كُسِرَتْ ; فَاسْتَمْتِعْ بِهَا عَلَى مَا فِيهَا ». فَضَرَبَ عُمَرُ ؓ بَيْنَ كَتِفَيِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ ؓ، وَقَالَ: لَقَدْ جَعَلَ اللهُ فِي قَلْبِكَ يَا ابْنَ مَسْعُودٍ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ غَيْرَ قَلِيلٍ ؟
✧ I rented out Abd Allah b. Jarir for the Hajj. He came to Umar ؓ, and Umar asked him about things. Among what he asked was: "How did you find your wives?" He said, "O Commander of the Faithful, I cannot kiss any of them on a day that is not her day without her accusing me, and I do not go out for an errand without her saying, 'You were with so-and-so, you were with so-and-so.'" Umar ؓ said, "Many of them do not believe in Allah and do not trust the believers. Perhaps one of them is in need, or goes to the market to buy something for one of them, and she accuses him." Ibn Mas'ud ؓ said, "O Commander of the Faithful, did you not know that Ibrahim, the Friend of the Merciful, complained to Allah Almighty about sharpness in Sarah's character, and He said to him, 'The woman is like a rib; if you leave her, she remains crooked, and if you straighten her, she breaks. So enjoy her despite her faults.'" Umar ؓ struck Ibn Mas'ud ؓ between his shoulders and said, "Allah has placed in your heart, O Ibn Mas'ud, no small amount of knowledge."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1912No grade recorded
أَكْرَيْتُ فِي الْحَجِّ فَدَخَلْتُ الْمَسْجِدَ، فَإِذَا عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ قَاعِدٌ، وَجَرِيرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ ؓ فِي نَاسٍ، فَقَالَ عُمَرُ لِجَرِيرٍ
✧ I rented myself out for the Hajj and entered the mosque. There was Umar b. al-Khattab ؓ sitting, and Jarir b. Abd Allah ؓ among people. Umar said to Jarir...
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1913No grade recorded
« إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ كَالضِّلَعِ إِنْ تَرَكَتْهَا اعْوَجَّتْ وَإِنْ قَوَّمَتْهَا كَسَرَتْ فَاسْتَمْتَعَ بِهَا عَلَى مَا فِيهَا » فَضَرْبٌ عُمَر ؓ بَيْنَ كَتِفَيْ ابْن مَسْعُود ؓ وَقَالَ لَقَدْ جَعَلَ الله فِي قَلْبِك يَا ابْن مَسْعُود مِنْ الْعِلْمِ غَيْر قَلِيل فَأَقَرَّ بِهِ أَبُو أُسَامَة وَقَالَ نَعَم" نوع="موقوف"
✧ "The woman is like a rib; if you leave her, she remains crooked, and if you straighten her, she breaks. So enjoy her despite her faults." Umar ؓ struck Ibn Mas'ud ؓ between his shoulders and said, "Allah has placed in your heart, O Ibn Mas'ud, no small amount of knowledge." Abu Usamah affirmed it and said, "Yes."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1914No grade recorded
« أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ، إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ عِنْدَكُمْ عَوَانٍ، أَخَذْتُمُوهُنَّ بِأَمَانَةِ اللهِ تَعَالَى، وَاسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ فُرُوجَهُنَّ بِكَلِمَةِ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ، وَلَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ حَقٌّ، وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقٌّ. وَمِنْ حَقِّكُمْ أَنْ لَا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ مَنْ تَكْرَهُونَ، وَلَا يَعْصِينَكُمْ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ. فَإِذَا فَعَلْنَ فَلَهُنَّ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ، وَإِذَا ضَرَبْتُمْ فَاضْرِبُوا ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ
✧ O people, women among you are like captives. You have taken them as a trust from Allah, and you have made their private parts lawful by the word of Allah. You have rights over them, and they have rights over you. Among your rights is that they should not allow anyone you dislike to tread on your beds, and that they should not disobey you in what is right. If they do that, then they are entitled to their provision and clothing with kindness. And if you strike them, strike in a way that is not severe.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1915No grade recorded
وَقَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ بِهَذَا.:
✧ And 'Abd b. Humayd said: Abu Bakr b. Abi Shaybah narrated to us with this.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1916No grade recorded
قَالَتْ صَفِيَّةُ: انْتَهَيْتُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، وَمَا أَحَدٌ مِنَ النَّاسِ أَكْرَهَ إِلَيَّ مِنْهُ، فَجَعَلَ يَقُولُ: « إِنَّ قَوْمَكِ صَنَعُوا كَذَا وَكَذَا، وَصَنَعُوا كَذَا وَكَذَا »، فَمَا قُمْتُ مِنْ مَقْعَدِي ذَلِكَ، حَتَّى مَا كَانَ أَحَدٌ أَحَبَّ إِلَيَّ مِنْهُ
✧ Safiyyah said: I came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and there was no one among the people more hateful to me than him. He began to say: 'Your people did such and such, and they did such and such.' I did not rise from that seat of mine until no one was dearer to me than him.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1917No grade recorded
خَطَبَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ: « وَمَنْ نَكَحَ امْرَأَةً فِي دُبُرِهَا، أَوْ رَجُلًا، أَوْ صَبِيًّا - يَجِيءُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَهُوَ أَنْتَنُ مِنَ الْجِيفَةِ »... الْحَدِيثَ. وَسَيَأْتِي إِنْ شَاءَ اللهُ تَعَالَى بَقِيَّتُهُ فِي الْحَدِيثِ، وَفِيهِ: « وَأَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ آذَتْ زَوْجَهَا لَمْ تُقْبَلْ صَلَاتُهَا وَلَا حَسَنَةٌ مِنْ عَمَلِهَا حَتَّى تُعِينَهُ، وَتُرْضِيَهُ، وَلَوْ صَامَتِ الدَّهْرَ، وَقَامَتْ، وَأَعْتَقَتِ الرِّقَابَ، وَحَمَلَتْ عَلَى الْجِهَادِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ تَعَالَى - لَكَانَتْ أَوَّلَ مَنْ يَرِدُ النَّارَ، إِذَا لَمْ تُرْضِهِ وَتُعِنْهُ ». وَقَالَ: « وَعَلَى الرَّجُلِ مِثْلُ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْعَذَابِ وَالْوِزْرِ إِذَا كَانَ لَهَا مُؤْذِيًا ظَالِمًا، وَمَنْ أَضَرَّ بِامْرَأَةٍ حَتَّى تَفْتَدِيَ مِنْهُ لَمْ يَرْضَ اللهُ تَعَالَى لَهُ بِعُقُوبَةٍ دُونَ النَّارِ؛ لِأَنَّ اللهُ تَعَالَى يَغْضَبُ لِلْمَرْأَةِ كَمَا يَغْضَبُ لِلْيَتِيمِ. وَأَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ اخْتَلَعَتْ مِنْ زَوْجِهَا لَمْ تَزَلْ فِي لَعْنَةِ اللهِ تَعَالَى وَلَعْنَةِ الْمَلَائِكَةِ وَرُسُلِهِ، وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ. فَإِذَا نَزَلَ بِهَا مَلَكُ الْمَوْتِ قَالَ لَهَا: ادْخُلِي النَّارَ مَعَ الدَّاخِلِينَ. أَلَا وَإِنَّ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ بَرِيئَانِ، فَمَنْ أَضَرَّ بِامْرَأَةٍ حَتَّى تَخْتَلِعَ مِنْهُ. وَمَنْ صَبَرَ عَلَى سُوءِ خُلُقِ امْرَأَتِهِ، وَاحْتَسَبَ الْأَجْرَ عَلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى - أَعْطَاهُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ مِنَ الثَّوَابِ مِثْلَ مَا أَعْطَى أَيُّوبَ عَلَى بَلَائِهِ، وَكَانَ عَلَيْهَا مِنَ الْوِزْرِ فِي كُلِّ يَوْمٍ وَلَيْلَةٍ مِثْلُ رَمْلِ عَالِجٍ؛ فَإِنْ مَاتَتْ قَبْلَ أَنْ تُعِينَهُ وَتُرْضِيَهُ حُشِرَتْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْكُوسَةً مَعَ الْمُنَافِقِينَ فِي الدَّرْكِ الْأَسْفَلِ مِنَ النَّارِ. وَمَنْ كَانَتْ لَهُ امْرَأَةٌ، فَلَمْ تُوَافِقْهُ، وَلَمْ تَصْبِرْ عَلَى مَا رَزَقَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى، وَشَقَّتْ عَلَيْهِ، وَحَمَّلَتْهُ مَا لَا يَقْدِرُ عَلَيْهِ - لَمْ تُقْبَلْ لَهَا حَسَنَةٌ، فَإِنْ مَاتَتْ عَلَى ذَلِكَ حُشِرَتْ مَعَ الْمَغْضُوبِ عَلَيْهِمْ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ addressed us and said: 'Whoever marries a woman and has intercourse with her in her anus, or with a man, or a boy—he will come on the Day of Resurrection more foul-smelling than a carcass.'... the hadith. And its remainder will come, Allah willing, in the hadith, and in it: 'Any woman who harms her husband—her prayer will not be accepted, nor any good deed of her work, until she helps him and pleases him. Even if she fasts all time, stands in prayer, frees slaves, and carries provisions for jihad in the way of Allah, she would be the first to enter the Fire if she does not please him and help him.' And he said: 'And the man bears the like of that punishment and burden if he is harmful and unjust to her. Whoever harms a woman until she ransoms herself from him—Allah will not be satisfied with any punishment for him short of the Fire, because Allah becomes angry for the woman as He becomes angry for the orphan. And any woman who obtains khul' from her husband remains in the curse of Allah, the curse of the angels and His messengers, and all people. When the Angel of Death descends upon her, he says to her: Enter the Fire with those who enter. Indeed, Allah and His Messenger are free from the one who harms a woman until she obtains khul' from him. And whoever is patient with the bad character of his wife and seeks reward from Allah—Allah will give him of reward the like of what He gave Ayyub for his trial, and she will bear each day and night a burden like the sand of 'Alij. If she dies before helping him and pleasing him, she will be gathered on the Day of Resurrection upside down with the hypocrites in the lowest level of the Fire. And whoever has a wife who does not suit him, does not show patience with what Allah has provided, makes things difficult for him, and burdens him with what he cannot bear—no good deed will be accepted from her. If she dies upon that, she will be gathered with those upon whom is wrath.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1918No grade recorded
« لَعَنَ اللهُ الْمُتَسَوِّفَاتِ » ؟ قِيلَ: وَمَنِ الْمُتَسَوِّفَاتِ ؟ قِيلَ: « الرَّجُلُ يَدْعُو الْمَرْأَةَ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ، فَتَقُولُ: سَوْفَ، سَوْفَ، حَتَّى تَغْلِبَ عَيْنُهُ
✧ Allah cursed the procrastinating women. It was asked: Who are the procrastinating women? He said: 'The man calls the woman to his bed, and she says: Later, later, until sleep overcomes his eyes.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1919No grade recorded
« لَا يَحِلُّ لِامْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَنَامَ حَتَّى تَعْرِضَ نَفْسَهَا عَلَى زَوْجِهَا ». قَالَ: وَكَيْفَ تَعْرِضُ نَفْسَهَا عَلَى زَوْجِهَا ؟ قَالَ: « تَخْلَعُ ثِيَابَهَا، وَتَدْخُلُ مَعَهُ فِي لِحَافِهِ، فَتُلْزِقُ جِلْدَهَا بِجِلْدِهِ، فَإِذَا فَعَلَتْ ذَلِكَ فَقَدْ عَرَضَتْ
✧ It is not lawful for a woman to sleep until she presents herself to her husband. He was asked: How does she present herself to her husband? He said: 'She removes her clothes and enters with him under his blanket, pressing her skin to his skin. If she does that, she has presented herself.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1920No grade recorded
« لَعَنَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ الْمُسَوِّفَةَ وَالْمُفَسِّلَةَ ; فَأَمَّا الْمُسَوِّفَةُ فَالَّتِي إِذَا أَرَادَهَا زَوْجُهَا قَالَتْ: سَوْفَ الْآنَ. وَأَمَّا الْمُفَسِّلَةُ فَالَّتِي إِذَا أَرَادَهَا زَوْجُهَا قَالَتْ: إِنِّي حَائِضٌ، وَلَيْسَتْ بِحَائِضٍ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ cursed the procrastinating woman and the excusing woman. The procrastinating woman is the one who, when her husband wants her, says: 'Later, now.' The excusing woman is the one who, when her husband wants her, says: 'I am menstruating,' while she is not menstruating.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1921No grade recorded
« إِذَا جَامَعَ أَحَدُكُمْ أَهْلَهُ فَلْيُصْدِقْهَا، فَإِنْ سَبَقَهَا فَلَا يُعْجِلْهَا
✧ When one of you has intercourse with his wife, let him be truthful to her. If he finishes before her, let him not rush her.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1922No grade recorded
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو هَمَّامٍ، ثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَجِيدِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ بْنِ أَبِي رَوَّادٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ جُرَيْجٍ، عَمَّنْ حَدَّثَهُ عَنْ أَنَسٍ - بِهِ بِنَحْوِهِ.:
✧ Abu Hammam narrated to us: 'Abd al-Majid b. 'Abd al-'Aziz b. Abi Rawwad narrated to us, from Ibn Jurayj, from someone who narrated to him from Anas—with something similar.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1923No grade recorded
إِنَّ أَوَّلَ مَنْ عَزَلَ نَفَرٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، فَأَتَوُا النَّبِيَّ ﷺ، فَقَالُوا: إِنَّ نَفَرًا مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ يَعْزِلُونَ، فَفَزِعَ وَقَالَ: « إِنَّ النَّفْسَ الْمَخْلُوقَةَ لَكَائِنَةٌ »، فَمَا أَمَرَ وَلَا نَهَى
✧ The first people to practice coitus interruptus were a group of the Ansar. They came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: 'A group of the Ansar are practicing coitus interruptus.' He became alarmed and said: 'The soul that is to be created will surely come into being.' He neither commanded nor forbade.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1924No grade recorded
« إِنْ كَانَ قَالَ فِيهِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ شَيْئًا فَهُوَ كَمَا قَالَ، يَعْنِي الْعَزْلَ. وَأَنَا لَا أَرَى بِهِ بَأْسًا، زَرْعُكَ ; إِنْ شِئْتَ أَعْطَشْتَ، وَإِنْ شِئْتَ سَقَيْتَ
✧ If the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said anything about it, it is as he said—meaning coitus interruptus. And I see no harm in it. Your field: if you wish, you can withhold water, and if you wish, you can water it.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1925No grade recorded
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، مَا خَلَصْتُ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ إِلَّا بِفَتِيَّةٍ، وَأَنَا أَعْزِلُ عَنْهَا، أُرِيدُ بِهَا السُّوقَ ؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « جَاءَهَا مَا قُدِّرَ
✧ A man came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have not been able to reach you from the polytheists except by a young girl, and I practice coitus interruptus with her, intending to sell her in the market?' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'What is decreed will come to her.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1926No grade recorded
« لَقَدْ عَزَلْتُ عَنْ أَمَةٍ لِي، فَوَلَدَتْ أَحَبَّ النَّاسِ إِلَيَّ، هَذَا الْغُلَامَ
✧ I practiced coitus interruptus with a slave-girl of mine, yet she gave birth to the most beloved of people to me: this boy.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1927No grade recorded
جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى ابْنِ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَسَأَلَهُ عَنِ الْعَزْلِ، فَضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ إِلَى مَا يَلِيهِ، فَوَلَّى الرَّجُلُ فَحَصَبَهُ، وَقَالَ: أُفٍّ ! قَالَ عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ: فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِأَنَسٍ ؓ، فَقَالَ: مَا كُنَّا نَرَى بِهِ بَأْسًا
✧ A man came to Ibn Umar ؓ and asked him about coitus interruptus. He struck his hand toward what was next to him, so the man turned away, and he threw pebbles at him and said, 'Uff!' Abdulaziz said: I mentioned that to Anas ؓ, and he said, 'We did not consider it problematic.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1928No grade recorded
« لَا بَأْسَ بِالْعَزْلِ
✧ There is no harm in coitus interruptus.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1929No grade recorded
وَتَقَدَّمَ بَعْضُهُ فِي عِشْرَةِ النِّسَاءِ. 1929 1615 - وَقَالَ الْحَارِثُ: حَدَّثَنَا الْخَلِيلُ بْنُ زَكَرِيَّا، ثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ، ثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي الْحَسَنِ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ ؓ
✧ Part of it was mentioned previously in the chapter on living with women. 1929 1615 - Al-Harith said: Al-Khalil b. Zakariyya narrated to us, Amr b. Ubayd narrated to us, Al-Hasan b. Abi al-Hasan narrated to us, from Imran b. Husayn ؓ.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1930No grade recorded
« مَحَاشُّ النِّسَاءِ عَلَيْكُمْ حَرَامٌ
✧ The private parts of women are forbidden to you.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1931No grade recorded
« اسْتَحْيُوا مِنَ اللهِ تَعَالَى ; فَإِنَّ اللهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ، لَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَدْبَارِهِنَّ
✧ Be shy before Allah, the Exalted, for Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, is not shy of the truth. Do not approach women in their anuses.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1932No grade recorded
أَنَّهُ لَمَّا تَزَوَّجَ فَاطِمَةَ ؓ قَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « اجْعَلْ عَامَّةَ الصَّدَاقِ فِي الطِّيبِ
✧ When he married Fatimah ؓ, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to him: 'Make the majority of the dowry in perfume.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1933No grade recorded
بَعَثَتْنِي أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ... فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ. قَالَ: ثُمَّ أَخَذَ بِيَدِي فَخَرَجْنَا، وَكَانَ حَدِيثَ عَهْدٍ بِعُرْسِ زَيْنَبَ بِنْتِ جَحْشٍ ؓ، فَمَرَّ بِنِسَائِهِ فَهَنَّأْنَهُ، وَهَنَّأَهُ النَّاسُ، فَقَالُوا: الْحَمْدُ لِلهِ، أَقَرَّ اللهُ عَيْنَكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ !
✧ Umm Salamah sent me to the Prophet ﷺ... and he mentioned the hadith. He said: Then he took my hand and we went out, and he had recently married Zaynab bt. Jahsh ؓ. He passed by his wives and they congratulated him, and the people congratulated him, saying: 'Praise be to Allah; may Allah cool your eyes, O Messenger of Allah!'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1934No grade recorded
إِنَّ امْرَأَةً أَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، بِنْتٌ لِي كَذَا وَكَذَا... فَذَكَرَتْ مِنْ حُسْنِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا، فَأُوثِرُكَ بِهَا. قَالَ ﷺ: قَدْ قَبِلْتُهَا. فَلَمْ تَزَلْ تَمْدَحُهَا حَتَّى ذَكَرَتْ أَنَّهَا لَمْ تُصْدَعْ وَلَمْ تَشْتَكِ شَيْئًا قَطُّ، قَالَ ﷺ: لَا حَاجَةَ لِي فِي ابْنَتِكِ
✧ A woman came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have a daughter who is such and such...' and she mentioned her beauty and attractiveness, and said, 'I prefer you for her.' He ﷺ said: 'I have accepted her.' She continued praising her until she mentioned that she had never had a headache or complained of anything. He ﷺ said: 'I have no need of your daughter.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1935No grade recorded
وَقَالَ أَبُو يَعْلَى: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ بِهَذَا.:
✧ Abu Ya'la said: Abu Bakr b. Abi Shaybah narrated to us with this.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1936No grade recorded
إِنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا مَعَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ؓ، فَقَالَ لَهَا: « يَا عَائِشَةُ، أَطْعِمِينَا »، قَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عِنْدَنَا طَعَامٌ، فَقَالَ ﷺ: « أَطْعِمِينَا » فَقَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عِنْدَنَا طَعَامٌ. فَقَالَ: « أَطْعِمِينَا » فَقَالَتْ: وَاللهِ مَا عِنْدَنَا طَعَامٌ. فَقَالَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ ؓ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ الْمُؤْمِنَةَ لَا تَحْلِفُ عَلَى الشَّيْءِ إِنَّهُ مَا هُوَ عِنْدَهَا وَهُوَ عِنْدَهَا، فَقَالَ ﷺ: « وَمَا يُدْرِيكَ أَمُؤْمِنَةٌ هِيَ أَمْ لَا ؟ إِنَّ مَثَلَ الْمَرْأَةِ الْمُؤْمِنَةِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ كَمَثَلِ الْغُرَابِ الْأَعْصَمِ فِي الْغِرْبَانِ، وَإِنَّ النَّارَ خُلِقَتْ لِلسُّفَهَاءِ، وَإِنَّ النِّسَاءَ مِنَ السُّفَهَاءِ، إِلَّا صَاحِبَةَ الْمُشْطِ وَالْمِصْبَاحِ
✧ The Prophet ﷺ entered upon her with Abu Bakr ؓ and said to her: 'O Aishah, feed us.' She said: 'By Allah, we have no food.' He ﷺ said: 'Feed us.' She said: 'By Allah, we have no food.' He said: 'Feed us.' She said: 'By Allah, we have no food.' Abu Bakr ؓ said: 'O Messenger of Allah, a believing woman does not swear about something that it is not with her when it is with her.' He ﷺ said: 'And what makes you know whether she is a believer or not? The example of a believing woman among women is like a white-legged crow among crows. The Fire was created for the foolish, and women are among the foolish, except the woman who has the comb and the lamp.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1937No grade recorded
قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « يَا عَلِيُّ، لَا تُجَامِعِ امْرَأَتَكَ نِصْفَ الشَّهْرِ، وَلَا عِنْدَ غُرَّةِ الْهِلَالِ، أَمَا رَأَيْتَ الْمَجَانِينَ يُصْرَعُونَ فِيهَا كَثِيرًا. ؟
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me: 'O Ali, do not have intercourse with your wife in the middle of the month, nor at the first appearance of the new moon. Have you not seen that the insane are often struck down during those times?'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1938No grade recorded
إِنَّ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ مَظْعُونٍ ؓ أَتَى رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، إِنِّي لَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ أَنْظُرَ إِلَى عَوْرَةِ امْرَأَتِي، وَلَا تَرَى ذَلِكَ مِنِّي ! فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « وَلِمَ ذَاكَ ؟ إِنَّ اللهَ تَعَالَى جَعَلَكَ لِبَاسًا لَهَا، وَأَنَا أَرَى ذَلِكَ مِنْ أَهْلِي، وَيَرَوْنَهُ مِنِّي ». قَالَ: فَمَنْ يَعْدِلُ بِكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ؟ ثُمَّ وَلَّى، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « إِنَّ ابْنَ مَظْعُونٍ لَحَيِيٌّ سِتِّيرٌ
✧ Uthman b. Maz'un ؓ came to the Messenger of God ﷺ and said: "O Messenger of God, I do not like to look at my wife's private parts, nor for her to see that from me." The Messenger of God ﷺ said: "And why is that? God Most High has made you a garment for her, and I see that from my family and they see it from me." He said: "Then who can be compared to you, O Messenger of God?" Then he turned away, and the Messenger of God ﷺ said: "Indeed Ibn Maz'un is truly modest and veiling."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1939No grade recorded
« إِذَا أَتَى أَحَدُكُمْ أَهْلَهُ فَلْيَسْتَتِرْ، وَلَا يَتَجَرَّدَانِ تَجَرُّدَ الْعَيْرَيْنِ
✧ When one of you goes to his wife, let him cover himself, and they should not strip completely like two donkeys.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1940No grade recorded
أَخْطَأَ فِيهِ مِنْدَلٌ. وَذَكَرَ شَرِيكٌ أَنَّهُ كَانَ هُوَ وَمِنْدَلٌ عِنْدَ الْأَعْمَشِ، فَحَدَّثَهُمْ عَاصِمٌ الْأَحْوَلُ، عَنْ أَبِي قِلَابَةَ بِهَذَا الْحَدِيثِ مُرْسَلًا.:
✧ Mandal erred in it. Sharik mentioned that he and Mandal were with al-A'mash, and 'Asim al-Ahwal narrated to them from Abu Qilabah this hadith in mursal form.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1941No grade recorded
« تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ: لِجِمَالِهَا، وَمَالِهَا، وَحَسَبِهَا، وَدِينِهَا ; فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ وَالْخُلُقِ، تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ
✧ A woman is married for four things: for her beauty, her wealth, her lineage, and her religion. So win the one with religion and character, may your hands be rubbed with dust.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1942No grade recorded
« خَيْرُ فَائِدَةٍ اسْتَفَادَهَا الْمُسْلِمُ بَعْدَ الْإِسْلَامِ امْرَأَةٌ تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ إِلَيْهَا، وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَهَا، وَتَحْفَظُهُ فِي مَالِهِ وَنَفْسِهَا إِذَا غَابَ
✧ The best benefit a Muslim gains after Islam is a wife who delights him when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and protects him in his wealth and herself when he is absent.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1943No grade recorded
« ثَلَاثٌ قَاصِمَاتُ الظَّهْرِ: فَقْرٌ دَاخِلٌ لَا يَجِدُ صَاحِبُهُ مُتَلَذَّذًا، وَزَوْجَةٌ يَأْمَنُهَا صَاحِبُهَا وَتَخُونُهُ، وَإِمَامٌ أَسْخَطَ اللهَ تَعَالَى وَأَرْضَى النَّاسَ. وَإِنَّ بِرَّ الْمُؤْمِنَةِ كَمَثَلِ سَبْعِينَ صِدِّيقَةٍ، وَإِنَّ فُجُورَ الْفَاجِرَةِ كَفُجُورِ أَلْفِ فَاجِرَةٍ
✧ Three things break the back: poverty that enters and its owner finds no enjoyment, a wife whom her husband trusts but she betrays him, and a leader who angers God Most High and pleases people. And the righteousness of a believing woman is like seventy truthful women, and the immorality of an immoral woman is like the immorality of a thousand immoral women.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1944No grade recorded
« إِنَّمَا النِّسَاءُ لُعَبٌ، فَمَنِ اتَّخَذَ لُعْبَةً فَلْيُحَسِّنْهَا، أَوْ فَلْيَسْتَحْسِنْهَا
✧ Women are but playthings; whoever takes a plaything, let him improve it or choose it well.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1945No grade recorded
لَمَّا أُهْدِيَتْ فَاطِمَةُ إِلَى عَلِيٍّ بَعَثَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِلَى عَلِيٍّ: « أَنْ لَا تَقْرَبَ أَهْلَكَ حَتَّى آتِيَكَ »، قَالَتْ: فَجَاءَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَدَعَا بِمَاءٍ. فَقَالَ فِيهِ مَا شَاءَ اللهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ، ثُمَّ نَضَحَ الْمَاءَ عَلَى صَدْرِ عَلِيٍّ وَوَجْهِهِ، ثُمَّ دَعَا فَاطِمَةَ فَقَامَتْ تَعْثُرُ فِي ثَوْبِهَا مِنَ الْحَيَاءِ، فَنَضَحَ عَلَيْهَا أَيْضًا. ثُمَّ نَظَرَ فَإِذَا سَوَادٌ وَرَاءَ الْبَيْتِ، فَقَالَ: « مَنْ هَذَا ؟ »، فَقَالَتْ أَسْمَاءُ: أَنَا، فَقَالَ: « أَسْمَاءُ بِنْتُ عُمَيْسٍ ؟ »، فَقَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: « أَجِئْتِ مَعَ ابْنَةِ رَسُولِ اللهِ كَرَامَةً لِرَسُولِ اللهِ » ؟ فَقُلْتُ: نَعَمْ، فَدَعَا لِي بِدُعَاءٍ أَنَّهُ لَأَوْلَى عَمَلِي عِنْدِي، فَقَالَ: « يَا فَاطِمَةُ، إِنِّي لَمْ آلُ أَنْ أَنْكَحْتُ أَحَبَّ أَهْلِي إِلَيَّ ». ثُمَّ خَرَجَ فَقَالَ لِعَلِيٍّ: « دُونَكَ أَهْلَكَ »، ثُمَّ وَلَّى إِلَى حُجْرَةٍ، فَمَا زَالَ يَدْعُو لَهُمَا حَتَّى دَخَلَ حَجْرَهُ
✧ When Fatimah was given to Ali, the Messenger of God ﷺ sent to Ali: 'Do not approach your wife until I come to you.' She said: The Prophet ﷺ came and called for water. He said in it what God willed him to say, then he sprinkled the water on Ali's chest and face. Then he called Fatimah, and she stood up stumbling in her garment from shyness, and he sprinkled on her as well. Then he looked and saw darkness behind the house and said: 'Who is this?' Asma said: 'I am.' He said: 'Asma bt. Umays?' She said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Did you come with the daughter of the Messenger of God as an honor to the Messenger of God?' I said: 'Yes.' He supplicated for me with a supplication that is the most deserving of my deeds to me. Then he said: 'O Fatimah, I have not failed to marry you to the most beloved of my family to me.' Then he went out and said to Ali: 'Take your wife.' Then he turned to a chamber and kept supplicating for them until he entered his chamber.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1946No grade recorded
إِنَّ رَجُلًا أَتَى النَّبِيَّ ﷺ، فَقَالَ: إِنَّ امْرَأَةً قَدْ أَعْجَبَتْنِي، لَا تَلِدُ، أَفَأَتَزَوَّجُهَا ؟ قَالَ ﷺ: « لَا »، فَأَعْرَضَ عَنْهَا. ثُمَّ تَبِعَتْهَا نَفْسُهُ، فَأَتَى النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، أَعْجَبَتْنِي هَذِهِ الْمَرْأَةُ وَنَحْوُهَا، أَعْجَبَنِي دَلُّهَا وَنَحْوُهَا، فَأَتَزَوَّجُهَا ؟ قَالَ: « لَا، امْرَأَةٌ سَوْدَاءُ وَلُودٌ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِنْهَا، أَمَا شَعَرْتَ أَنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمُ الْأُمَمَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، فَيَجِيءُ ذَرَارِيُّ الْمُسْلِمِينَ آخِذِينَ بِحَقْوَيْ آبَائِهِمْ، فَيُقَالُ لَهُمُ: ادْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ، حَتَّى أَرَى السِّقْطَ مُحْبَنْطِئًا مُتَقَاعِسًا، فَيُقَالُ لَهُ: ادْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ ! فَيَقُولُ: يَا رَبِّ، وَأَبَوَيَّ ؟ فَيَقُولُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ: ( ادْخُلْ أَنْتَ الْجَنَّةَ، وَأَبَوَاكَ الْجَنَّةَ
✧ A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: 'A woman has pleased me but she does not bear children; should I marry her?' He ﷺ said: 'No.' So he turned away from her. Then his soul followed her, and he came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: 'O Messenger of God, this woman and her like have pleased me; her charm and her like have pleased me; should I marry her?' He said: 'No. A black woman who bears children is more beloved to me than her. Do you not realize that I will vie with other nations through you on the Day of Resurrection? The offspring of Muslims will come holding the waists of their fathers, and it will be said to them: Enter Paradise, until I see the miscarried fetus bloated and sluggish, and it is said to him: Enter Paradise! He says: O Lord, and my parents? God, Mighty and Majestic, says: Enter Paradise, you and your parents.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1947No grade recorded
« ذَرُوا الْحَسْنَاءَ الْعَقِيمَ، وَعَلَيْكُمْ بِالسَّوْدَاءِ الْوَلُودِ ; فَإِنِّي مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمُ الْأُمَمَ، حَتَّى السِّقْطُ يَظَلُّ مُحْبَنْطِئًا بِبَابِ الْجَنَّةِ، فَيُقَالُ لَهُ: ادْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ ! فَيَقُولُ: حَتَّى يَدْخُلَ وَالِدَايَ مَعِي
✧ Leave the beautiful barren woman, and hold to the black woman who bears children, for I will vie with other nations through you, even the miscarried fetus will remain bloated at the gate of Paradise, and it will be said to him: Enter Paradise! He says: Not until my parents enter with me.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1948No grade recorded
« أَلَا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِنِسَائِكُمْ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ ؟ الْوَدُودُ الْوَلُودُ، الَّتِي إِذَا ظَلَمَتْ أَوْ ظُلِمَتْ قَالَتْ: لَا أَذُوقُ غَمْضًا حَتَّى تَرْضَى
✧ Shall I not tell you about your women among the people of Paradise? The loving, the childbearing, who when she wrongs or is wronged says: I will not taste sleep until you are pleased.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1949No grade recorded
« مَنْ تَزَوَّجَ فَقَدْ أُعْطِيَ ضِعْفَ الْعِبَادَةِ
✧ Whoever marries has been given double the worship.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1950No grade recorded
« مَنْ قَدَرَ أَنْ يَنْكِحَ، فَلَمْ يَنْكِحْ - فَلَيْسَ مِنَّا
✧ «Whoever is able to marry, but does not marry, is not one of us.»
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1951No grade recorded
« مَنْ أَحَبَّ فِطْرَتِي فَلْيَسْتَنَّ بِسُنَّتِي، وَمِنْ سُنَّتِي النِّكَاحُ
✧ «Whoever loves my natural disposition, let him follow my Sunnah. And part of my Sunnah is marriage.»
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1952No grade recorded
« لَا يَتِمُّ نُسُكُ الشَّابِّ حَتَّى يَتَزَوَّجَ
✧ «A young man's devotion is not complete until he marries.»
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1953No grade recorded
« يَا شَبَابَ قُرَيْشٍ، لَا تَزْنُوا ; مَنْ سَلِمَ لَهُ شَبَابُهُ دَخَلَ الْجَنَّةَ
✧ «O youth of Quraysh, do not commit fornication. Whoever preserves his youth will enter Paradise.»
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1954No grade recorded
جَاءَ عَطَّافُ بْنُ وَدَاعَةَ الْهِلَالِيُّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « يَا عَطَّافُ، أَلَكَ زَوْجَةٌ ؟ » قَالَ: لَا، قَالَ: « وَلَا جَارِيَةٌ ؟ » قَالَ: لَا، قَالَ ﷺ: « وَأَنْتَ صَحِيحٌ مُوسِرٌ ؟ » قَالَ: نَعَمْ، الْحَمْدُ لِلهِ. قَالَ ﷺ: « فَأَنْتَ إِذًا مِنْ إِخْوَانِ الشَّيَاطِينِ ; إِمَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ مِنْ رَهْبَانِيَّةِ النَّصَارَى فَأَنْتَ مِنْهُمْ، وَإِمَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ مِنَّا، فَاصْنَعْ كَمَا نَصْنَعُ ; فَإِنَّ مِنْ سُنَّتِنَا النِّكَاحَ. شِرَارُكُمْ عُزَّابُكُمْ، وَأَرَاذِلُ أَمْوَاتِكُمْ عُزَّابُكُمْ ; إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا لَهُ فِي نَفْسِي سِلَاحٌ أَبْلَغُ فِي الصَّالِحِينَ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا الْمُتَزَوِّجِينَ، أُولَئِكَ الْمُطَهَّرُونَ الْمُبَرَّؤُونَ مِنَ الْخَنَا. وَيْلَكَ يَا عَطَّافُ، إِنَّهُنَّ صَوَاحِبُ دَاوُدَ، وَصَوَاحِبُ أَيُّوبَ، وَصَوَاحِبُ يُوسُفَ، وَصَوَاحِبُ كُرْسُفٍ... الْحَدِيثَ. وَيْحَكَ يَا عَطَّافُ، تَزَوَّجْ ; فَإِنَّكَ مِنَ الْمَزِيدِينَ. قَالَ: فَقَالَ عَطَّافٌ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ حَتَّى تُزَوِّجَنِي مَنْ شِئْتَ. فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « قَدْ زَوَّجْتُكَ عَلَى اسْمِ اللهِ تَعَالَى وَبَرَكَتِهِ كَرِيمَةَ بِنْتَ كُلْثُومٍ الْحِمْيَرِيِّ
✧ ʿAṭṭāf b. Wadāʿa al-Hilālī came to the Messenger of God ﷺ, and the Messenger of God ﷺ said to him, "O ʿAṭṭāf, do you have a wife?" He said, "No." He said, "Nor a slave girl?" He said, "No." He ﷺ said, "And you are healthy and wealthy?" He said, "Yes, praise be to God." He ﷺ said, "Then you are one of the brothers of the devils. Either you are of the monasticism of the Christians, in which case you are one of them, or you are one of us, so do as we do. For part of our Sunnah is marriage. The worst of you are your unmarried, and the most wretched of your dead are your unmarried. Truly, the devil has no weapon more effective against the righteous among men than women, except for the married. Those are the purified, the innocent of indecency. Woe to you, O ʿAṭṭāf! They are the companions of Dāwūd, the companions of Ayyūb, the companions of Yūsuf, and the companions of Kursuf..." and he mentioned the rest of the hadith. "Woe to you, O ʿAṭṭāf! Marry, for you will be among those increased." He said, "O Messenger of God, I will not marry until you marry me to whomever you wish." So the Messenger of God ﷺ said, "I have married you, in the name of God Almighty and by His blessing, to Karīma bt. Kulthūm al-Ḥimyarī."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1955No grade recorded
إِنَّ عُتْبَةَ بْنَ فَرْقَدٍ عَرَضَ عَلَى ابْنِهِ التَّزْوِيجَ فَأَبَى، فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لِعُثْمَانَ ؓ، فَقَالَ لَهُ عُثْمَانُ ؓ: « أَلَيْسَ قَدْ تَزَوَّجَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ، وَقَدْ تَزَوَّجَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ ؓ، وَتَزَوَّجَ عُمَرُ ؓ، وَعِنْدَنَا مِنْهُنَّ مَا عِنْدَنَا ؟ ». فَقَالَ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، مَنْ لَهُ عَمَلٌ مِثْلُ عَمَلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ، وَأَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ ؓ، وَمِثْلُ عَمَلِكَ ؟ فَلَمَّا قَالَ: مِثْلُ عَمَلِكَ - قَالَ: « كُفَّ ; إِنْ شِئْتَ فَتَزَوَّجْ، وَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَلَا
✧ ʿUtba b. Farqad offered his son marriage, but he refused. He mentioned that to ʿUthmān ؓ, and ʿUthmān ؓ said to him, "Did not the Prophet ﷺ marry, and Abū Bakr ؓ married, and ʿUmar ؓ married, and we have from them what we have?" He said, "O Commander of the Faithful, who has deeds like the deeds of the Prophet ﷺ, and Abū Bakr and ʿUmar ؓ, or like your deeds?" When he said "like your deeds," he said, "Enough! If you wish, marry; and if you wish, do not."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1956No grade recorded
قَالَ لِي ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ ؓ، وَذَلِكَ قَبْلَ أَنْ يَخْرُجَ وَجْهِي: أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا ابْنَ جُبَيْرٍ ؟ قُلْتُ: لَا، وَمَا أُرِيدُ ذَلِكَ يَوْمِي هَذَا، قَالَ: « إِنَّهُ سَيَخْرُجُ مَا كَانَ فِي صُلْبِكَ مِنَ الْمُسْتَوْدَعِينَ
✧ Ibn ʿAbbās ؓ said to me—and that was before my beard had grown—"Have you married, O Ibn Jubayr?" I said, "No, and I do not intend to do so today." He said, "What is in your loins of the deposited ones will surely come out."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1957No grade recorded
إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ فِي أَشْيَاءَ يُؤْجَرُ فِيهَا الرَّجُلُ، حَتَّى فِي غَشَيَانِ أَهْلِهِ، فَقِيلَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، كَيْفَ وَهِيَ شَهْوَتُهُ يَقْضِيهَا ؟ قَالَ ﷺ: « أَرَأَيْتُمْ لَوْ كَانَ حَرَامٌ، أَلَيْسَ كَانَ يُؤْزَرُ ؟ »، قَالُوا: بَلَى، قَالَ: « فَكَذَلِكَ يُؤْجَرُ
✧ The Messenger of God ﷺ mentioned things for which a man is rewarded, even in having intercourse with his wife. It was said, "O Messenger of God, how can he be rewarded for fulfilling his desire?" He ﷺ said, "Do you not see that if he had done it unlawfully, he would have been sinful?" They said, "Yes." He said, "So likewise he is rewarded."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1958No grade recorded
اجْتَمَعَ نَفَرٌ، فَقَالُوا: لَوْ بَعَثْنَا إِلَى أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ، فَسَأَلْنَاهُنَّ عَنْ أَخْلَاقِهِ ﷺ. فَبَعَثُوا إِلَيْهِنَّ، فَقُلْنَ: إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يُصَلِّي، وَيَنَامُ، وَيَصُومُ، وَيُفْطِرُ، وَيَنْكِحُ النِّسَاءَ. قَالُوا: إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَدْ غُفِرَ لَهُ مَا تَقَدَّمَ مِنْ ذَنْبِهِ وَمَا تَأَخَّرَ، فَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ: أَقُومُ اللَّيْلَ وَلَا أَنَامُ، وَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ: أَصُومُ النَّهَارَ وَلَا أُفْطِرُ، وَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ: أَدَعُ النِّسَاءَ لَا آتِيهِنَّ ; فَإِنَّ فِيهِنَّ شُغْلًا. فَاطَّلَعَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ عَلَى ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ: « مَا بَالُ رِجَالٍ يَتَحَسَّسُونَ عَلَى شَأْنِ نَبِيِّهِمْ، فَلَمَّا أُخْبِرُوا بِهِ رَغِبُوا عَنْهُ، فَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ كَذَا، وَبَعْضُهُمْ كَذَا ؟ »، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « لَكِنِّي أَنَامُ وَأَقُومُ، وَأُفْطِرُ وَأَصُومُ، وَأَنْكِحُ ; فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي
✧ A group of people gathered and said, "If only we could send to the wives of the Prophet ﷺ and ask them about his character ﷺ." So they sent to them, and they said, "The Messenger of God ﷺ prays and sleeps, fasts and breaks his fast, and marries women." They said, "The Messenger of God ﷺ has been forgiven his past and future sins." Some of them said, "I will pray all night and not sleep." Others said, "I will fast every day and not break my fast." Others said, "I will abstain from women and not approach them, for they are a distraction." The Prophet ﷺ learned of that and said, "What is the matter with men who spy on the affairs of their Prophet, and when they are informed of it, they turn away from it, so one of them says such and such, and another says such and such?" Then the Messenger of God ﷺ said, "But I sleep and pray, break my fast and fast, and marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1959No grade recorded
« أَيُّمَا شَابٍّ تَزَوَّجَ فِي حَدَاثَةِ سِنِّهِ عَجَّ شَيْطَانُهُ: يَا وَيْلَهُ، يَا وَيْلَهُ ; عَصَمَ مِنِّي دِينَهُ.
✧ «Any young man who marries in his youth, his devil cries out, 'Woe to him! Woe to him! He has protected his religion from me.'»
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1960No grade recorded
لَوْ لَمْ يَبْقَ مِنْ أَجَلِي إِلَّا يَوْمٌ وَاحِدٌ لَقِيتُ اللهَ تَعَالَى بِزَوْجَةٍ ; إِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ: « شِرَارُكُمْ عُزَّابُكُمْ
✧ If only one day of my life remained, I would meet God Almighty with a wife. For I heard the Messenger of God ﷺ say, "The worst of you are your unmarried."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1961No grade recorded
قَالَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فِي حَجَّةِ الْوَدَاعِ: « هِيَ هَذِهِ الْحَجَّةُ، ثُمَّ الْجُلُوسُ عَلَى ظُهُورِ الْحُصُرِ فِي الْبُيُوتِ
✧ The Messenger of God ﷺ said to us during the Farewell Pilgrimage, "This is the pilgrimage, then staying at home on the mats in the houses."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1962No grade recorded
إِنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَمَّا حَجَّ بِنِسَائِهِ قَالَ: « إِنَّمَا هِيَ هَذِهِ، ثُمَّ عَلَيْكُمْ بِظُهُورِ الْحُصُرِ
✧ When the Prophet ﷺ performed Hajj with his wives, he said: "It is only this, then upon you is [to travel on] the backs of mats."
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1963No grade recorded
كُنْتُ عِنْدَ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَبَيْنَمَا نَحْنُ جُلُوسٌ عِنْدَهُ إِذْ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ فَجَلَسَتْ إِلَيْهِ، فَقَالَتْ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، إِنَّ زَوْجِي قَدْ كَثُرَ شَرُّهُ، وَقَلَّ خَيْرُهُ. فَقَالَ لَهَا: « مَنْ زَوْجُكِ ؟ » قَالَتْ: أَبُو سَلَمَةَ. قَالَ: « إِنَّ ذَلِكَ رَجُلٌ لَهُ صُحْبَةٌ، وَإِنَّهُ لَرَجُلُ صِدْقٍ »، ثُمَّ قَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ لِرَجُلٍ جَالِسٍ عِنْدَهُ: أَلَيْسَ كَذَلِكَ ؟ قَالَ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، لَا نَعْرِفُهُ إِلَّا بِمَا قُلْتَ. فَقَالَ لِرَجُلٍ: قُمْ فَادْعُهُ لِي. فَقَامَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ حِينَ أَرْسَلَ إِلَى زَوْجِهَا فَقَعَدَتْ خَلْفَ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَلَمْ يَلْبَثْ أَنْ جَاءَا مَعًا حَتَّى جَلَسَ بَيْنَ يَدَيْ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ: مَا تَقُولُ هَذِهِ الْجَالِسَةُ خَلْفِي ؟ قَالَ: وَمَنْ هَذِهِ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ؟ قَالَ: هَذِهِ امْرَأَتُكَ، قَالَ: وَتَقُولُ مَاذَا ؟ قَالَ: تَزْعُمُ أَنَّهُ قَدْ قَلَّ خَيْرُكَ، وَكَثُرَ شَرُّكَ. قَالَ: بِئْسَ مَا قَالَتْ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ! إِنَّهَا لَمِنْ صَالِحِ نِسَائِهَا، أَكْثَرُهُنَّ كِسْوَةً وَأَكْثَرُهُنَّ رَفَاهِيَةَ بَيْتٍ، وَلَكِنَّ فَحْلَهَا بَكِيءٌ، فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ لِلْمَرْأَةِ: مَا تَقُولِينَ ؟ قَالَتْ: صَدَقَ. فَقَامَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ ؓ بِالدِّرَّةِ، فَتَنَاوَلَهَا بِهَا، ثُمَّ قَالَ: أَيْ عَدُوَّةَ نَفْسِهَا، أَكَلْتِ مَالَهُ، وَأَفْنَيْتِ شَبَابَهُ، ثُمَّ أَنْشَأْتِ تُخْبِرِينَ بِمَا لَيْسَ فِيهِ ؟ قَالَتْ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ لَا تَعْجَلْ، فَوَاللهِ لَا أَجْلِسُ هَذَا الْمَجْلِسَ أَبَدًا ! فَأَمَرَ لَهَا بِثَلَاثَةِ أَثْوَابٍ، فَقَالَ: خُذِي هَذَا بِمَا صَنَعْتُ بِكِ، وَإِيَّاكِ أَنْ تَشْتَكِي هَذَا الشَّيْخَ. قَالَ: فَكَأَنِّي أَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهَا قَامَتْ وَمَعَهَا الثِّيَابُ، ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ ؓ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا فَقَالَ: لَا يَحْمِلُكَ مَا رَأَيْتَنِي صَنَعْتُ بِهَا أَنْ تُسِيءَ إِلَيْهَا. فَقَالَ: مَا كُنْتُ لِأَفْعَلَ ! فَقَالَ: انْصَرِفَا
✧ I was with Umar ؓ, and while we were sitting with him, a woman came and sat near him. She said: 'O Commander of the Faithful, my husband's evil has increased and his good has decreased.' He said to her: 'Who is your husband?' She said: 'Abu Salamah.' He said: 'That is a man who has companionship [with the Prophet], and he is indeed a truthful man.' Then Umar ؓ said to a man sitting with him: 'Is it not so?' The man said: 'O Commander of the Faithful, we know him only as you have said.' He said to another man: 'Stand and summon him for me.' The woman stood when he sent for her husband and sat behind Umar ؓ. It was not long before the two came together until he sat before Umar ؓ. Umar ؓ said: 'What does this woman sitting behind me say?' He said: 'Who is this, O Commander of the Faithful?' He said: 'This is your wife.' He said: 'And what does she say?' He said: 'She claims that your good has decreased and your evil has increased.' He said: 'Evil is what she said, O Commander of the Faithful! She is among the righteous of her women, the most clothed of them and the most comfortable in household, but her stallion is unproductive.' Umar ؓ said to the woman: 'What do you say?' She said: 'He has spoken the truth.' Umar ؓ stood with a whip and struck her with it, then said: 'O enemy of herself, you consumed his wealth and exhausted his youth, then you began to report what is not in him?' She said: 'O Commander of the Faithful, do not hasten; by Allah, I shall never sit in this gathering again!' He ordered for her three garments and said: 'Take this for what I did to you, and beware of complaining about this old man.' He said: 'It is as if I see her standing with the garments. Then he ؓ turned to her husband and said: 'Let not what you saw me do to her cause you to mistreat her.' He said: 'I would never do that.' He said: 'Go away, both of you.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1964No grade recorded
أَنَّ امْرَأَةً مِنْ طَيِّئٍ مِنْ بَنِي سِنْبِسَ - يُقَالُ لَهَا: أُمُّ بَعْلٍ - أَتَتْ عَلِيًّا ؓ وَزَوْجُهَا مَعَهَا، فَقَالَتْ: إِنَّ زَوْجَهَا لَا يَأْتِيهَا، وَإِنَّهَا امْرَأَةٌ تُرِيدُ الْوَلَدَ. فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ: مَا تَرَى مَا عَلَيْهَا مِنْ نِعْمَةٍ ؟ قَالَ: وَهِيَ فِي هَيْئَةٍ حَسَنَةٍ. فَقَالَ لَهُ: « لَا، وَلَا مِنَ السِّحْرِ حَيْثُ يَتَحَرَّكُ مِنَ الشَّيْخِ ؟ » قَالَ: وَلَا مِنَ السِّحْرِ، قَالَ: « هَلَكْتَ وَأَهْلَكْتَ ». وَأَقْبَلَ عَلَيْهَا، فَقَالَ لَهَا: « اصْبِرِي، حَتَّى يُفْرَجَ عَنْهُ
✧ A woman from the tribe of Tayy, from Banu Sinbis, called Umm Ba'l, came to Ali ؓ with her husband. She said that her husband does not have intercourse with her, and she is a woman who wants children. The man said: 'Do you not see what blessings are upon her?' He said: 'And she is in a good appearance.' He said to him: 'No, nor from the magic where it moves from the old man?' He said: 'Nor from magic.' He said: 'You are ruined and you cause ruin.' Then he turned to her and said: 'Be patient until relief comes to him.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1965No grade recorded
« قَضَى رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عَلَى ابْنَتِهِ فَاطِمَةَ ؓ بِخِدْمَةِ الْبَيْتِ، وَعَلَى عَلِيٍّ ؓ مَا كَانَ مِنْ خَارِجِ الْبَيْتِ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ ruled that his daughter Fatimah ؓ should serve inside the house, and Ali ؓ [should handle] what is outside the house.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1966No grade recorded
قُلْنَ النِّسَاءُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، ذَهَبَ الرِّجَالُ بِالْفَضْلِ فِي الْجِهَادِ، فَهَلْ لَنَا مِنْ أَعْمَالِنَا شَيْءٌ نَبْلُغُ بِهِ فَضْلَ الْجِهَادِ ؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « نَعَمْ، مِهْنَةُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ فِي بَيْتِهَا تَبْلُغُ بِهِ فَضْلَ الْجِهَادِ
✧ The women said: 'O Messenger of Allah, the men have taken the virtue of jihad. Is there anything from our deeds by which we can attain the virtue of jihad?' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: 'Yes, the service of one of you in her house attains for her the virtue of jihad.'
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1967No grade recorded
« نَعَم مِهْنَة إِحْدَاكُنَّ فِي بَيْتِهَا تُبَلِّغُ بِهِ فَضْل الْجِهَادِ »" نوع="مرفوع"
✧ "Yes, the service of one of you in her house attains for her the virtue of jihad." [type: marfu']
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1968No grade recorded
« نَعَم مِهْنَة إِحْدَاكُنَّ فِي بَيْتِهَا تُبَلِّغُ بِهِ فَضْل الْجِهَادِ »" نوع="مرفوع"
✧ "Yes, the service of one of you in her house attains for her the virtue of jihad." [type: marfu']
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1969No grade recorded
« لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ، أَوِ السُّلْطَانِ
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian, or the authority (sultan).
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1970No grade recorded
« لَا نِكَاحَ إِلَّا بِوَلِيٍّ
✧ No marriage is valid without a guardian.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1971No grade recorded
« لَا تُنْكَحُ النِّسَاءُ إِلَّا مِنَ الْأَكْفَاءِ، وَلَا يُزَوِّجُهُنَّ إِلَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ، وَلَا مَهْرَ دُونَ عَشَرَةِ دَرَاهِمَ
✧ Women should not be married except to suitable matches (kuf'), and only guardians may marry them off, and there is no dowry less than ten dirhams.
al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1972No grade recorded
إِنَّ لِي ابْنَةً وَأَدْتُهَا فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ، وَإِنِّي اسْتَخْرَجْتُهَا فَأَسْلَمَتْ فَأَصَابَتْ حَدًّا، فَعَمَدَتْ إِلَى الشَّفْرَةِ فَذَبَحَتْ نَفْسَهَا، فَأَدْرَكْتُهَا وَقَدْ قَطَعَتْ بَعْضَ أَوْدَاجِهَا، فَدَاوَيْتُهَا فَبَرَأَتْ، ثُمَّ إِنَّهَا نَسَكَتْ، فَأَقْبَلَتْ عَلَى الْقُرْآنِ. وَإِنَّهَا تُخْطَبُ إِلَيَّ، فَتَمْنَعُنِي مِنْ شَأْنِهَا الَّذِي كَانَ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ: « تَعْمِدُ إِلَى سَتْرٍ سَتَرَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى فَتَكْشِفُهُ ؟ لَئِنْ بَلَغَنِي أَنَّكَ ذَكَرْتَ مِنْ شَأْنِهَا شَيْئًا لَأَجْعَلَنَّكَ نَكَالًا لِأَهْلِ الْأَمْصَارِ، بَلْ أَنْكِحْهَا نِكَاحَ الْعَفِيفَةِ الْمُسْلِمَةِ
✧ A man said to Umar ؓ: 'I have a daughter whom I buried alive in the Jahiliyyah, and I brought her out and she became Muslim. Then she committed a sin punishable by a hadd, so she took a knife and slaughtered herself. I reached her after she had cut some of her jugular veins, so I treated her and she recovered. Then she became devout and devoted herself to the Quran. Now she is being proposed to, but what happened to her prevents me [from mentioning it].' Umar ؓ said: 'Would you intend to uncover a cover that Allah Almighty has concealed? If I learn that you mention anything of her affair, I will make you an example for the people of the cities. Rather, marry her off as a chaste Muslim woman.'