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al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1887

✧ Consulting women about themselves and the father's execution of the marriage even if he did not consult her

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الْحَارِثُ: حَدَّثَنَا يُونُسُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْمُؤَدِّبُ، ثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ أَبِي حَبِيبٍ، عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ صَالِحٍ، وَاسْمُهُ الَّذِي يُعْرَفُ بِهِ نُعَيْمُ بْنُ النَّحَّامِ، وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ سَمَّاهُ صَالِحًا، أَنَّهُ أَخْبَرَهُ

أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ عُمَرَ ؓ قَالَ لِعُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ: اخْطُبْ عَلَيَّ ابْنَةَ صَالِحٍ ! فَقَالَ: لَهُ يَتَامَى، وَلَمْ يَكُنْ لِيُؤْثِرَنَا عَلَيْهِمْ. فَانْطَلَقَ عَبْدُ اللهِ إِلَى عَمِّهِ زَيْدِ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، لِيَخْطُبَ عَلَيْهِ، فَانْطَلَقَ بِهِ إِلَى صَالِحٍ، فَقَالَ: إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ عُمَرَ أَرْسَلَنِي إِلَيْكَ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكَ، فَقَالَ: لِي يَتَامَى، وَلَمْ أَكُنْ لِأُتْرِبَ لَحْمِي وَأَرْفَعَ لَحْمَكُمْ ! إِنِّي أُشْهِدُكُمْ أَنِّي قَدْ أَنْكَحْتُهَا فُلَانًا. وَكَانَ هَوَى أُمِّهَا إِلَى عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ ؓ، فَأَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ، خَطَبَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ ابْنَتِي، فَأَنْكَحَهَا أَبُوهَا يَتِيمًا فِي حِجْرِهِ وَلَمْ يُؤَامِرْهَا، فَأَرْسَلَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِلَى صَالِحٍ فَقَالَ: « أَنْكَحْتَ ابْنَتَكَ، وَلَمْ تُؤَامِرْهَا ؟ » قَالَ: نَعَمْ. فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: « أَشِيرُوا عَلَى النِّسَاءِ فِي أَنْفُسِهِنَّ »، مَرَّتَيْنِ. فَقَالَ صَالِحٌ: إِنَّمَا فَعَلْتُ هَذَا لِمَا يُصْدِقُهَا ابْنُ عُمَرَ، فَإِنَّ لَهَا مِنْ مَالِي مِثْلَ مَا أَعْطَاهَا

Translation

Chain of narrators
  1. Yūnus b. Muḥammad al-Muʾaddib
  2. al-Layth
  3. Yazīd b. Abū Ḥabīb
  4. Ibrāhīm b. Ṣāliḥ Wāsmuh al--Adhī Yuʿraf Bih Nuʿaym b. al-Naḥḥām And Kān Rasūl Allāh ﷺ Sammāh Ṣāliḥ

✧ ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar ؓ said to ʿUmar b. al-Khaṭṭāb ؓ: "Seek for me the daughter of Ṣāliḥ in marriage." He said: "He has orphans, and he would not prefer us over them." So ʿAbd Allah went to his paternal uncle Zayd b. al-Khaṭṭāb to seek her hand for him. He took him to Ṣāliḥ and said: "ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar sent me to you to ask for your daughter's hand." He said: "I have orphans, and I would not let my own flesh suffer while raising yours in status. I call you to witness that I have married her to so-and-so." Her mother's inclination was towards ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar ؓ, so she came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, ʿAbd Allah b. ʿUmar proposed to my daughter, but her father married her to an orphan under his care without consulting her." So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent for Ṣāliḥ and said: "You married off your daughter without consulting her?" He said: "Yes." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Consult women about themselves," twice. Then Ṣāliḥ said: "I only did this because of what Ibn ʿUmar would give her as a dowry, for she has from my wealth the like of what he would give her."

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