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العربية

al-Matalib al-'Aliyah 1911

✧ The Company of Women

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إِسْحَاقُ: قُلْتُ لِأَبِي أُسَامَةَ: أَحَدَّثَكُمْ أَبُو طَلْقِ بْنُ حَنْظَلَةَ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ أَوْسِ بْنِ ثُرَيْبٍ الثَّعْلَبِيِّ قَالَ:

أَكْرَيْتُ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ جَرِيرٍ فِي الْحَجِّ، فَقَدِمَ عَلَى عُمَرَ ؓ، فَسَأَلَهُ عَنْ أَشْيَاءَ، فَكَانَ مِمَّا سَاءَلَهُ قَالَ: كَيْفَ وَجَدْتَ نِسَاءَكَ ؟ قَالَ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، مَا أَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ أُقَبِّلَ امْرَأَةً مِنْهُنَّ فِي غَيْرِ يَوْمِهَا إِلَّا اتَّهَمَتْنِي، وَمَا خَرَجْتُ لِحَاجَةٍ إِلَّا قَالَتْ: كُنْتَ عِنْدَ فُلَانَةَ، كُنْتَ عِنْدَ فُلَانَةَ. فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ: إِنَّ كَثِيرًا مِنْهُنَّ لَا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ، وَلَا يُؤْمِنُ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ، وَلَعَلَّ أَحَدًا مَا يَكُونُ فِي حَاجَةِ بَعْضِهِنَّ، أَوْ يَأْتِي السُّوقَ فَيَشْتَرِي الْحَاجَةَ لِبَعْضِهِنَّ فَتَتَّهِمُهُ. فَقَالَ ابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ ؓ: يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، أَمَا عَلِمْتَ أَنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ خَلِيلَ الرَّحْمَنِ شَكَا إِلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى ذَرَبًا فِي خُلُقِ سَارَةَ، فَقَالَ لَهُ: « إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ كَالضِّلْعِ ; إِنْ تَرَكْتَهَا اعْوَجَّتْ، وَإِنْ قَوَّمْتَهَا كُسِرَتْ ; فَاسْتَمْتِعْ بِهَا عَلَى مَا فِيهَا ». فَضَرَبَ عُمَرُ ؓ بَيْنَ كَتِفَيِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ ؓ، وَقَالَ: لَقَدْ جَعَلَ اللهُ فِي قَلْبِكَ يَا ابْنَ مَسْعُودٍ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ غَيْرَ قَلِيلٍ ؟

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Chain of narrators
  1. Liʾabī Usāmah Aḥaddathakum Abū Ṭalq b. Ḥanẓalah
  2. my father
  3. Aws b. Thurayb al-Thaʿlabī

✧ I rented out Abd Allah b. Jarir for the Hajj. He came to Umar ؓ, and Umar asked him about things. Among what he asked was: "How did you find your wives?" He said, "O Commander of the Faithful, I cannot kiss any of them on a day that is not her day without her accusing me, and I do not go out for an errand without her saying, 'You were with so-and-so, you were with so-and-so.'" Umar ؓ said, "Many of them do not believe in Allah and do not trust the believers. Perhaps one of them is in need, or goes to the market to buy something for one of them, and she accuses him." Ibn Mas'ud ؓ said, "O Commander of the Faithful, did you not know that Ibrahim, the Friend of the Merciful, complained to Allah Almighty about sharpness in Sarah's character, and He said to him, 'The woman is like a rib; if you leave her, she remains crooked, and if you straighten her, she breaks. So enjoy her despite her faults.'" Umar ؓ struck Ibn Mas'ud ؓ between his shoulders and said, "Allah has placed in your heart, O Ibn Mas'ud, no small amount of knowledge."

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