41. Gestures
أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَنَسَ بْنَ مَالِكٍ يَقُولُ كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى أُمِّ حَرَامِ ابْنَةِ مِلْحَانَ فَتُطْعِمُهُ وَكَانَتْ تَحْتَ عُبَادَةَ بْنِ الصَّامِتِ فَأَطْعَمَتْهُ وَجَعَلَتْ تَفْلِي رَأْسَهُ فَنَامَ ثُمَّ اسْتَيْقَظَ يَضْحَكُ
✧ He heard Anas b. Mālik say: "The Prophet ﷺ used to visit Umm Ḥarām bt. Milḥān, and she would feed him. She was married to ʿUbādah b. al-Ṣāmit. She fed him and began to delouse his head. He fell asleep, then woke up laughing."
عَنْ قَيْسِ بْنِ عَاصِمٍ السَّعْدِيِّ قَالَ أَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ هَذَا سَيِّدُ أَهْلِ الْوَبَرِ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ مَا الْمَالُ الَّذِي لَيْسَ عَلَيَّ فِيهِ تَبِعَةٌ مِنْ طَالِبٍ وَلاَ مِنْ ضَيْفٍ؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ نِعْمَ الْمَالُ أَرْبَعُونَ وَالأَكْثَرُ سِتُّونَ وَوَيْلٌ لأَصْحَابِ الْمِئِينَ إِلاَّ مَنْ أَعْطَى الْكَرِيمَةَ وَمَنَحَالْغَزِيرَةَ وَنَحَرَ السَّمِينَةَ فَأَكَلَ وَأَطْعَمَ الْقَانِعَ وَالْمُعْتَرَّ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ مَا أَكْرَمُ هَذِهِ الأَخْلاَقِ لاَ يُحَلُّ بِوَادٍ أَنَا فِيهِ مِنْ كَثْرَةِ نَعَمِي؟ فَقَالَ كَيْفَ تَصْنَعُ بِالْعَطِيَّةِ؟ قُلْتُ أُعْطِي الْبِكْرَ وَأُعْطِي النَّابَ قَالَ كَيْفَ تَصْنَعُ فِي الْمَنِيحَةِ؟ قَالَ إِنِّي لَأَمْنَحُ النَّاقَةَ قَالَ كَيْفَ تَصْنَعُ فِي الطَّرُوقَةِ؟ قَالَ يَغْدُو النَّاسُ بِحِبَالِهِمْ وَلاَ يُوزَعُ رَجُلٌ مِنْ جَمَلٍ يَخْتَطِمُهُ فَيُمْسِكُهُ مَا بَدَا لَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ هُوَ يَرُدَّهُ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَمَالُكَ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْكَ أَمْ مَالُ مَوَالِيكَ؟ قَالَ مَالِي قَالَ فَإِنَّمَا لَكَ مِنْ مَالِكَ مَا أَكَلْتَ فَأَفْنَيْتَ أَوْ أَعْطَيْتَ فَأَمْضَيْتَ وَسَائِرُهُ لِمَوَالِيكَ فَقُلْتُ لاَ جَرَمَ لَئِنْ رَجَعْتُ لَأُقِلَّنَّ عَدَدَهَا فَلَمَّا حَضَرَهُ الْمَوْتُ جَمَعَ بَنِيهِ فَقَالَ يَا بَنِيَّ خُذُوا عَنِّي فَإِنَّكُمْ لَنْ تَأْخُذُوا عَنْ أَحَدٍ هُوَ أَنْصَحُ لَكُمْ مِنِّي لاَ تَنُوحُوا عَلَيَّ فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ لَمْ يُنَحْ عَلَيْهِ وَقَدْ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يَنْهَى عَنِ النِّيَاحَةِ وَكَفِّنُونِي فِي ثِيَابِي الَّتِي كُنْتُ أُصَلِّي فِيهَا وَسَوِّدُوا أَكَابِرَكُمْ فَإِنَّكُمْ إِذَا سَوَّدْتُمْ أَكَابِرَكُمْ لَمْ يَزَلْ لأَبِيكُمْ فِيكُمْ خَلِيفَةٌ وَإِذَا سَوَّدْتُمْ أَصَاغِرَكُمْ هَانَ أَكَابِرُكُمْ عَلَى النَّاسِ وزهدوا فيكم وَأَصْلِحُوا عَيْشَكُمْ فَإِنَّ فِيهِ غِنًى عَنْ طَلَبِ النَّاسِ وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَالْمَسْأَلَةَ فَإِنَّهَا آخِرُ كَسْبِ الْمَرْءِ وَإِذَا دَفَنْتُمُونِي فَسَوُّوا عَلَيَّ قَبْرِي فَإِنَّهُ كَانَ يَكُونُ شَيْءٌ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ هَذَا الْحَيِّ مِنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ وَائِلٍ خُمَاشَاتٌ فَلاَ آمَنُ سَفِيهًا أَنْ يَأْتِيَ أَمْرًا يُدْخِلُ عَلَيْكُمْ عَيْبًا فِي دِينِكُمْ
✧ From Qays b. ʿĀṣim al-Saʿdī who said: I came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he said, "This is the chief of the desert dwellers." I said, "O Messenger of Allah, what wealth is there in which I bear no liability from a seeker or a guest?" The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The best wealth is forty, and the most is sixty. Woe to owners of hundreds, except he who gives the noble (camel), lends the milch one, and slaughters the fat one, then eats and feeds the contented and the beggar." I said, "O Messenger of Allah, how noble are these qualities! Will no one settle in a valley where I am because of the abundance of my livestock?" He said, "How do you deal with giving?" I said, "I give the firstborn and I give the old." He said, "How do you deal with the loan of a she-camel for milking?" I said, "I lend the she-camel." He said, "How do you deal with the stud camel?" I said, "People come with their ropes, and no man is prevented from a camel he takes and keeps as long as it seems fit to him, until he himself returns it." Then the Prophet ﷺ said, "Is your wealth dearer to you or the wealth of your heirs?" I said, "My wealth." He said, "Indeed, what is yours of your wealth is what you eat and consume, or what you give and spend. The rest belongs to your heirs." I said, "No doubt, if I return, I will reduce their number." When death came to him, he gathered his sons and said, "O my sons, take from me, for you will never take from anyone more sincere to you than I. Do not wail over me, for the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was not wailed over. I heard the Prophet ﷺ forbid wailing. Shroud me in my clothes in which I used to pray, and give authority to your elders. For if you give authority to your elders, your father will always have a successor among you. If you give authority to your young ones, your elders will be humiliated before people, and they will become indifferent to you. Keep your livelihood in good order, for in it is independence from asking people. Beware of begging, for it is the last earning of a man. When you bury me, level my grave. For there was something between me and this tribe of Bakr b. Wāʾil, small disputes, and I am not safe from a fool who might do something that would bring disgrace upon you in your religion."
عَنْ أَبِي الْعَالِيَةِ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ الصَّامِتِ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ خَلِيلِي أَبَا ذَرٍّ فَقَالَ أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ بِوَضُوءٍ فَحَرَّكَ رَأْسَهُ وَعَضَّ عَلَى شَفَتَيْهِ قُلْتُ بِأَبِي أَنْتَ وَأُمِّي آذَيْتُكَ؟ قَالَ لاَ وَلَكِنَّكَ تُدْرِكُ أُمَرَاءَ أَوْ أَئِمَّةً يُؤَخِّرُونَ الصَّلاَةَ لِوَقْتِهَا قُلْتُ فَمَا تَأْمُرُنِي؟ قَالَ صَلِّ الصَّلاَةَ لِوَقْتِهَا فَإِنْ أَدْرَكْتَ مَعَهُمْ فَصَلِّهِ وَلاَ تَقُولَنَّ صَلَّيْتُ فَلاَ أُصَلِّي
✧ From Abū al-ʿĀliyah who said: I asked ʿAbdullāh b. al-Ṣāmit: He said: I asked my close friend Abū Dharr, and he said: I came to the Prophet ﷺ with water for ablution. He shook his head and bit his lip. I said, "By my father and mother, did I harm you?" He said, "No, but you will live to see rulers or leaders who delay the prayer beyond its time." I said, "What do you command me?" He said, "Pray the prayer at its time. If you catch it with them, then pray, and do not say, 'I have prayed, so I will not pray.'"
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ طَرَقَهُ وَفَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ أَلاَ تُصَلُّونَ؟ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنَّمَا أَنْفُسُنَا عِنْدَ اللهِ فَإِذَا شَاءَ أَنْ يَبْعَثَنَا بَعَثَنَا فَانْصَرَفَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ وَلَمْ يَرْجِعْ إِلَيَّ شَيْئًا ثُمَّ سَمِعْتُ وَهُوَ مُدْبِرٌ يَضْرِبُ فَخِذَهُ يَقُولُ {وَكَانَ الإِنْسَانُ أَكْثَرَ شَيْءٍ جَدَلاً}
'Ali reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ knocked at the door of 'Ali and Fatima, the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ and said, "Don't you pray?" 'Ali said, "I said, 'Messenger of Allah, our spirits are with Allah. When He wishes to wake us up, we will make up.' The Prophet ﷺ left without saying anything to me. Then I heard him strike him thigh after his back was turned. He said, 'More than anything else, man is argumentative.' (18:54)"
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ رَأَيْتُهُ يَضْرِبُ جَبْهَتَهُ بِيَدِهِ وَيَقُولُ يَا أَهْلَ الْعِرَاقِ أَتَزْعُمُونَ أَنِّي أَكْذِبُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ أَيَكُونُ لَكُمُ الْمَهْنَأُ وَعَلَيَّ الْمَأْثَمُ؟ أَشْهَدُ لَسَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ إِذَا انْقَطَعَ شِسْعُ نَعْلِ أَحَدِكُمْ فَلاَ يَمْشِي فِي نَعْلِهِ الأُخْرَى حَتَّى يُصْلِحَهُ
Abu Razin said about Abu Hurayra, "I saw him striking his brow with his hand whole saying, 'People of Iraq, do you claim that I lie against the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace? Do you have enjoyment while I have the wrong action? I testify that I heard the, Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, "When one of you breaks his sandal-strap, he should not walk in his other sandal until it is mended."'"
عَنْ أَبِي الْعَالِيَةِ الْبَرَاءِ قَالَ مَرَّ بِي عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ الصَّامِتِ فَأَلْقَيْتُ لَهُ كُرْسِيًّا فَجَلَسَ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ إِنَّ ابْنَ زِيَادٍ قَدْ أَخَّرَ الصَّلاَةَ فَمَا تَأْمُرُ؟ فَضَرَبَ فَخِذِي ضَرْبَةً أَحْسَبُهُ قَالَ حَتَّى أَثَّرَ فِيهَا ثُمَّ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ أَبَا ذَرٍّ كَمَا سَأَلْتَنِي فَضَرَبَ فَخِذِي كَمَا ضَرَبْتُ فَخِذَكَ فَقَالَ صَلِّ الصَّلاَةَ لِوَقْتِهَا فَإِنْ أَدْرَكْتَ مَعَهُمْ فَصَلِّ وَلاَ تَقُلْ قَدْ صَلَّيْتُ فلا أُصَلِّي
✧ From Abū al-ʿĀliyah al-Barāʾ who said: ʿAbdullāh b. al-Ṣāmit passed by me, so I placed a chair for him and he sat. I said to him, "Ibn Ziyād has delayed the prayer. What do you command?" He struck my thigh a blow that I think he said left a mark on it, then said, "I asked Abū Dharr as you asked me, and he struck my thigh as I struck your thigh, then said: 'Pray the prayer at its time. If you catch it with them, then pray, and do not say: I have prayed, so I will not pray.'"
أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ انْطَلَقَ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فِي رَهْطٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ قِبَلَ ابْنِ صَيَّادٍ حَتَّى وَجَدُوهُ يَلْعَبُ مَعَ الْغِلْمَانِ فِي أُطُمِ بَنِي مَغَالَةَ وَقَدْ قَارَبَ ابْنُ صَيَّادٍ يَوْمَئِذٍ الْحُلُمَ فَلَمْ يَشْعُرْ حَتَّى ضَرَبَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ ظَهْرَهُ بِيَدِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَتَشْهَدُ أَنِّي رَسُولُ اللهِ؟ فَنَظَرَ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ أَشْهَدُ أَنَّكَ رَسُولُ الأُمِّيِّينَ قَالَ ابْنُ صَيَّادٍ فَتَشْهَدُ أَنِّي رَسُولُ اللهِ؟ فَرَصَّهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ ثُمَّ قَالَ آمَنْتُ بِاللَّهِ وَبِرَسُولِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ لِابْنِ صَيَّادٍ مَاذَا تَرَى؟ فَقَالَ ابْنُ صَيَّادٍ يَأْتِينِي صَادِقٌ وَكَاذِبٌ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ خُلِّطَ عَلَيْكَ الأَمْرُ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِنِّي خَبَّأْتُ لَكَ خَبِيئًا قَالَ هُوَ الدُّخُّ قَالَ اخْسَأْ فَلَمْ تَعْدُ قَدْرَكَ قَالَ عُمَرُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَتَأْذَنُ لِي فِيهِ أَنْ أَضْرِبَ عُنُقَهُ؟ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِنْ يَكُ هُوَ لاَ تُسَلَّطُ عَلَيْهِ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُ هُوَ فَلاَ خَيْرَ لَكَ فِي قَتْلِهِ
✧ He informed him that ʿUmar b. al-Khaṭṭāb went with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ in a group of his companions toward Ibn Ṣayyād until they found him playing with boys in the fortress of Banū Maghālah. Ibn Ṣayyād had at that time nearly reached puberty. He did not notice until the Prophet ﷺ struck his back with his hand, then said, "Do you testify that I am the Messenger of Allah?" He looked at him and said, "I testify that you are the Messenger of the unlettered ones." Ibn Ṣayyād said, "Do you testify that I am the Messenger of Allah?" The Prophet ﷺ squeezed him, then said, "I believe in Allah and His Messenger." Then he said to Ibn Ṣayyād, "What do you see?" Ibn Ṣayyād said, "A truthful one and a liar come to me." The Prophet ﷺ said, "The matter is confused for you." The Prophet ﷺ said, "I have hidden something for you." He said, "It is dukhkh (smoke)." He said, "Be off! You will not exceed your measure." ʿUmar said, "O Messenger of Allah, will you permit me to strike his neck?" The Prophet ﷺ said, "If he is the one, you will not have power over him. If he is not the one, there is no good for you in killing him."
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ جُنُبًا يَصُبُّ عَلَى رَأْسِهِ ثَلاَثَ حَفَنَاتٍ مِنْ مَاءٍ قَالَ الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللهِ إِنَّ شَعْرِي أَكْثَرُ مِنْ ذَاكَ قَالَ وَضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ عَلَى فَخِذِ الْحَسَنِ فَقَالَ يَا ابْنَ أَخِي كَانَ شَعْرُ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ شَعْرِكَ وَأَطْيَبَ
✧ From Jābir who said: When the Prophet ﷺ was in a state of major ritual impurity, he would pour three handfuls of water over his head. Al-Ḥasan b. Muḥammad said, "Abū ʿAbdullāh, my hair is thicker than that." He said, and he struck al-Ḥasan's thigh with his hand, "O son of my brother, the Prophet's ﷺ hair was thicker than your hair and more fragrant."
عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ صُرِعَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مِنْ فَرَسٍ بِالْمَدِينَةِ عَلَى جِذْعِ نَخْلَةٍ فَانْفَكَّتْ قَدَمُهُ فَكُنَّا نَعُودُهُ فِي مَشْرُبَةٍ لِعَائِشَةَ ؓ فَأَتَيْنَاهُ وَهُوَ يُصَلِّي قَاعِدًا فَصَلَّيْنَا قِيَامًا ثُمَّ أَتَيْنَاهُ مَرَّةً أُخْرَى وَهُوَ يُصَلِّي الْمَكْتُوبَةَ قَاعِدًا فَصَلَّيْنَا خَلْفَهُ قِيَامًا فَأَوْمَأَ إِلَيْنَا أَنِ اقْعُدُوا فَلَمَّا قَضَى الصَّلاَةَ قَالَ إِذَا صَلَّى الإِمَامُ قَاعِدًا فَصَلُّوا قُعُودًا وَإِذَا صَلَّى قَائِمًا فَصَلُّوا قِيَامًا وَلاَ تَقُومُوا وَالإِمَامُ قَاعِدٌ كَمَا تَفْعَلُ فَارِسُ بِعُظَمَائِهِمْ
Jabir said, "In Madina, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was thrown from a horse onto a palm trunk and dislocated his foot. We used to visit him in the room of 'A'isha. We came upon him while he was praying sitting down and we prayed standing behind him. He indicates to us that we should sit down. When he finished the prayer, he said, 'When the Imam prays sitting, then pray sitting. When he prays standing, then pray standing. Do not stand while the imam is sitting as the Persians do with their great men.'"
قَالَ وَوُلِدَ لِفُلاَنٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ غُلامٌ فَسَمَّاهُ مُحَمَّدًا فَقَالَتِ الأنْصَارُ لا نُكَنِّيكَ بِرَسُولِ اللهِ حَتَّى قَعَدْنَا فِي الطَّرِيقِ نَسْأَلُهُ عَنِ السَّاعَةِ فَقَالَ جِئْتُمُونِي تَسْأَلُونِي عَنِ السَّاعَةِ؟ قُلْنَا نَعَمْ قَالَ مَا مِنْ نَفْسٍ مَنْفُوسَةٍ يَأْتِي عَلَيْهَا مِئَةُ سَنَةٍ قُلْنَا وُلِدَ لِفُلاَنٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ غُلاَمٌ فَسَمَّاهُ مُحَمَّدًا فَقَالَتِ الأنْصَارُ لا نُكَنِّيكَ بِرَسُولِ اللهِ قَالَ أَحْسَنَتِ الأَنْصَارُ سَمُّوا بِاسْمِي ولا تَكْتَنُوا بِكُنْيَتِي
✧ He said: A boy was born to a certain man of the Anṣār, and he named him Muḥammad. The Anṣār said, "We will not give you the kunyah of the Messenger of Allah until we sit in the road and ask him about the Hour." He said, "You have come to me asking me about the Hour?" We said, "Yes." He said, "There is no soul that will live a hundred years." We said, "A boy was born to a certain man of the Anṣār, and he named him Muḥammad. The Anṣār said, 'We will not give you the kunyah of the Messenger of Allah.'" He said, "The Anṣār have done well. Use my name, but do not use my kunyah."
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مَرَّ فِي السُّوقِ دَاخِلاً مِنْ بَعْضِ الْعَالِيَةِ وَالنَّاسُ كَنَفَيْهِ فَمَرَّ بِجَدْيٍ أَسَكَّ فَتَنَاوَلَهُ فَأَخَذَ بِأُذُنِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَيُّكُمْ يُحِبُّ أَنَّ هَذَا لَهُ بِدِرْهَمٍ؟ فَقَالُوا مَا نُحِبُّ أَنَّهُ لَنَا بِشَيْءٍ وَمَا نَصْنَعُ بِهِ؟ قَالَ أَتُحِبُّونَ أَنَّهُ لَكُمْ؟ قَالُوا لاَ قَالَ ذَلِكَ لَهُمْ ثَلاَثًا فَقَالُوا لاَ وَاللَّهِ لَوْ كَانَ حَيًّا لَكَانَ عَيْبًا فِيهِ أَنَّهُ أَسَكُّ وَالأَسَكُّ الَّذِي لَيْسَ لَهُ أُذُنَانِ فَكَيْفَ وَهُوَ مَيِّتٌ؟ قَالَ فَوَاللَّهِ لَلدُّنْيَا أَهْوَنُ عَلَى اللهِ مَنْ هَذَا عَلَيْكُمْ
✧ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ passed through the market, entering from some part of al-ʿĀliyah, with people on both sides of him. He passed by a dead kid with short ears. He reached for it, took hold of its ear, then said, "Which of you would like this for a dirham?" They said, "We would not like it for anything. What would we do with it?" He said, "Would you like it to be yours?" They said, "No." He said that to them three times, and they said, "No, by Allah. Even if it were alive, it would have a defect in that it has short ears; the short-eared one is the one whose ears are cut off. How about when it is dead?" He said, "By Allah, the world is more insignificant to Allah than this is to you."
سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يَقُولُ مَنْ تَعَزَّى بِعَزَاءِ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ فَأَعِضُّوهُ وَلا تَكْنُوهُ
✧ I heard the Prophet ﷺ say: "Whoever claims relationship with those of the pre-Islamic era (by boasting of his ancestors), then tell him to bite his (father's) penis, and do not use a kunyah (i.e., do not speak indirectly)."
فَقَالَ لَهُ رَجُلٌ اذْكُرْ أَحَبَّ النَّاسِ إِلَيْكَ فَقَالَ يَا مُحَمَّدُ
✧ A man said to him, "Mention the most beloved of people to you." He said, "O Muḥammad."