Jami' al-Saghir / Jam' al-Jawami' (al-Suyuti) 2-2935b
"عن طلحة بن عبيد اللَّه قال: خَطبَ عمرُ بن الِخطاب أُمَّ أَبان بنت عُتبة بن ربيعة بن عبد شمس فأبتْهُ، فقيل لها: ولمَ؟ قالت: إن دخلَ دخل ببأس، وإن خرج خرج ببأسٍ، قد داخله أمرٌ أذهله عن أمر دنياهُ، كأنه ينظر إلى ربه بعينه؛ ثم خطبها الزبيرُ بن العوام فأبتْهُ، فقيل لها: ولم؟ قالت: ليس لزوجته منه إلا شارةٌ في قراملها، ثم خطبها علىٌّ فَأبتْ، فقيل لها: ولم؟ قالت: ليس لزوجته منه إلا قضاءُ حاجته، ويقولُ: كُنْتُ وكنتُ وكانَ وكانَ؛ ثم خطبها طلحة فقالت: زوجى حقًا، قالوا: وكيف ذلك؟ قالت: إنى عارفةٌ بِخلائقه، إن دخلَ دخلَ ضحاكًا، وإن خرجَ خرجَ بسامًا، إن سألتُ أعْطى، وأن سكتُّ ابتدأَ، وإن عملتُ شكَر، وإن أذنبتُ غَفَر؛ فلما أن ابْتَنى بها قال على: يا أبا محمد! إن أذنتَ لى أن أكلم أم أبان! قال: كلمها، فأخذ سجف الحجلة ثم قال: السلام عليك يا عزيزة نفسها! قالت: وعليك السلام، قال: خطبك أمير المؤمنين، (وسيد المرسلين) () فأبيته، قالت: كان ذلك، قال: وخطبك الزبير ابن عمة رسول اللَّه ﷺ وأحد حواريه فأبيته، قالت: وقد كان ذلك، قال: وخطبتك أنا وقرابتى لرسول اللَّه ﷺ قالت: قد كان ذلك، قال: أما واللَّه! لو تزوجت أحسننا وجهًا، وأسمحنا كفًا يعطى هكذا وهكذا".
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Chain of narrators
- Ṭlḥh b. ʿByd Allāh
- Khaṭb ʿMr b. al-Ikhṭāb Um Abān b.t ʿUtbh b. Rbyʿh b. ʿBd Shms Fʾbth Fqyl Lhā Wlm Qālt n Dkhl Dkhl Bbʾs Wʾn Khrj Khrj Bbʾs
Machine translation, not reviewed
"From Talhah ibn 'Ubayd Allah who said: 'Umar ibn al-Khattab proposed to Umm Aban bint 'Utbah ibn Rabi'ah ibn 'Abd Shams, and she refused him. It was said to her: 'Why?' She said: 'If he enters, he enters with harshness, and if he leaves, he leaves with harshness. Something has overcome him that has distracted him from the matter of his worldly life, as if he sees his Lord with his own eye.' Then al-Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam proposed to her and she refused him. It was said to her: 'Why?' She said: 'His wife has from him nothing but a mark on her cheek.' Then 'Ali proposed to her and she refused. It was said to her: 'Why?' She said: 'His wife has from him nothing but the fulfillment of his need, and he says: I was, and I was, and it was and it was.' Then Talhah proposed to her, and she said: 'My husband, truly.' They said: 'And how is that?' She said: 'I know his dispositions. If he enters, he enters laughing, and if he leaves, he leaves smiling. If I ask, he gives, and if I am silent, he begins. If I do good, he thanks me, and if I sin, he forgives.' When he had consummated the marriage with her, 'Ali said: 'O Abu Muhammad! If you permit me, I will speak to Umm Aban!' He said: 'Speak to her.' He took hold of the curtain of the canopy and said: 'Peace be upon you, O one who is precious in herself!' She said: 'And upon you be peace.' He said: 'The Commander of the Believers proposed to you (and the master of the messengers) and you refused him.' She said: 'That happened.' He said: 'And al-Zubayr, the son of the aunt of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and one of his disciples, proposed to you and you refused him.' She said: 'That too has happened.' He said: 'And I proposed to you, and I am a relative of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.' She said: 'That too has happened.' He said: 'By Allah! If you had married the most handsome of us and the most generous of hand, who gives like this and like this.'"
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[كر] ابن عساكر في تاريخه
machine translation[Kar] Ibn ʿAsākir, in his Tārīkh.
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