Sahih Ibn Hibban 4268a

Translation

✧ I was always eager to ask 'Umar b. al-Khattab about the two women among the wives of the Prophet ﷺ about whom Allah said, {If you two repent to Allah, then your hearts have deviated} until 'Umar performed Hajj and I performed Hajj with him. When we were on part of the road, he turned aside to perform ablution, and I turned aside with him with the water vessel. He went to relieve himself, then came to me, and I poured water on his hands, and he performed ablution. I said, "O Commander of the Faithful, who are the two women among the wives of the Prophet ﷺ about whom Allah said, {If you two repent to Allah, then your hearts have deviated}?" 'Umar said, "How amazing you are, O Ibn 'Abbas!" Then he said, "They are 'A'ishah and Hafsah." Then he began to narrate the hadith, saying: We, the people of Quraysh, were a people who dominated women, but when we came to Madinah we found a people whose women dominated them, so our women began to learn from their women. My dwelling was among the Banu Umayyah b. Zayd in al-'Awali. He said: One day I became angry with my wife, and she talked back to me. I disapproved of her talking back to me, and she said, "What do you disapprove of my talking back to you? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet ﷺ talk back to him, and one of them forsakes him for a day until night." He said: So I went and entered upon Hafsah and said, "Do you talk back to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?" She said, "Yes, and one of us forsakes him for a day until night." He said: I said, "You have said it. Whoever does that among you is disappointed and loses. Does one of you feel secure that Allah will be angry with her because of the anger of His Messenger ﷺ? Then she is ruined. Do not talk back to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and do not ask him for anything, but ask me whatever you want. And let not your neighbor deceive you, if she is more beautiful and more beloved to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ than you," meaning 'A'ishah. He said: I had a neighbor from the Ansar, and we used to take turns going down to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He would go down one day and I would go down one day, and he would bring me the news of revelation and other things, and I would go down and bring him the like of that. We used to talk that Ghassan was shoeing horses to raid us. He said: One day my companion went down, then he came to me and knocked on my door, then called me, and I went out to him. He said, "A great matter has occurred." I said, "What? Has Ghassan come?" He said, "No, but greater than that and longer. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ has divorced his wives." I said, "Hafsah is disappointed and loses. I had thought this would happen." When I prayed the morning prayer, I tightened my clothes, then went down and entered upon Hafsah, and she was crying. I said, "Has the Messenger of Allah ﷺ divorced you?" She said, "I do not know. He is there, secluded in this upper room." He said: So I went to a black slave of his and said, "Ask permission for 'Umar." The slave entered, then came out to me and said, "I mentioned you to him, but he said nothing." So I went until I came to the mosque, and there were people sitting around the pulpit, some of them crying to one another. He said: I sat for a little, then what I felt overcame me, so I went to the slave and said, "Ask permission for 'Umar." He entered, then came out to me and said, "I mentioned you to him, but he remained silent." So I returned and sat by the pulpit, then what I felt overcame me, so I went to the slave and said, "Ask permission for 'Umar." He entered, then came out to me and said, "I mentioned you to him, but he remained silent." So I turned to leave, and the slave called me and said, "Enter, for he has given you permission." So I entered and greeted the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he was reclining on a sand bed that had left marks on his side. I said, "O Messenger of Allah, have you divorced your wives?" He said: He raised his head to me and said, "No." I said, "Allah is Most Great. If you had seen us, O Messenger of Allah, we the people of Quraysh were a people who dominated women, but when we came to Madinah we found a people whose women dominated them, so our women began to learn from their women. One day I became angry with my wife, and she talked back to me. I disapproved of that from her, and she said, 'Do you disapprove of my talking back to you? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet ﷺ talk back to him, and one of them forsakes him for a day until night.'" He said: I said, "Whoever does that among them is disappointed and loses. Does one of them feel secure that Allah will be angry with her because of the anger of His Messenger ﷺ? Then she is ruined." He said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ smiled. I said, "O Messenger of Allah, I entered upon Hafsah and said to her, 'Do not talk back to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and do not ask him for anything, but ask me whatever you want. And let not your neighbor deceive you, if she is more beautiful and more beloved to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ than you.'" He said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ smiled again. I said, "May I sit and be at ease, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "Yes." So I sat down, and I raised my head in the house. By Allah, I saw nothing in it that would attract the eye except three hides. I said, "O Messenger of Allah, supplicate Allah to expand for your ummah, for Allah has expanded for Persia and Rome, and they do not worship Him." He said: He sat up straight and said, "Are you in doubt, O Ibn al-Khattab? Those are a people whose good things were hastened for them in the life of this world." I said, "Ask forgiveness for me, O Messenger of Allah." And he had sworn not to enter upon them for a month because of his intense anger with them, until Allah admonished him.

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