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Sunan ad-Darimi 2223

✧ Prohibition of a man's proposal to his brother's proposal

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أَخْبَرَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ أََنْبَأَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَمْرٍو عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ عَنْ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ أَنَّهَا حَدَّثَتْهُ وَكَتَبَهُ مِنْهَا كِتَابًا

أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ تَحْتَ رَجُلٍ مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ مِنْ بَنِي مَخْزُومٍ فَطَلَّقَهَا الْبَتَّةَ فَأَرْسَلَتْ إِلَى أَهْلِهِ تَبْتَغِي مِنْهُمُ النَّفَقَةَ فَقَالُوا لَيْسَ لَكِ نَفَقَةٌ فَبَلَغَ ذَلِكَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ «لَيْسَ لَكِ نَفَقَةٌ وَعَلَيْكِ الْعِدَّةُ وَانْتَقِلِي إِلَى بَيْتِ أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ وَلَا تُفَوِّتِينَا بِنَفْسِكِ» ثُمَّ قَالَ «إِنَّ أُمَّ شَرِيكٍ امْرَأَةٌ يَدْخُلُ عَلَيْهَا إِخْوَانُهَا مِنَ الْمُهَاجِرِينَ وَلَكِنِ انْتَقِلِي إِلَى بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَإِنَّهُ رَجُلٌ أَعْمَى إِنْ وَضَعْتِ ثِيَابَكِ لَمْ يَرَ شَيْئًا وَلَا تُفَوِّتِينَا بِنَفْسِكِ» فَانْطَلَقَتْ إِلَى بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَلَمَّا حَلَّتْ ذَكَرَتْ أَنَّ مُعَاوِيَةَ وَأَبَا جَهْمٍ خَطَبَاهَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجُلٌ لَا مَالَ لَهُ وَأَمَّا أَبُو جَهْمٍ فَلَا يَضَعُ عَصَاهُ عَنْ عَاتِقِهِ فَأَيْنَ أَنْتَ مِنْ أُسَامَةَ؟» فَكَأَنَّ أَهْلَهَا كَرِهُوا ذَلِكَ فَقَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ لَا أَنْكِحُ إِلَّا الَّذِي قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَنَكَحَتْ أُسَامَةَ

Translation

Chain of narrators
  1. Yazīd b. Hārūn
  2. Muḥammad b. ʿAmr
  3. Abū Salamah
  4. Fāṭimah Bint Qays
  5. And Katabah Minhā Kitāb

✧ She was married to a man from Quraysh, from Banu Makhzum, and he divorced her with an irrevocable divorce. She sent to his family seeking maintenance, but they said, "You have no maintenance." That reached the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and he said, "You have no maintenance, but you must observe the waiting period. Move to the house of Umm Sharik, and do not let us miss your company." Then he said, "Umm Sharik is a woman whom her brothers from the Muhajirun visit. Instead, move to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man. If you take off your clothes, he will not see anything. And do not let us miss your company." So she went to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum. When her waiting period ended, she mentioned that Mu'awiya and Abu Jahm had proposed to her. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "As for Mu'awiya, he is a man with no wealth, and as for Abu Jahm, he does not put his stick down from his shoulder. What about Usama?" Her family seemed to dislike that, but she said, "By Allah, I will not marry anyone except the one the Messenger of Allah ﷺ mentioned." So she married Usama.

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